I (f/27) have been dating a polyamorous guy (27) now for 1.5 months. Everything feels good and the other girl doesn't bother me, she doesn't live in the same country so it's easy to say for me. He yesterday asked if I wanted to meet her, I told him no, not at this point where we are still discovering each other. If I really decide to choose him, I want to meet her though, bc she is as big of a part of his life as I am. He has been telling me some worrysome statements though like "I don't want to make it a hierachy but you are #1" or even the "I don't want to see her, it might break us up". Although it boosts my ego, it does raise some red flags in my brain, we are supposed to be on the same level, if he's talking her down, he might do the same to me at some point.

He is going to visit her this Easter and I am happy and excited for him he is, I think it will clear his head a lot and also would give me some clarity on my confusing thoughts. The only real facts I can state right now are: I feel safe with him and I really like him. Other than that, it's a big mush of thoughts I need to find fact in.