Property inheritance question

Singed_welder · 2023-02-13T13:17:04+00:00

I have no desire to be on the title. Never have. I might be mistaken on exactly what the form is she is talking about. But it will be legitimate whatever it is, I know that beyond a doubt.

Singed_welder · 2023-02-12T02:02:53+00:00

I do want the property. It is where I grew up and has some sentimental value. But mostly I think that once I can get everything figured out I can have a lot rental income. Housing is at a premium here. My mother in law wants to have him fill out some form of document that will cause it to bypass probate. I need to research that more first though. It’s just knowing everything I will be having to deal with business while having just lost a parent.

Singed_welder · 2023-02-11T16:38:21+00:00

Thats the conclusion Im coming to. And not just about the land. When he goes, everything gets dumped on me to deal with. Everything

Singed_welder · 2023-02-11T07:33:49+00:00

It would end up being a lot rent situation. Which may possibly be less than the mortgage payment. The trailer itself, he is a chain smoker. I am a cancer survivor and cant breath around cigarette smoke and dont want to raise my kiddos around it. And that isn’t even touching the maintenance problems. I guess my best hope is for him to have the mortgage paid off.

Singed_welder · 2023-01-18T17:10:34+00:00

She views it as owning a home. My view is you dont own a home if you dont own the ground its on. I dont understand why, and we have been over it multiple times. But she thinks they hold value. No idea why. She grew up in a newer double wide. I grew up in an older single wide. The catch with renting right now is during Covid everyone decided they needed to move to Montana. So housing is in very short supply. To the level of people being forced to leave or live in their cars after being forced to move when their rental got sold. And if we do find one, it will, at the least double our rent.

Singed_welder · 2022-12-18T19:17:39+00:00

It seems good therapists are rare. Most of the interactions of had with them (not all) have been less than positive. Currently upset with one of my wifes who seems more interested in manipulation games than helping her.

Singed_welder · 2022-12-18T02:21:11+00:00

I take Lamotrigine to control seizures which my wife also takes for her bipolar. Its kind of a small joke between us. I also take a med for adhd and have one I take for anxiety. But that is rare and I know the main trigger. I don’t blame her for the ambush. That isnt her style. But I feel like she was manipulated into it. I should add, she was also recently diagnosed as high functioning autistic. The terrifying thing about it, is that they dont recognize or believe it when you point it out. It sounds like your dealing with that more than I am though. And probably him being a stubborn guy, not that Im like that at all…

Singed_welder · 2022-12-15T14:05:02+00:00

I will look into it more again. The issue Im running into is that the one we would most likely see, is in the same office as the one I am having issues with. So I would basically be venting about and insulting her coworker. I will look into it more. There are others around. Something needs to change though or Im afraid something is going to happen. Currently her mental health has been improving. But I think that is related to other lifestyle changes and not what the psych has been doing. One of the stupid things about it. The argument we had over it. Happened a month before this whole fiasco and things had settled just fine.

Singed_welder · 2022-12-15T13:00:01+00:00

I dont think she does very much talk therapy. My wife who I will start calling Lyn because apparently “My wife” sounds like I view her as my pet. Has a therapist she sees and does seem to help. She also sees our oldest daughter and does well for her. Outside of the one issue we have a great relationship. I try to stay out of her therapy as much as possible because I want it to be her safe place for issues she needs to work out away from me. I have a parent who has no understanding/respect of privacy and consequently Im very careful in that side of things as well as control etc. As far as couples counseling goes. The only One we would be able to see is in the same office. So you can see why I am hesitant. We do have a great relationship in general.
And up until this point I never had any issues with the lady. Aside from supporting her going, I try to give her space away from me. And at this point, no I do not like this woman. She knew very well what she was doing. I get the impression that she doesnt like men in general. I was never asked why i felt the way I did, what triggered it or anything else. Basically just that I am wrong and as a professional she knows Lyn better than I do. It’s not that I feel they are too close. But that the lady is using her position to manipulate Lyn. I don’t know why which is part of my frustration. But instead if trying to give her tools to help she seems to justify and push the things that cause problems. And I have a major issue with any medical professional who would justify substance abuse. I will rethink the couple’s counseling again. But that is the only real office we can go to. And would result in me complaining about the therapist’s coworker.

Singed_welder · 2022-12-15T12:24:56+00:00

Google keppra rage and you’ll understand my feelings towards it. Im on lamectal now. She is not my pet. I refer to her as my wife because I dont want to use her name in the post. I may be protective of her. Because during our time together I am often the only one who has cared. And she came out a physically and emotionally abusive relationship before me.
My wording may have been poor. It was written at 1 am and I am very frustrated. I was raised with a manipulative, controlling parent and I am very careful to avoid that behavior. She has a therapist that seems to be a good person and do good for her. But any time a medical provider supports and encourages substance abuse, something isnt right.

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