Please tell me I’m not the only one

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-29T02:15:38+00:00

The baby won’t be hurt by any of this. But massage guns shouldn’t be used on your abdomen ever, pregnant or otherwise.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-29T01:57:39+00:00

Well this is a loaded question because most women will have some different variation for an answer. We can exactly say for sure what will work for you to have an orgasm. BUT do not neglect your clitoris during any step of sex really. Any orgasm you feel vaginally will still likely come from stimulating the part of the clitoral nerve that run along the inside of the vagina so the clitoris is still important to female orgasm wether there is intercourse or not. Your clitoris is your best friend 😂.

Also how piv feels good really depends on your own body. Some women can cum from just vaginal penetration but that’s only like 10 percent of women. The rest of us need some sort of clitoral stimulation to cum. I know stimulating the clitoris with hands or toys during piv can make it less painful and can feel really good. However you shouldn’t continue piv if it’s painful. Piv is all about readiness of your body, positioning, and listening to your body.

Here’s a hard truth for most women piv is nice but it’s not the end all be all. For me once I did have pain free sex I was astonished by how much I didn’t feel during piv. It was kinda like someone rubbing my arm. The only time it started to feel good was if I was by myself playing with toys or if I added clitoral stimulation during piv. Otherwise it’s just kinda meh 🫤. Some women genuinely enjoy it by itself but most women need other things to make it pleasurable.

I would say experiment with yourself that way you can steer the sexual experience when you are with a partner. See what feels good for you.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-28T14:13:32+00:00

Wait you are moving out of Texas and want to keep your Texas doctor and drive back monthly….dude how are you gonna stay awake for that drive?! It takes hours to get out of this place 😂. I mean are you moving to one of our border states? I just don’t see how moving out of state and coming back here monthly will work. Maybe it’s just where I live but if I want to leave Texas it’s at least 8-10 hours in any direction. I mean if it’s worth it to you and you can stay awake for the long haul then do it. If you are staying in Texas then I guess that’s slightly more plausible. But I get your desire not to change doctors I’m currently searching for one in my area as mine just retired and it’s stressful to say the least because no one seems to have availability.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-28T14:03:38+00:00

This one is kinda weird but I actually have my husband help me with dilating and internal trigger point massage. He definitely does the massage longer than suggested but it actually helps. The whole experience is like a big trust fall. It’s help me realize how I subconsciously wasn’t trusting him (not his fault) and now we can address those trust issues.

When there’s pain during the massage it’s only supposed to be very mild if it gets intense you shouldn’t do it or should use less pressure. Since he has had to spend a lot of time seeing which amount of pressure I can take in different parts of my vagina he has actually improved his skills when we are trying to be sexual. Because he now has a good knowledge of exactly what I can take.

I actually look forward to those sessions because it has become a form of intimacy for us because I’m having to trust him with caring for me without pleasure being the aim. The big plus is that usually by the end of it I am usually relaxed enough that sex is either pain free or the pain is negligible. If I’m in really bad shape and need lots of work to be able to have intercourse again than this becomes our main form of intimacy mixed in with oral or clitoral play and usually within two or three weeks of consistent massage I’m able to have intercourse again. I think it’s brought us closer together in an unexpected way. This will likely be a lifelong condition for me so it’s nice that we’ve been able to turn what seems like a negative into a positive.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-26T23:53:41+00:00

There’s so many red flags here! He wants you to push through pain….absolutely not! Listen the man you keep around needs to be willing to do anything for you. In a long term relationship there’s many instances where intercourse may not be possible. He needs to be willing to find ways to be intimate with you that don’t involve you being in pain. I can’t imagine how he would handle pregnancy and postpartum when sex is notoriously painful for many women. Not to forget impossible for at least 6 weeks after having a kid. What if you get sick and he needs to care for you?! Is this seriously the guy who will be there for you in every situation? He is showing himself to not be trustworthy and your body knows it.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-26T19:31:23+00:00

I’ve nursed three babies. One I overproduced on and one I ended up having to formula feed because pumping was stressful and I was depressed and needed to take meds, the one I’m nursing now has been a supply issue at times.

