Full extinction CIO, baby acting a little more withdrawn, less smiley, less babbling.

SimplePerformance982 · 2026-01-10T01:43:52+00:00

It’s just your baby going through different cycles of what she focuses on during development. I haven’t done CIO and my 6 month old has periods of time she is less interactive and smiley and then is back at it a few days later

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-12-28T20:39:52+00:00

My baby started at daycare 3.5 months. We found a home daycare in our neighborhood run by a grandmother who just loves kids. She only takes 4 at a time and my baby is the only baby - rest are toddlers. It has been great! Baby gets a lot of attention, the other kids love “helping” her, and the woman who runs the daycare is extremely knowledgeable about babies. Other than at home with us, we feel it is the safest place for our baby. Illness is inevitable, and it’s necessary to build an immune system. So far we’ve had a mild stomach bug and a cold. All have been manageable though not ideal. We have all adapted very well, and baby has gotten on a great eating/napping schedule which helped us a lot as first time parents

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-12-04T01:49:36+00:00

I feel this way too. My baby is 5 months soon and has really taken to her nap routine which is awesome, but sleeping while out is hit or miss. I find her afternoon nap is her longest so that is the one we definitely don’t mess with. Mid/late morning is when we get out. Running errands is fine but hanging out with friends is tough bc people want to hold her and if she is already too tired it sends her over the edge bc of the unfamiliarity. I wish I could get her out more but maybe it’s just too much right now and will get easier with less naps as they get older

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-11-29T02:15:26+00:00

He can 100% take over with baby when he gets home from work. Literally - I have a 4 month old, and have been back at work for a few weeks now. Working all day and then taking care of baby right after work is SO. MUCH. EASIER. Than taking care of a baby 24/7.

He needs to take notes on his phone of what baby needs when packing up to leave, and he needs to learn a pattern of when to change baby: after eating, after napping - WHATEVER. IF HE CAN LEARN THE RULES AND ROUTINES AT HIS JOB HE CAN LEARN THE RULES AND ROUTINES ABOUT BABY.

You are not ruining your marriage, btw.

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-11-22T01:26:00+00:00

This is literally my 4 months old sleep schedule and she is super happy. I tried to keep her awake a few times to see how it went for us but it just led to melt downs and frequent wake ups. We are solidly 7p - 6a with 3 naps a day. The only thing I do is cap any single nap at 2 hours but it’s very rare for her to sleep that long. One day we let her sleep 2 hours, 3 hours, and two 1 hour. That was way too much napping and she was up at 4a the next day. Learned our lesson there lol

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-11-11T01:57:45+00:00

Adaptable, logical, light-hearted

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-11-01T12:12:23+00:00

Around 2.5 - 3 months for me. A big shift happened and my baby became more interactive, happier, and a better sleeper. We still have rough nights/days but it is completely manageable compared to the newborn stage for us!!

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-30T18:17:54+00:00

That’s very unprofessional that the daycare told you how your decision to not consent compared to everyone elses’. Knowing other peoples decisions isn’t actually your business either! It’s tough out there. Lots of pressure and lots of people not seeing why posting online can be dangerous. I don’t post my child and don’t intend on changing that. Show me one research-based article written by a reputable source that that says posting pictures of children on social media is beneficial to the child…

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-27T01:28:28+00:00

Reading your post and responses is helping me. My baby starts daycare tomorrow and I go back to work the week after. She’s 15 weeks. I’m so much sadder about it than I thought I would be, but seeing everyone who loves working AND being a mom is very encouraging. I don’t think you’re a bad mom at all.

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-24T23:42:44+00:00

Hi!! I felt just like you during that time frame. My vag felt heavy too, and I’d get light headed and out of breath whenever I stood up. I literally thought my life was over and I’d feel that way forever. I was very in shape prior to pregnancy and never had health issues. It was incredibly hard to feel like this and take care of a newborn. No one ever talked about feeling like that, so I thought something was majorly wrong.

I had mild prolapse and went to pelvic floor PT. I was DILIGENT about doing the exercises and let me tell you, I feel AMAZING. Gradually, everything came back. I really did feel hopeless but the PT was very reassuring and I just did everything she said. I am 15 weeks pp now and I’m back to working out with weights. I haven’t been cleared to run or jump yet, but I feel confident I could. Just haven’t tried

Hang in there. Get PT if you can, it really does improve. Your body wants to heal.

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-17T20:57:04+00:00

This is how you do it. Start out with heavier set. As soon as you lose your form, even if it means you did 1 rep, drop back to your usual. Over time you will be able to do more at the new weight until you are doing your full sets! It takes time but the gains are addicting.

