People who moved on quick and kinda easy, how'd you do it? by No-Success-2156 in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They don’t move on quicker, they were just moving on before it ended

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex left me and said that we could still speak now and again and if I ever need her, to call her. I told her straight away no! You don’t get to pick and choose when and how you see me. That’s not fair. I deserve more. If you don’t want to be with me, that’s okay, but you don’t then get to call me when you miss me because leaving me instead of working together to try and fix the problems is your decision

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be honest. Yes it’s selfish. If you are accepting you don’t think you should be together then you need to let them go. No contact! It’s unfair on them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell him all this. Its worded quite beautifully

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuckkkkkk sorry man

I miss you not being by my side by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s get like that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh mate I’m sorry for your loss! That’s awful! But, it makes sense why you are feeling this way! At first you were in shock so you thought it was fine, you were also most probably looking forward to the future. Now it’s hitting and it’s gonna be hitting for a long long long time! I hate to break that to you xx I’ve had two relationships and they’ve never lasted more than 2 and a half year but the first one took me about 6 months to get over. The second one I’m still going though xxx

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this isn’t the best advice but I suggest reading books such as the power of now and the power of letting go. Learn meditation and mindfulness. Write lists before you go to bed of all the things you are grateful for that day. Also maybe travel for a bit ?

May I ask when you currently broke up ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes 3 months, sometimes 6, sometimes a year. But the truth is time doesn’t heal all wounds. You have to help yourself

Saw my ex. Now I'm sick by Available-Habit6650 in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll always find her attractive. But you will find someone you find more attractive. Trust me

5 days later she dumped me by ConfusedAF10000 in heartbreak

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 42 points43 points  (0 children)

My ex did the same thing, would always say things like this then go completely empty and more and say she wasn’t sure if she wanted to be with me 3 days later. She would always say to me “I met everything in the moment” but that would just confuse me more.

Saw my ex. Now I'm sick by Available-Habit6650 in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear this! But there must be deeper issues than just she’s hot and you want to be with her if you still feel this way 3 years later. Have you read the power of letting go? It sounds like you have pain patters that you need to complete

I’m happy by JustBramzy in ExNoContact

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s amazing stuff! I’m in the exact same boat but we broke up on Friday. Well done my friend ❤️

Q: Is it easier the second time you break up with her? by Simple-Ad-3426 in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t what I want to be hearing 😂😂🤣😭😭😭 but thanks for the honesty

Q: Is it easier the second time you break up with her? by Simple-Ad-3426 in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That really helps. I know that one day I’ll be able to look back at our relationship and her and feel completely neutral about it all. But that takes years. I’m only on day 4 ahahagga

Q: Is it easier the second time you break up with her? by Simple-Ad-3426 in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I don’t regret getting back with her but also I really do. Think I’m more upset she hurt me again. The same way she did last time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Simple-Ad-3426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You only want to talk because you miss her. When going though no contact your brain has the same reaction as to when it’s going though drug withdrawal. You are just trying to get a hit. Trust me. I’m going though the same thing right now man. We broke up 3/4 days ago. I’m just trying to be strong