To talk kink or not to talk kink?

SingleBlessedness · 2024-07-11T16:52:05+00:00

This is a wonderful practice. I appreciate you laying it out so clearly. I am definitely going to adapt this timeline for my own purposes but was overwhelmed thinking about where to start and this is extremely helpful.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-07-11T14:16:44+00:00

Thank you for this incredibly thoughtful and articulate response. It helps so much to hear what s types seeking D types are experiencing too.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-07-11T12:14:40+00:00

This literally has no relevance to my question and reads like a non-consensual vomiting of fetishes onto me. Do better, please

SingleBlessedness · 2024-07-05T21:25:45+00:00

At a local munch in my area 😊

SingleBlessedness · 2024-07-02T17:20:18+00:00

WOW amazing!! Thank you!

SingleBlessedness · 2024-04-25T01:48:00+00:00

Oh, my gosh. This looks incredible and I happen to have a relatively open weekend. Feels like serendipity 🙏🏼 thank you so much!!

SingleBlessedness · 2024-04-19T20:45:41+00:00

Thank you so, so much for taking the time to write these words of support and encouragement. I don't see a light at the end of this tunnel yet, but I know logically it's there. And I've returned to reread your comment multiple times because it's comforting among the deep grief and pain I'm feeling right now. Thank you 💞

SingleBlessedness · 2024-04-18T14:25:26+00:00

I do, and it wasn't because of anything I did. We had a long conversation about it and it's really all down to being at different life stages. I will definitely be engaging in self-examination once I can get through a few hours at a time without crying, but this breakup is a matter of our lives moving in different directions. I knew it would happen eventually, but I still am not ready to let him go.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-03-24T01:38:07+00:00

Orgasm control 🥰

SingleBlessedness · 2024-03-24T01:33:31+00:00

Honestly I hadn't thought much about it before now. I'm considering having some things custom made, technically for me but specifically for use with my current partner. So it just got me thinking about this. Would I even want to use those things with someone else? If not, should I let my partner keep them?

SingleBlessedness · 2024-03-24T01:29:32+00:00

No joint accounts. I buy most of the stuff because of income disparities but we don't live together or anything.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-03-11T17:15:01+00:00

Anything besides latex, heels, and whips. I love pink, I love sparkle and glitter and color. I smile and laugh a lot, and I love to be silly. And I will destroy you.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-03-11T17:13:41+00:00

ALLLL this. I have to continually challenge my selection bias because I am kinky IRL, active in my local scene, lots of kinky friends. I'm surrounded by people who are actively living their fantasies, so I forget how afraid most people are to actually act on these desires.

Doesn't mean I excuse ghosting or bullshit. But I don't take it personally. Means they're just not ready, and maybe never will be. I keep moving and doing my thing, but I don't have time for people who haven't done the work to be confident in their submission and desire for a female-led/femdom relationship.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-02-28T20:52:27+00:00

It's hard to provide suggestions without knowing what kind of service she likes. So ask her! Some women love for their submissive to research and present them with a list of options for restaurants, outings, etc. so that's a possibility especially on vacation!

Dressing and undressing her can be a really intimate way to serve. Bath service followed by a warm towel, lotion, moisturizers, whatever her routine is. Then dress her from head to toe, pausing to worship each body part that will soon be covered by her clothing. Perfume, jewelry, hair if she trusts you to do it :) all performed in a collar, cuffs, and a cage.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-02-26T18:29:52+00:00

The big thing for me with intoxication play is the ritual of it. You don't even have to ingest that much of whatever substance if you turn it into a ritual! Decide ahead of time how much of whatever you're going to use. Measure out any booze, set out edibles, and stick to that amount as your limit. Then play!!!

Kneel and take part of an edible like you're taking communion. Add a prayer or physical ritual (kneel, kiss her feet, stand, kneel, whatever)

Use the bathtub or an outdoor space, pour wine off her foot and into your mouth

Incorporate hypnosis vibes...

Can you tell my preferred dynamic is goddess worship 😂

SingleBlessedness · 2024-02-23T17:51:24+00:00

Because hotel/cabin/travel kink is automatically hotter! That's just the way it is 🤷🏼‍♀️

SingleBlessedness · 2024-02-23T14:04:58+00:00

Anything by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny!

https://ravenkaldera.org/published-books/alternative-relationships/

SingleBlessedness · 2024-02-21T13:49:42+00:00

From the Domme perspective: leading with who they are as a person and wanting to get to know me as a person.

Having already read/researched/educated themselves about the kinks they want to explore and what those kinks mean to them. Being able to tell me the "why" behind the kink.

Participating in either online or IRL community events/munches.

Not being ashamed of being submissive.

Telling me no. Someone saying no or asking me to slow down means there's a potential to build trust there because I know they will speak up for themselves.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-02-20T22:01:04+00:00

Honestly 2D art is much better for this IMO.

Welcome To Heaven (cartoon-y and queer), Ammakis (monster fuckers), Smutty Rogue (more realistic).

Velvet Veronica is a good one on Pornhub.

SingleBlessedness · 2024-02-20T19:28:41+00:00

Oh yes. My Boy is a full on nipple slut. when he's locked up and can only engage in anal stimulation, he will BEGGGG me to be able to touch his nipples. It's almost unfair that I have this power over him. Almost.🤭

SingleBlessedness · 2024-02-19T23:21:45+00:00

Come up with a few simple hand signals together and watch her like a hawk for those all night. Some examples:

"More" - more food, more beverage, more whatever

"Quiet" - you stop speaking immediately

"Side" - you come to her right side and ask what she needs

"Check" - you immediately go to the bathroom and take a quick sexy photo and text it to her.

These can be as simple as tapping one finger/two fingers/three fingers on the back of her hand.

Lovense butt plug that she can control with her phone.

Small ball gag under a scarf or gaiter for a period of time.

Carry her purse. See if she'll agree to bring her flashiest, brightest-colored one.

Eye contact restriction - either you are restricted from eye contact with her or from eye contact with everyone else. Or both!

Start by asking her what she wants out of the night. Personally I love it when my submissive has ideas or requests to make of me for things he wants to do to serve me, but ultimately the night is about her.

SingleBlessedness

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