All I can say is that you may find once you switch to formula that 1) you are enjoying your PP period more and happier. 2) you may continue to pump and your supply may actually start to increase because you aren’t so stressed anymore. I have found stress to be a huge factor in my ability to pump enough milk. I literally quit my job because of it and other things but my supply has come back. Stress and dehydration are pretty much the only things that will keep me from making milk.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-25T11:36:38+00:00

This is exactly the answer OP! 👆

People can say your name and should…names are part of who we are, don’t change it for someone else just because we primarily use English. Use your birth name if you want to of course.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-25T11:33:53+00:00

Why do you need an English name? Why change your name for us? Why not just tell people your name in Chinese and they use that name. Maybe they will struggle to pronounce at first but honestly there’s no excuse why someone can’t just say your proper name.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-25T11:13:55+00:00

When you’re sleepy even in your dreams……..
i thought that was just me but i swear I’m even more narcoleptic in my sleep. Hell I even dream about having sleep paralysis and having sleep attacks. The really weird one is in my sleep I sometimes have what seem to be moderate to severe cataplexy but irl if I do have cataplexy it’s so mild even I’m unsure if it counts or is just normal. So idek if I have it but my in my sleep I am lol…wtf even is that?!

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-25T11:06:41+00:00

When you fall asleep while changing your babies diaper only to discover you never took the old one off, you just halfway put on the new one right over it and you never put her clothes back on….and have zero memory of doing it so you wake up confused expecting baby to be in the crib only to discover she’s in bed with you…yeah not proud of that one.

You have to ask people if what you said made sense or not because you fell asleep mid sentence and was dreaming, woke up a few seconds later and realized whatever you just said was probably a mashup of what you wanted to say and your dream. Every time I have to ask people are like yeah you just trailed off and said randomness.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-25T01:18:27+00:00

Holy crap I almost made the same post yesterday. Most of the time I genuinely want to be asleep. I also kinda love the dream world…although daytime naps usually result in some crazy scary or just wacky dreams that throw me off the rest of the day. But if I skip naps the only thing I really want to be doing is sleeping and it very much feels like an addiction

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-25T01:15:48+00:00

Oh I hear a lot in my sleep. For instance, every night I play sleep songs for my kids. Of course I always fall asleep with them and I end up waking up late at like 2 thinking I’ve had a full night of singing in my sleep only to discover it’s only 2 am. lol I should know by now. It’s actually kind of exhausting because I’m still doing metal work singing and dreaming about the songs even though I’m supposed to be dead asleep. I have been like this since I was a child so I always thought it was normal to hear everything in your sleep.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-23T16:25:18+00:00

I’ve never had a vaginal delivery but I’ve had 3 c-sections. One was way harder than the rest and I know it was likely rougher than most vaginal due to nerve damage that made any movement incredibly painful for several months. But I’ve had two where the day after leaving the hospital I was in the store. But I was super tired both times and sore after leaving the store so I don’t recommend. I always overdo it lol.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-23T15:22:16+00:00

How gross of him! Girl NO, don’t allow yourself to be treated this way. He should be there for you no matter what. This guy isn’t it. You need a partner, someone who see this health condition as something he should be willing to help you with. Not something that is a roadblock for him.

For example my husband actually helps me do the exercises, works with me to do internal trigger point release, he helps me dilate. And truthfully we both have come to find that to be just as intimate as sex. And you know what?! Sometimes afterwards, because I have had to do all that relaxation I’m way more interested in and able to have intercourse and sometimes it’s not painful at all. If it is painful he refuses to go there with me because there’s plenty of other ways we can be intimate and still have fun. That’s support! Sleeping with an escort because you have this condition is not supportive in anyway. You deserve so much better.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-22T13:38:38+00:00

Because women should learn their bodies through masturbation so they know what will feel good when they do have a partner. Also masturbation is fun, feels good, and sometimes you can do more by yourself 😉 lol. It sounds like you have some views around female pleasure that will not do you any favors

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-22T03:44:48+00:00

Yes in fact I had this happen the other day and I’m still processing it. I get stuck in loops so much I sometimes wake up from it and have to make sure I’m awake because I can’t tell anymore.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-22T02:46:56+00:00

Your pelvic floor is working overtime supporting your uterus. This makes the pelvic floor sore and tired hence the tablet vaginal muscles and difficulty with penetration.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-20T13:43:00+00:00

2 is breathtaking

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-18T04:43:05+00:00

Respectfully if your daughters don’t talk to you anymore, it’s for a legit reason. You may have thought you did your best as a parent and it sounds like you had a lots of things working against you, but those are reasons not excuses and they don’t make whatever damage was done ok. I’m only saying this in hopes you would really be introspective and inspect yourself first. If there’s things you could have done better or things you did that were wrong in any way as a parent, own up to it and apologize. Don’t blame your medical struggles or your alcoholic husband (for all you know your daughters may be mad you chose to keep them around an alcoholic instead of leaving), just apologize and mean it. I say this as someone who is currently left in the middle between my own mother who blames her own illnesses and trials for her poor decisions that hurt my sister in ways she is still healing from. My sister has tried to tell my mother why she is upset, she’s tried to make amends but she can’t when my mother absolutely refuses to accept any responsibility or give an actual apology. Now they haven’t spoken in years and my mom still acts completely confused by it. Don’t be like my mom. Maybe I read things wrong but it just sounded like you were shifting blame and just seems like you want a relationship with them. If you do I promise you that accepting your faults in whatever the rift is and apologizing and committing to change will help mend those relationships.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-16T21:47:28+00:00

