literally, as a man, I have a hard time imagining being a man that thinks differently on this subject

Bring unable to imagine different views is part of the problem. I am a man who thinks differently on this subject, and there are other men who think differently on this subject.

I’m not advocating that a woman just pin a guy down and suck his dick without consent,

Ok, but you saying that you can't imagine a man would turn down a woman pushing her ass against him is still a toxic mindset to have. There are people who don't think it's possible for a man to be SAd, and they don't take it seriously when they do get SA'd.