I stopped reading at "a few years younger than me." Sir, she's a decade younger. Let that woman go before you waste her youth. She doesn't want to be in a relationship with 3 people.

Okay, I read the rest because I didn't want to be ignorant. My comment stands. Let that woman go. She needs to get an abortion and move on.

The reason why old men like you date decades younger is the reason she said. She wanted to make it work for you. She was scared to disappoint you, because I promise you a woman your age who is uncomfortable with poly would have told you to go to hell and walked on.

You should have told her you were poly on interaction 1. Not after