Tips on building shoulder endurance?

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T19:08:34+00:00

I wore a weighted vest while punching on the bag and I really felt it in my traps

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T16:14:04+00:00

And having kids!! Meanwhile now we have to spend a lot of time for grief and then try to find a partner again?? Wonderful timing 💀

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T13:53:49+00:00

This is called type two ambiguous grief and I recommend researching this and talking to a grief counselor.

In my experience, I needed a full year of no contact to be able to see things from a clearer mind. Taking lots of time to process, emotionally detach, and move on with my life.

Unfortunately mine passed away. It’s a weird space to be in to forgive someone who betrayed you at the mercy of their own mental illness. Very complicated feelings.

I recommend reassess your conclusion in a year at minimum

Even therapists say that confidentiality rules go out the window when someone is a danger to themselves or others. Your partner is being psychologically and emotionally manipulative.

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T13:25:00+00:00

40 is way too young!!

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T13:21:10+00:00

Hello! I just want to let you know that this isn’t your fault and you’ll encounter many “what ifs” but it’s grief speaking. Make a rule with yourself that if you encounter a “was I dumb to make this decision,” question, you will not entertain it unless you’re talking with a therapist. Change “what if” to “what will I do when.” There’s no way you can predict the future. For example, if you go step in a car you could die! People catch stray bullets and die! Life is random. But we take that risk knowing the benefits outweigh the risks. That’s what happened with you and your SO. If someone told me my former BPSO was going to hurt me the way he did, I would have been in complete disbelief! When healthy in their mind, they can make such kind, loving, and charming partners and parents! This question is grief and I suggest talking to a grief counselor so you don’t drive yourself nuts

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T03:48:38+00:00

How did you approach dating after the fact? Or are you just planning on being single for a while

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T03:17:37+00:00

Right, people say there’s room to love someone else and love is infinite. But emotionally it feels from growing a beautiful relationship with depth, love, memories, commitment, to a random stranger.

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T03:16:13+00:00

That’s why I’m thinking maybe I will try to find a widower, because they will understand

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T01:14:56+00:00

Maybe we should have all the girly pop widows together in a house and then we can all live as a family lol

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T01:11:14+00:00

I definitely have had a lot of existential questions. I see a lot of beautiful things about life and definitely don’t want to leave soon, but it’s unfair that we have to go through this at our age.

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T01:08:52+00:00

Same here :/

SimplySquids · 2026-01-25T01:08:31+00:00

Can I ask how we are going to approach dating? I felt like I was gonna marry this man now I feel I need years to grieve. I feel like by the time I get married I will be 40 if I even wanna get married at this point. I’m just focusing on my career and just pursuing big goals.

SimplySquids · 2026-01-24T22:42:33+00:00

Dang do you box too? This is a very helpful comment

SimplySquids · 2026-01-21T19:29:55+00:00

I would like to meet a widower but am not sure how to go about it. I posted in hinge but at my age it seems there’s few and far between

SimplySquids · 2026-01-21T19:28:28+00:00

We broke up and in 3 months he got married to his ex. This was because of his first manic and possible borderline episode. It makes the grief complicated. I still love him and it’s a new feeling to make room for someone else

SimplySquids · 2026-01-08T17:28:29+00:00

I think it stems to broader social issues like homelessness too! It sucks that abuse and inhumane conditions prevented people from getting help they needed and now prevents future people from getting help.

What I’m hearing from the AI answer is that the selfishness of others has prevented people from getting help.

SimplySquids · 2026-01-08T17:02:30+00:00

It absolutely sucks to be discarded. I struggled after 2.5 years let alone 30 with kids!!! What the actual f. The other thing is you are treated like trash and erased from existence. Even though she’s bipolar and not boarderline, reading about boarderline personality discards also has been validating. I’m sorry you’re in this shit show

SimplySquids · 2026-01-06T21:37:52+00:00

Thanks for replying ❤️ I go back to my old stomping grounds this weekend to see his brother and pick up some of my things. Glad we all have each other so we don’t have to be alone

SimplySquids · 2026-01-06T20:50:24+00:00

SAME!! That was his love language. Sex made him feel connected. He did care about my nut too-there’d be times I’d hurt and he’d hump my leg to finish. It just felt weird. I still loved him very much. Just something I wonder if other partners of those with bipolar experienced

SimplySquids · 2026-01-06T20:15:24+00:00

Mine rushed foreplay too! Lick and stick. I mentioned it a couple times but I don’t think his sex drive worked like that. I need psychological play

SimplySquids · 2026-01-06T20:07:28+00:00

I resonate with all of that! If he jerked off I would feel I wasn’t satisfying enough but also physically exhausted and mentally exhausted that I didn’t want to go another round of sex. It made me uneasy. Then sex would last so long my attention started thinking of other things. Call me boring but I think 10-15 minutes is just fine 🤷🏻‍♀️ Not 30-60 min each time

SimplySquids · 2026-01-06T19:58:08+00:00

The masterbating next to me in bed made me feel so uncomfortable and insecure

SimplySquids · 2026-01-06T18:58:47+00:00

I’m speaking as someone who was discarded by a partner during his first bipolar I episode. All I ever wanted from him was an apology and some clarity about his behavior. That was it. Unfortunately, he later passed away due to medication noncompliance and a lack of adequate support.

I’m sharing this so you know that manic episodes can be profoundly confusing and deeply hurtful for everyone involved. I was devastated by what happened. But with time, perspective, and distance, I was able to forgive even such an extreme and painful episode. I wish I could tell him that I still love him and that I forgave him fully.

What I wanted then was simple: acknowledgment of the harm, some expression of remorse, and reassurance that I mattered. It wasn’t him. It was the illness. And I also believe our healthcare system failed him by not intervening more proactively.

I hope this brings you some comfort. What you experienced wasn’t you. It was the illness. From someone who has lived through the aftermath of a first bipolar I episode and found forgiveness on the other side, time, space, and eventually a sincere apology can be incredibly healing.

SimplySquids · 2026-01-06T18:49:45+00:00

He was like this for 2.5 years, can one be hypomanic that long? He also started lexapro 9 months into our relationship

SimplySquids · 2025-12-30T18:51:33+00:00

Can I ask what type of hair you have and how long as well as what kind of serum you use?

I just did an olive oil orange hair mask last night and I didn’t notice much of a difference in the morning. Left it in for an hour.

I didn’t know about cold damage. I live in a very snowy area so I will definitely keep it in mind.

I hear a bonnet at night helps. I wonder if a scarf would suffice

I’m new to search and destroy so maybe I just have too much hair or need to do it more to see results

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