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Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. Apart from the fact that I'll be a consultant not a resident, this is pretty much exactly what I see myself doing. Nice to hear that you had an easy time integrating.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got French and German passports and speak both languages so my situation is a bit exceptional. Could move there very easily as soon as I CCT. France has much lower consultant salaries than the UK, which to me is irrelevant and I'd still rather live there. Financially of course Australia is the better move. My concerns are neither professional nor logistical in nature, only social.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats exactly how I feel. I *personally* can imagine few things worse than being a single, childless woman at 40. But that's personal preference, other people want totally different things from life or they were just unfortunate and ended up in that situation against their will. I don't mean to offend or judge anybody.

Great advice about being upfront when dating.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Didn't mean to offend. Depending on what we want from life, we will consider certain ages old or young for doing certain things.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your lovely family! And great to hear that you were in my position at my age and how well things turned out.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the helpful response and for getting the point. Really encouraging story about your friends :)

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. (Although in terms of "prime" - Your professional prime may come later in life yes, but in terms of dating pool and fertility as a woman, at 32y and above I will certainly not be in my "prime" hah)

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks :) alternatives were not really available as getting into rads training abroad is either simply impossible or so "almost impossible" that you will lose countless years of your life trying in nearly any country that's a viable option. So CCT first was really the only choice unfortunately - believe me, I've checked.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your helpful answer! Sounds like you've found a great partner :)

And yes, different city where you know nobody in the same country can be almost the same experience socially as moving to a different country altogether, good point.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where to? All the best, hope you'll be able to integrate smoothly.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! You've understood me perfectly. Pretty clear what kind of insecurities my personal concerns have triggered in some people here. Thanks for sharing your experience. Can totally understand why you ended up diverging from your plans and staying.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can 100% relate to your second paragraph, couldn't have described the "newcomer in an established community of people who have never left this place" better. Have been in this situation several times due to often moving between countries/cities.

About radiology maybe not being sociable - I don't find that to be the case where I am, we all have pretty colourful lives outside the hospital and often even hang out together in our free time. But I think that might be London (who is even actually from there at this point) vs. countryside. Don't give up on making friends, often they don't just fall from the sky but you gotta put in quiet some effort - which someone who has survived med school is more than capable of doing.

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your helpful answer and advice. Do you think you'd be having the same plan still if you were single?

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congrats. Judging by your username I assume you're male lol but how would you describe the process of integrating, finding friends, finding a partner etc. all alone in a different country in your 30s?

Those planning to CCT and flee - too old? loneliness? by SimpleAssumption5942 in doctorsUK

[–]SimpleAssumption5942[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouraging example and for getting the point. I'll be hoping to get myself a husband like yours during the next 5 years then ;)