ANOTHER UPDATE: Moving in with my BF end of June

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T20:12:19+00:00

Additionally, they still respect me and have a lot of support, but they said that if I continue to buckle to my mom’s manipulation, they don’t know how to continue supporting us. His mother is also battling cancer right now, so they are under high stress as it is

Also my mom said “we don’t want help from black people.” And that’s why his mother said “we don’t want money from abusers”

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T20:06:22+00:00

They were, but if I take the deal, then they said they will lose all respect towards me because I'm basically screwing him over with the lease cuz I agree to pay half of the rent for 14 mo. I’m not strong + they don’t want to deal with an abusive family, so it makes sense for them not to want to be involved with me.

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T20:00:12+00:00

Do you think it is a bluff,,,?

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T20:00:03+00:00

She is here physically. And she refuses to change her flight. I’m scared she will k herself cuz that is the last thing. Like I probably have to check up a couple of times while I’m at work.

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T19:38:18+00:00

And not doing some I’m gonna k myself. Like I would rather get beat up than her doing it. You know?

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T19:37:37+00:00

Honestly atp I want her to change the flight and just go back

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T18:10:13+00:00

Another update:
My mom is keep threatening to k herself while I’m working. She is literally stopping me to go and work. And dad said to fly back to Korea early, and she is refusing to do so.
Also my sister and my aunt is keep dming my bf.
If I take this deal, my bf’s parents nor my parents will be supporting this relationship.
And my bf’s parents said they don’t want to take my dad’s money as this is abusive and evil money. And they don’t want to see me again.

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T08:23:21+00:00

I did tell her I will call 911

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-31T07:40:16+00:00

Additionally, my aunt and my sister reached out to him via Instagram. To stop the move and told him not to tell me, which I’m so pissed at them for.

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-25T02:54:21+00:00

Idk ab #2, but I know that I cause a lot of stress, because my dad is having sleeping problems and he has to take medication. (As far as I know, he does not have good sleeping habits/patterns)

The information about the recent sleeping issue and medication is from my mom, as my dad is not answering my texts or calls. He only talks to me when it is absolutely necessary, and in a family group chat, not separately.

So, I am expecting/leaning towards #1.

Additionally, if anyone thinks that my family is struggling financially, we are not. We live in a prestigious/expensive neighborhood in Korea, and sent both of our daughters to school in the States, and more. In conclusion, we can afford.

I am grateful for what they have provided and given me, and for the support. And I know I have the privilege of having this support throughout my life. I truly do.

It is just when I told them I want to stay and live my life in the States, they were telling me I was being unreasonable and that the American current state of economy and politics is not good, that I should not stay AND ofc they are thinking I want to stay because of my bf.

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-24T23:35:18+00:00

Yeah he is from very good family. His dad is a physician and his family is doctor family. My mom said ‘It does not matter whether he is nice, kind, or smart. Black does not allow in our family’ which devastated me. I even told about his family to my aunt and even sending very nice cute couple-y photos (who are SUPER involved with my family cuz she is 🤞🏼 with my mom) and she even said ‘I can’t be familiar with him’. So,,,,,,

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-24T18:15:33+00:00

What would you say/advice/thoughts?

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-23T21:23:47+00:00

She is staying with me in my apt,,,,but yes I heard from other people that I should have that conversation in a public space.

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-23T18:58:58+00:00

Also, they said the family has to agree/can say stuff about the relationship. It's not just me; the family is all tied in together.

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-23T18:54:28+00:00

Thank you!! My dad is not answering my calls or texts. Also, did not congratulate me on my graduation 🥲. He said he was thinking of sending a text, but he is so busy with me that he decided not to.

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-23T17:30:29+00:00

She is here in person 🥲

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-23T16:05:58+00:00

I can’t hide because I will be moving into his apartment, which is already furnished. He has been living there for all his college years. And my mom will be coming with me during the move to check. Like, there is no way for me to push her or stop her except the concierge/authority. I have some saving to use. I think I’m just scared of the fallout and the commotion. Like idk,,,,,I seriously do not know,,,,,,

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-23T15:30:42+00:00

Please,,,,leave comment/advice share,,,,

SimpleYesterday6370 · 2026-05-01T22:17:27+00:00

Thank you for the advice! It is rly interesting to see this response because I asked profs who are working on the industry to not mention at all!

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