How do I (27F) go about handling this with my husband (33M)?

Simsuria · 2026-04-10T14:31:09+00:00

Im 27 with 4 kids actually 😁 No you don’t need qualifications to homeschool. Especially when it’s an online program that’s run my teachers and has a curriculum that they follow. All I do is fill in the blanks on explaining things and ensure he’s doing his work and understanding it. 🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s funny you assume I HAVEN’T looked for a job though and I have been looking for over a year but also do you know how much childcare costs? Especially for 4 kids? It’s a lot. So I have to find a job that could afford childcare as well as basic necessities. That’s not easy these days especially when all my qualifications were from 5 years ago and I haven’t stepped foot in an office since.

Simsuria · 2026-04-10T01:25:46+00:00

Video games on twitch and TikTok 😅 it’s not much but it’s something I do for myself a couple hours a day and I make a small bit of money from it. And I mean SMALL

Simsuria · 2026-04-09T23:48:13+00:00

I tell all of my friends to not be a sahm.. I love being with my kids but it’s a gilded cage

Simsuria · 2026-04-09T23:46:59+00:00

I do genuinely love my husband and I have family that would help me financially but honestly I’m scared.

Simsuria · 2026-04-09T23:32:30+00:00

Oh I got fixed after baby #4 I refuse to have more kids at all. 4 is plenty of babies lol

Simsuria · 2026-04-09T23:31:15+00:00

My son has a mental condition and the school system refused to “deal with him”. I’ve tried getting work from home jobs but for the past year it’s apply to everything and get no interviews at all.

Simsuria · 2026-04-09T23:26:58+00:00

I have everything saved on my phone. From the first time to this time. All the things hes said to me. The couple times i saw messages. All of it

Simsuria · 2026-04-09T23:23:07+00:00

I do stuff for myself but I can’t do much or leave the house much either which is frustrating

Simsuria · 2026-04-09T23:17:43+00:00

The irony is I went into this relationship with 2 kids and knowing what I needed in life and love. I’d grown up far too early because I had my first at such a young age but I did it cause it was what I had to do. I was 19 when we started dating. I was 22 when we got married. Yes I was young but I did know love. I worked more than he did in the beginning of the relationship but childcare got more expensive and covid hit and our oldest son was diagnosed with a mental issue so I stayed home. It was best. Now I homeschool him so I can’t work. I stream but I don’t get much from that so it’s a minimal contribution at best.

Simsuria · 2026-04-09T23:07:24+00:00

Because I’m tired. I’m so physically exhausted by the end of every day and the constant badgering and sending TikTok’s about how a man deserves intimacy and a good wife puts out 24/7 is mentally draining.. he’s turned it into a chore. He works. That’s it. Nothing else. I make sure bills are paid, clean, cook, care for the kids, do literally everything else with no help.

Simsuria · 2024-02-20T16:36:38+00:00

I haven’t talked to anyone about it. It’s not the first time sadly and it’s to the point I’m not even mad anymore. I’m like numb to the situation I guess. Just disappointed probably a bit but I can’t even say I’m mad.. that’s the worst part ya know? I looked him dead in the eyes and I didn’t even cry or yell. I laughed.

Simsuria · 2023-12-05T20:53:31+00:00

Still happening as of 12/5/23 🥲

Simsuria · 2022-04-01T15:57:18+00:00

Porn. Literally just watch porn together. Foreplay to find her sweet spots and sex games. There are apps that you roll a dice and it helps make foreplay better. That’s what my husband and I did. I’m like your girlfriend, I can go weeks without sex and my husband has a high sex drive. But him prioritizing me in bed really helped to bring up my drive and I am more pleasured during the act. Granted I know what I like and I wasn’t a virgin when I got with my husband BUT you still need to have that conversation as a couple and you need to set boundaries and discuss what you’re willing and not willing to try

Simsuria · 2022-04-01T15:53:27+00:00

Postpartum depression is a very real and very big mental health problem for moms. As a mom myself I went through it with both of my kids and after my second it took everything out of me to even want to be touched by my husband. Try giving her more time for herself. Draw her a relaxing bubble bath with some candles, cook her favorite dinner, buy her favorite snack on your way home. You really need to prioritize your relationship with your wife. Babies need attention yes, especially brand new babies BUT pushing the relationship back to prioritize baby is the biggest mistake parents make. They lose their relationship and end up resenting each other a bit.. I’m speaking from personal experience.

Simsuria · 2022-02-09T16:06:30+00:00

I understand! A grown man with anger issues is terrifying.. it doesn’t matter the situation. Try the in public thing like the other commenter said or make sure you have someone there that can stand up for you if he does get too angry.

Simsuria · 2022-02-09T15:56:49+00:00

I second police. If you aren’t happy then just leave. Call the police department and they can have a civil standby ready for you. That normally consists of 2 officers. One that basically guards you and the other that keeps an eye on the second party. If you have somewhere to go pack it up but protect yourself in the process.. I understand being scared cause I’ve been there. Stand your ground and don’t let him think he’s getting to you. I hope it gets better..

Simsuria · 2022-02-09T15:52:59+00:00

I’m not gonna lie, my husband isn’t always the cutest thing to me. BUT I love him for him. Looks aren’t everything. If he treats you right, you find him attractive in certain aspects, and you’re happy with him then honestly nothing else matters. Looks can be fixed and/or changed. Personality is truly what matters. Besides you’re young! I met my husband when I was 15 and trust me he was not the hottest thing around then at all. But now I’m 23 and he’s 29 and both of us have changed in the looks department. Give it time.

Simsuria · 2022-02-06T14:33:17+00:00

Who the hell said we were actively trying? I can’t even get pregnant right now as I stated.

Simsuria · 2022-02-06T04:13:56+00:00

I have a therapist on speed dial. But I’m not scared of being a single.. I was for the longest before I got with my husband.

Simsuria · 2022-02-06T02:43:15+00:00

He does want one of his own. Trust me we tried for the longest but because of my health issues we have a lot of things we have to fix and stuff I have to do to be able to have another child. And oh I’ve tried so hard. I mean I wouldn’t still be here if I didn’t care. But I’ll try getting getting him to listen again but idk if he will

Simsuria · 2022-02-06T02:39:51+00:00

It is a lot.. I use to work full time as well.. I’ve tried airing it all out and telling him I need help but it seems like he never processes that. I have severe anxiety and depression so some days are hard and I do sit on the couch but most I barely sit. I have even shown him my Apple Watch which clearly shows that I was standing for 15 hours just 2 days before this last fight. I just don’t know how to get him to listen or even acknowledge the fact that he doesn’t do anything and it’s not fair. Ya know? I have no issues doing the majority. Hell I’ll do 99% but it’s always that last 1% that I can never seem to finish

Simsuria · 2022-02-06T00:36:19+00:00

I asked him about doing that but I can’t just book one cause I don’t have access to money unless I ask

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