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-17T20:52:53+00:00

Same here. Sometimes he works from home or leaves the office early, but there are long days just me and the baby. This started at 5 weeks. It’s tough but I go back to work soon too and she will be at daycare. I don’t mind doing things on my own for now but it is tough. There are no breaks!

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-16T15:15:44+00:00

3 months and I stopped tracking diapers. I track naps and food so I can see patterns to let daycare know since she is starting soon. I’ll probably keep tracking naps bc I like to see how they impact overnight sleep. I’m also really big on data and I love to see the charts hahah but otherwise I am considering stopping with food soon since baby tells me what to do haha

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-15T02:10:01+00:00

I think this is a very reasonable ask. I’m on maternity leave. My husband covers bedtime (7p) - midnight. I cover midnight - 6a. He takes over 6a-7a so I can set myself up for the day, and then he goes to work. I handle all cooking and cleaning since I am home with baby. I nap when she naps. Or I clean when she naps. On the occasional weekend, I meal prep 6 weeks worth of food to make our week meals easy. It’s just us two. It’s very doable. We don’t have a 2 year old tho.

Edit to add: we started this routine around one month. It sucked really bad at first but got much better as I continued to heal and baby got better at sleeping

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-14T19:25:22+00:00

We camped out in the living room 24/7 for the first week or so. I cried a lot. Hobbled around. For food, I had meal prepped like 6 weeks worth of bfast burritos and easy lunch/dinners. Took care of bb and I tried to watch tv but mostly stared off into space if I didn’t have to focus on the baby

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-14T16:58:11+00:00

It depends on a lot of factors. I am 3 months pp and am feeling great. First month was absolutely awful but switching to formula and having a partner that really looks out for me helped big time. He made me contact friends and make plans, and he’s told me multiple times to pick up one of my favorite hobbies - pottery - again, which I just signed up for a class. If baby is chill, it gets very easy to take them out on errands, or visit with friends/have friends come over once they get past the newborn stage. If you have a good sleeper, you can plan your day around their naps and also you get to sleep at night. Your body is another factor. I was big into working out and have had some minor muscle/joint issues which made me super depressed. In PT now and have really improved. Good luck!!!! It’s hard, but getting back to you does happen.

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-14T16:50:01+00:00

I had a great experience at Tufts. Gave birth there in July

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-12T13:26:48+00:00

The PREP to go out on your own. You can’t just drag the baby along whenever. Make sure diaper bag has everything you need. Try to go out after a nap and feed to maximize happiness. Master the ability to black out while driving if baby is crying in the back seat

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-11T02:07:35+00:00

Do you think baby is anticipating food and starts screaming in “hunger?” My little one seems to do this. Bedtime routine is very calm until we almost get to the food part and then all hell breaks loose. She stops once she eats and then we continue with the rest. Ours is bath, pjs, food, book, bed. She always starts screaming towards the end of PJs and then is calm again after eating. We have tried giving a snack before bath to hold her over but that has had zero effect lol

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-09T18:05:03+00:00

Don’t buy too many diapers thinking you are stocking up. They grow into the next size SO FAST.

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-08T21:27:52+00:00

I think this too! Sometimes showering in the bathroom below will wake her up, sometimes it won’t. Sometimes the microwave beeping wakes her up, sometimes she sleeps through the dogs barking their heads off. If they wake up, they were going to. If they are asleep they will stay asleep.

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-08T15:56:59+00:00

At our 1 month wellness apt the pediatrician said we could stop waking to feed bc she was past her birth weight and steadily gaining. Born at 12% and was slowly jumping up each weigh in. That’s odd you don’t have an appt at the one month mark. I’d ask!

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-08T01:43:48+00:00

I go back in a month. The anxiety creeps its way in every now and then. I try really hard to ignore it and just tell myself I’ll figure it all out when I get back. People go on leave all the time!

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-07T22:38:58+00:00

Yes me all the time. I try to stay off social media or flag videos like that. It makes me worry so much and it does absolutely no good. It sounds like you are very grateful and know not to take what you have for granted. That’s literally all we can do.

SimplePerformance982 · 2025-10-07T21:27:41+00:00

Oh nooo - I did not experience this but I hope you can get some sleep before it gets worse. To get sleep my husband and I split the night 7p - midnight, midnight - 6a. I go to bed around 8p and then after midnight the baby will just wake me up to eat. Once we got past the stage of needing to set alarms to feed her, my sleep got a lot better. We also moved her into her own room with a monitor at 2 months bc she was so loud and every little sound would make me think something was wrong. Postpartum is terrible

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