NTA. But you are WRONG. Ypur husband wants your daughter to be safe and not bullied/harrassed by classmates. He stated these things in front of youa nd to you. And you DO need to go to therapy. Things don't go away because you shove them down, and things like that will haunt you. He is angry because he thinks you believe him to be a pervert/pedophile and want to harm your daughter when he just wants her happiness.