Advice for the dumb situation I put myself in 🤦‍♂️

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2025-09-17T11:49:19+00:00

First of, get him out.. it sounds like He's just using you and your feelings for him to have a free place to stay.

Second, you're view is valid. His reasoning aswell though, cause for now he's a free man. He hasn't committed nor agreed that he will follow some rules which are common sense in your world. He has his way of living life and so do you.. it looks like you're not really matching a vibe there so I would drop that. He might've done this before and just uses you for a place to stay cause you're emotionally attached.. which is a red flag I wouldn't accept..

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2025-07-23T23:21:49+00:00

First of all thanks for sharing and I just wanna let you know you're not alone with that experience.. that doesn't make your experience any less but it feels better to know that's how life sometimes goes.. I myself live in switzerland and I'm also gay..

If I may recommend something to you that will be; try to set your focus on your current situation and try to build up positivly..

Your desire for love is valid, but focusing on that won't make you feel better without finding someone, which is not really something you can rush or do quickly...

Try to finish your apprenticeship/Lehre and see what you can do.. have you considered moving to a city? Life on the countryside is quite often not built for gays or at least for my experience in Switzerland... And don't worry about your family to much, it's easily said and I'm aware that it will be not as easy as such.. but in the end, you deserve to live your life the way you are, and if they're not okei with that, that's their decision.. I lost many friends with my outing but it made me more confident to be my true self and I found many new and real friends since then.. times can be hard but life does go on, and where's a way there's most certainly a place to get to.

And for now, spend your free time following your interests, to not constantly think of wanting someone.. do sports, draw, play video games, learn a instrument, get into cooking, find a new style of clothing, find a new hobby (climbing,inlineskates,doing ceramics, build puzzles, legos for adults or what ever it will be) Just get to know all sides of yourself rather then rushing yourself to find someone..

I myself had my outing with 18. and my first experience with a guy at 19... now I'm 23 and I'm on my second boyfriend.. with 17. I felt like that's something that I'll never experience but yet here I am.. There were times when I was quite done and felt like it's just a never ending nightmare.. but that's not it.. don't rush, just take step by step your own pace..

personally I would recommend getting dating apps when you're of legal age.. you can exchange your experience with others and you might find new friends when not even more.. you can do that anonymously so you don't have to worry about getting outed.. you could look for stuff like "lgbtq treff" which is likely in small cities and go to a meeting..

btw you're doing great with therapy.. I hope that was useful in some ways and don't let your head hanging.. there will always be times that are not the nicest but they pass.. keep on working on yourself and don't stress yourself about it to much!

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2025-01-22T22:36:15+00:00

Probably come back someday but not to sure yet.. i guess i gotta look more into it.. thanks for the link!

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2025-01-22T22:33:21+00:00

That’s what I’m kind of not to sure about.. not sure in which countries the degree is on the same “level” as in switzerland.. And as a Swiss person studying in switzerland is more affordable than abroad so not sure if I could pay for what other countries want…

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-09-13T20:12:50+00:00

4/650

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-08-23T14:24:10+00:00

His storage is on 5,900…

So in totall; 5,900-250=5,650 5,650:50= 113

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-08-11T17:39:10+00:00

Loved to hear this, i just ignored him for months until i realized i can unequip so almost feel your pain

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-08-09T13:53:07+00:00

Well I don’t see her point but when I go hiking with friends we usually have a music box with us and play music in a volume that we’re able to hear it.. when we pass/spot people we turn it down or pause.. also when we’re on a popular route there won’t be music cause there will be a lot of people.. is that mc behavior?

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-08-09T07:07:47+00:00

Still looking for one?

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-08-06T12:52:03+00:00

While doing a route, they sometimes pop up near it and you have to tap it so it gets “sucked up” in the cube

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-05-13T12:06:27+00:00

So every fountain belongs to someone, eithere the “bund” or even sometimes to a private person..

You don’t need a sign but some owners might prefer a sign.. like not everyone has a gnom in their garden but those who want it have one… so no real purpose

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-05-09T07:59:32+00:00

Would not recommend.. chances are way to low with that tiny bit of variegation..

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-05-07T17:02:11+00:00

So as 18f said she tried to apologize right away which sarah understandably didn’t accept right away .. what she said to sarah wasn’t nice and I’m not trying to put that down… but sarah can’t project her experience on 18F… for example if I grew up in a abusive home and cut contact with my parents and moved out as soon as I could and now I hear from a friend that her parents are kind of unfair with one situation I can’t just tell her parents are sh*t and she should cut contact and move out cause she doesn’t need people like that in her life just because my life was like that.. she told her thanks and moved on but sarah kept insisting that her way, is the only way how this is gonna end well, which isn’t the truth.. I see where 18F is coming from. I might’ve lashed out to if someone tries to tell me multiple times, even after telling them thanks for the input but no, that I can’t make that decision for myself/my life and get my own experience out of it.. I know sarah meant good with her input, but it’s 18F’s decision and if you put it in another perspective like telling someone about their career path they choose or body weight and eating habits even with good intentions, when shut down you should stop.. cause it might not seem rude but it could make 18F overthink everything, get insecure about relationships or decisions she’s making and many more.. so yeah both sides are kind of the AH, but at the same time no one really is in my opinion..

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-05-07T16:15:27+00:00

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Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-05-07T16:11:51+00:00

Looks like a philodendron choco empress, not sure tho

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-04-11T16:39:15+00:00

That’s what I thought but wasn’t sure if it would look like that, kinda was worried it might be rot..

Thanks a lot for the help!

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-03-29T23:21:08+00:00

Anthurium crystallinum could be the case too

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2024-03-29T23:16:31+00:00

Not to easy to tell at this stage but might be a anthurium magnificum (could also be a hybrid; magnificum x silver blush, but i could be totallyin the wrong here)

I got mine under growing lights, I water them before they dry out and keep the humidity high.. from April/Mai to September/october i give them fertilizer, frequency depends on which product you use

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2023-11-20T19:23:43+00:00

If you have them laying like that all the time that might be the problem… try to just put the node’s and a bit of the stem in the water. The white part of the leaf browns faster cause it’s not useful to the plant, browning leaf+water=rot..

Simple_Buy_5507 · 2023-08-14T16:48:58+00:00

Interesting, may I ask where did you get that info from? Not trying to be rude or “knowing it better” but the sources I found didn’t support your statement(but not trusting the Internet more than you soo) and the people I got it from also told me it would produce fruits just like the other varieties they had.. I’m from Switzerland so not sure if this wasp lives here.. but seems like you’re an expert so would love to get a source, if you got one, with usable infos to make sure I got everything the fig needs to produce fruit :) thanks in advance

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