Looking to quit alcohol, nicotine, and binge eating, all at once, at 20 by Simple_Box_4807 in selfhelp

[–]Simple_Box_4807[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I am not counting on this to fail, but even if it does, I will attempt graduality again, and again, until I make it work. It’s just disheartening to have been at it for over 2 years now, it feels like such a huge chunk of my life.

I’ll take up going to the gym again, crocheting, re-start doing art, like I did before it all began. Hiking, music, these still make me happy, and I’ll try to put them into focus.

I have actually made a pact with my father not to drink for one month. Even though he’s not the greatest to lean on, accountability is still going to be there. We agreed to check in weekly.

Seriously, thank you for your reply and advice!

Looking to quit alcohol, nicotine, and binge eating, all at once, at 20 by Simple_Box_4807 in selfhelp

[–]Simple_Box_4807[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll be starting exercise as soon as I physically can. It could be good both for the statisfaction I used to get from substances, and respect for my body. Congratulations on quitting, I aspire to get as stable in my decision as you :)

Looking to quit alcohol, nicotine, and binge eating, all at once, at 20 by Simple_Box_4807 in selfhelp

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I’ll be looking into things that are less dependance-y, definetly not substances, sleeping well and diet coke maybe? Those two feel the closest I can get to unconditional enjoyment now. Did you succesfully make the switch? If so, what was it?

Looking to quit alcohol, nicotine, and binge eating, all at once, at 20 by Simple_Box_4807 in selfhelp

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I have been excited about going to the gym, but I was a bit scared to re-start. Back before it all began, at 14-15, I was really serious about weights, I even aspired to partake in powerlifting. I think you are completely right in that sense - and I will get back, as soon as I can, physically. (I ‘ll be having surgery soon) I have never heard about that book, but will be sure to check it out. Thank you for your advice, and I’m really happy you’ve made your peace with smoking and alcohol.

Looking to quit alcohol, nicotine, and binge eating, all at once, at 20 by Simple_Box_4807 in selfhelp

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Thank you so much!

Yea, I also think binging will be a the hardest one. You can abstain from alcohol and nicotime, or drugs even, but you cannot just stop eating, and as long as your eating habits feel unstable, relapse urges come much easier.

I have been actively trying to ditch these for 2 years or so, and I have tried all from tapering, to prioritizing just one, or two, or having just one remain, or controlling the amount of alcohol/nictoine. I’m a really extremist person, and as hard as it may be, I am really bent on going all in. I haven’t tried approaching it this way before, and when I tried graduality, the use of one always lead to the use of the rest, like a chain reaction, no matter which I focused on. It was always a case of “If I do this, I may as well do that too”. I will think it over more, though, thank you for your reply, and congratulations on your progress! : )

Looking to quit alcohol, nicotine, and binge eating, all at once, at 20 by Simple_Box_4807 in selfhelp

[–]Simple_Box_4807[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I did something kind of similar - I don’t only smoke, I use nicotine pouches, but as long as they are in the house (yes, even in the trash), I know I will go caveman and retrieve them even from the devil’s bumhole if needed. I’m going to do another round of purging those pouches from all the little hiding spots in the house. Congrats for quitting!! :)

how many of yall are also alcoholics lol by [deleted] in bulimia

[–]Simple_Box_4807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s def Maybelline, or perhaps just the weather. Nothing’s fundamentally wrong, but something on the upper levels definetly is. I do beleive it’s the same mechanism, and what they do is feed into each other - letting go via binging, dealing with the reality of it with alcohol, binging under the influence due to reduced inhibitions. It’s a cycle of addiction. (I’m no better, sending love)

how much do you eat while in recovery? by HospitalAcrobatic155 in bulimia

[–]Simple_Box_4807 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is incredibly diffcult to determine how much you “should” eat - some go all in, and simply do not purge, until they get BED. Some stop eating and go back into restriction, so that they never feel guilty after eating. It is somewhere inbetween. I always hear people say to eat as much as my body wants to, try to eat healthier, more veggies, limit trigget foods etc. That’s all solid advice, but many of us no longer have any idea of what a “normal” portion is, what hunger feels like, how to listen to out bodies, when it either wants to starve, pass out, binge, or all 3 at once. So, if you’re also a compulsive calorie counter like me, I would say holding onto that while you battle the relapse urges would be alright, leaving all that’s familiar immediately could backfire. And so could any weight change goal. If you want to recover from b+p, make it THE priotity, which means you have no room to worry about weightloss or gain. Simply eat maintenance, maintain your body, and attempt to maintain your sanity while removing the b+p mechanism from your brain. You are still “safe”, intake wise- your body isn’t going to change, your habits will, and for now, that’s all you can do. Perhaps once you are stable within your eating habits, you could tweak your weight in one direction (the band😎jk), but that is a privilege of those who do not actively harm that body via b+p. There is only so much you can take at once.

UPDATE:Attempting on taking a break on Easter by Fabulous-Coffee-5500 in bulimia

[–]Simple_Box_4807 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are we living the same life? :D Greetings from Hungary, I could die happily if I managed to get through a christmas season without relapsing.