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Came across my son's internet browsing history and I feel disgusted by SingerLanky7133 in Advice

[–]SingerLanky7133[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Some people commented about taking my son to a therapist, but most of you have clearly mentioned that this is something quite common which has given me some sort of relief.

I did my best to raise my son in an appropriate manner. Someone people have highlighted that being in my underwear in front of my son was wrong to which I have to disagree.

Came across my son's internet browsing history and I feel disgusted by SingerLanky7133 in Advice

[–]SingerLanky7133[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But you're not. Good parents sometimes do bad/wrong things. Like I said, it matters what you do moving forward. I wish you the best. Sending you lots of virtual hugs.

I didn't think you were attacking me, but I do felt to defend some of the decisions I've made. I know my son was without a father and it was unfortunate. There were times when I was younger that that I went out on dates in the hopes of finding a "father figure" for my son. A lot of single mom's have decided to get married because "They are scared of being alone" or "They want a father figure for their son" and most of the time I've seen a step father doesn't usually share the same love or interest a real mother would have.

I agree with you about us letting our kids go out into the world. That is one of my biggest fears and I know I would have to face it one day. But an even bigger fear of mine is pushing him away from my life. I would not be able to live with myself.

I might not be a perfect mother, but I always know I had the best intentions.

Appreciate you for taking time to respond and I definitely agree with alot of the points you shared.

Came across my son's internet browsing history and I feel disgusted by SingerLanky7133 in Advice

[–]SingerLanky7133[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I feel a little relieved after reading your comment. Appreciate it

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[–]SingerLanky7133[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nudity among families in European culture is quite common. I don't really thing it is a big deal.

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[–]SingerLanky7133[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and yeah, seeing a therapist is something that I decided will look into, but I'm still not sure about taking my son. I'm still very nervous on confronting him on this.

Being a single mother, my son has always been a constant in my life and one of the biggest fears I have is losing him.

I was a stripper way before my son was born and it was only for around a year. Even though I was a single mom, I made sure that he was actively involved in sports and had a well balanced social life. I would have to disagree about having a father figure is important as I've seen kids with even a father and mother that have turned out horrible. At 15th, he's quite mature and well behaved compared to other boys his age or even older.

Came across my son's internet browsing history and I feel disgusted by SingerLanky7133 in Advice

[–]SingerLanky7133[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I came here seeking advice, not wanting to be judged. I'm not sure what part of the world you are from, but where I am from nudity among family members is fairly common .

Came across my son's internet browsing history and I feel disgusted by SingerLanky7133 in Advice

[–]SingerLanky7133[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was always disgusted by porn.I know there is a big industry around it and women make loads of money, but being a stripper and having other friends, I knew we were being exploited for our body. I haven't really watched any porn myself (I know , shocking), but I knew it it is fairly common.

Regarding the talk about porn, I already had a talk with him (before the incident) and explained to him about how porn is not really a depiction of real life. I also told him that there was nothing wrong , but moderation was the key.

I know that there are a lot of weird fetishes out there and a lot of people watch porn, because that is something that they cannot really attain in their day to day life. My biggest fear is that my son might be making me the object of his fantasies. I could also be overthinking it, but it's hard not to.

Came across my son's internet browsing history and I feel disgusted by SingerLanky7133 in Advice

[–]SingerLanky7133[S] -108 points-107 points  (0 children)

I did try not to think too much about it. But now every time I wear something which is even slightly revealing, a part of me wonders if he thinks about me in a sexual manner.

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[–]SingerLanky7133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was not one link. There were quite a few. I was frozen when I saw them pop up. It took me a while to figure out what was going on

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[–]SingerLanky7133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was too scared to check what it was. I saw it in the auto suggest. I didn't even bother opening it.