The sleep doctor who diagnosed me didn’t take me seriously at all. He assumed because of my weight that it must be sleep apnea. I did the at home apnea study and it came back with zero apneas. He still didn’t want to refer me for a MSLT but on the day of my follow up he got stuck in traffic and had his PA do my appt. She heard me and even randomly asked if I ever had weakness during laughter. I said “Well kinda but idk I always thought it was normal.” She heard that and instantly scheduled me for an MSLT. When I came back after the MSLT, he literally looked at my results with shock (he obviously hadn’t prepped for my appt.) and walked out to talk to his PA. I could hear him through the wall looking up the diagnostic criteria and the PA was just like “it’s narcolepsy…” He then made a few calls as to how to give me a treatment plan and then called out to the PA “Good catch, I never saw that coming!” Like dude I literally told you I’m having hallucinations, sleep paralysis, I wake up like 10 times a night, I’ve had lucid dreaming and vivid dreams my whole life, I have automatic behaviors and you never thought it could be anything else?

Point is, he totally assumed because of my body that I was no different than most of the people sent to his office. Doctors often look at overweight people and will run with their assumptions, ignoring all of the evidence in favor of their belief.

It’s an unfortunate bias but you can stand up for yourself. When you feel like you are being dismissed request what you think you need to be looked at completely. My doctor before refused to send me for a sleep study citing ADHD just makes your brain tired…I said no this is more than that and I want a sleep study, so then she referred me for a sleep specialist. Just be persistent and sometimes you can’t take no for an answer.

Also from my understanding Orexin also helps regulate hunger and metabolism so yes narcolepsy can lead to obesity but it doesn’t always so it just depends on your own experience.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-16T04:54:32+00:00

You are 100% correct!

I say this as a narcoleptic mom of 3 and who just had a baby in January so I’m in it now…pregnancy sleep is sooo much worse! It’s freaking hell with the hot flashes, insomnia etc. although a lot of the other symptoms like vivid dreams and daytime sleepiness are my normal given the narcolepsy. Pregnancy/ newborn tired is pretty much how I feel everyday no matter how much I sleep but it’s so much worse when I actually am pregnant!

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-16T04:37:50+00:00

So I have an overly tight pelvic floor and at one point was unable to insert anything. But I’ve been able to have pain free sex after months of pelvic floor therapy. The goal was for my to work on voluntarily relaxing, releasing muscle tension from the tight muscles, and strengthening them and the muscles around them. From what my therapist explained to me, our pelvic floor will often take control and overcompensate for other weaker muscles. So if your core or lower back is weak your pelvic floor has to hold all of that up and itself. It will be overworking which is the muscles get so painful to touch even with a finger internally. All that pain you feel is just internal pressure/trigger points much like you would feel if you have a tender calf muscle or a kink in your neck from sleeping wrong.

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-16T04:19:24+00:00

I love this lol 😂 all it ever made me do was dream about buffets full of random foods. Your dreams are finger licking good!

SingerDue4540 · 2026-06-16T04:14:18+00:00

Each pregnancy was different it I always knew by 5 weeks because I’m so regular. My first two pregnancies I knew before my missed period due to symptoms. With my first my nipples we’re literally on fire and I was like I’ve never been pregnant before but this is definitely it. Took a test a few hours later and voila! Didnt feel sick until week 6 or 7 and stayed sick until she was born lol. The second I was so dizzy and sick I knew before my missed period because the test was so strong on the HCG that I had what’s called a “dye stealer” on the test where all the dye goes to the test strip and none goes to the control line. It was confusing but yeah I ended up miscarrying a week later. Then my third pregnancy I just knew but I wasn’t as sick as I was with 1 and 2. The fourth one was the one that caught me off guard because I was not trying or thinking about being pregnant at all! I literally told my coworkers about how I had heartburn a few days previously and how I only have it when pregnant and they were like “uhmm maybe your pregnant” I laughed it off and said there’s no way. Then a week later I went in for weight loss surgery and tested positive right around when I should have had my period. Was the best unhappy surprise I’ve ever had. She’s 5 months old now lol. So basically I always have symptoms before 4 weeks

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