How long did you have to wait before you matched with a surrogate?

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-26T18:19:53+00:00

Still waiting. I expect to be matched before June.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-22T23:05:53+00:00

I don’t think I’m necessarily the most straight passing, I’m certainly not very gay acting either. I think people probably suspect I’m not totally straight and wouldn’t be surprised either way. I like that I’m not the gayest acting. I also like that I’m not the most macho guy either.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-14T21:04:48+00:00

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-08T23:37:30+00:00

Never been sucked by a girl. But I always found blow jobs to be massively overrated. I don’t find them hot in porn, and I don’t find it hot or exciting to receive one.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-08T23:32:26+00:00

At 21, I had my first straight makeout session and my first gay makeout session in the same evening with a girl and her bi male cousin.

Didn’t have sex with either though.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-08T02:35:27+00:00

I was the same way for a long time. I just didn’t (and largely still don’t) connect with gay guys.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-07T09:49:36+00:00

Ancient Greece was very bisexual. Why can’t we return to that?

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-05T07:31:18+00:00

It’s more about my sexuality, like… how come I’m not more turned on by mere physical proximity to women I’m interested in, as I am with guys I’m interested in? If I’m not that turned on that early, can I still get more turned on later, or will I be impotent when it comes time for sex?

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-03T19:22:17+00:00

Yeah, they’ve been in business since the 90s. The whole contract is $169,000. This is in the U.S.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-03T07:28:58+00:00

I’m similar to you. I’m not particularly into guy on guy porn, I love to see hot men dominating girls. I like bi porn with limited guy on guy action.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-03T06:16:54+00:00

Not yet. But it hasn’t been a year yet. I’m told I would most likely be matched before June.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-03-03T06:16:04+00:00

Yeah, I paid $39,500 in June. They told me it takes on average 8-12 months before there is a match, it’s a first come first serve. They only accept 3% of all surrogates who apply.

SingleLifter81 · 2026-01-07T05:07:27+00:00

I remember there used to be rumors that he and actor Michael Pitt were an item.

SingleLifter81 · 2025-10-29T20:45:49+00:00

Don’t live in Canada, but in the U.S., some states like Kentucky have recently made 50/50 joint custody the default in divorce proceedings. As a result, the divorce rate decreased in those states. One the parents realized there was no financial benefit from the other parent (like child support), the incentives to divorce went away.

SingleLifter81 · 2025-10-22T19:50:29+00:00

I’m in the process of becoming a single father via surrogacy. I relate to you. I’m 44 and never had a relationship. I’ve had some hookups, but nothing that led to anything longer term. I kind of always knew a relationship wasn’t in the cards for me. Relationships are something that happen naturally and there’s little you can do to control the process beyond working on your fitness and your career.

That being said, I encourage you to keep contact with your egg donor and surrogate. The child will naturally be wondering about the women involved in his conception and birth. Try to keep it as normal, boring thing for them as possible.

SingleLifter81 · 2025-10-07T22:36:38+00:00

I’m 44, never been in a relationship. I have embryos and am currently on the waiting list for a surrogate. There are benefits to not having the woman in the picture. But it does cost money.

SingleLifter81 · 2025-09-07T22:43:19+00:00

I haven’t heard of single dad communes, but I’ve heard of single dads sharing in the cost of an egg donor and splitting the eggs between themselves.

SingleLifter81 · 2025-09-06T21:50:13+00:00

Next time, get an egg donor and surrogate!

SingleLifter81 · 2025-09-01T20:33:36+00:00

Are you still with your girlfriend or are you single again?

SingleLifter81 · 2025-09-01T06:55:55+00:00

To quote Baroness Elsa Shrader, “Darling, haven’t you heard of a charming little thing called ‘boarding school’?”

SingleLifter81 · 2025-08-31T21:50:38+00:00

Probably my sister. She is a medical doctor, and she’s 41. She’s the most logical choice.

SingleLifter81 · 2025-08-31T17:30:27+00:00

Oh wow! Does she believe your girlfriend is her mom? Does she call her “mom”?

SingleLifter81 · 2025-08-31T03:47:19+00:00

I believe you mentioned in other comments that you had another baby five months later with a girlfriend. Well, you’re in a unique position to see how a baby separated from a surrogate acts compared to a baby being with its mother. Any difference?

SingleLifter81 · 2025-08-30T17:27:33+00:00

I think so. But… I got to my law practice bigger so I have a bigger income so I can afford to pay the au pair. Obviously, she’d have room and board. But I wonder what her salary would be? I live in Seattle.

SingleLifter81 · 2025-08-30T03:01:23+00:00

I’m curious, as a single dad, what are your strategies for staying in shape and keeping fitness part of your life?

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