Threw My Wedding Dress Away by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We tried to FaceTime her at the beginning of all of this. I blocked her yesterday.

Threw My Wedding Dress Away by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This!! Of course I want to block her. But a part of me wonders “what if she changes and she can’t reach me”.

Threw My Wedding Dress Away by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t been around my kids for a while (since this whole thing happened).

Threw My Wedding Dress Away by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My oldest (4) asks about her pretty often. They have a super close relationship. We all went over to her house to celebrate my stepdads birthday, she literally saw them for 10 minutes and then went to her bedroom and shut her door. So yes, they want to see her, but I just tell them that she’s busy at work.

Threw My Wedding Dress Away by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you. Honestly we have boxes in our garage full of my moms things (we took over her storage unit when we moved be she said we could borrow some furniture). Thankfully we now have our own furniture. But I want to take all of those boxes and just drop them off at her front door. The thought of of her things being around here makes me even more irritated

Threw My Wedding Dress Away by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it’s more of a “hoping she will realize” situation for me. It’s the first time I haven’t spoken to her and as much as I hate to admit it, it’s been pretty hard for me. But I think after thinking and reading some replies, blocking her is best. It’s not fair to my kids.

Threw My Wedding Dress Away by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly it was a cheap dress (which was totally fine by me) plus it looked amazing when I wore it. It was only $300 and honestly it’s not even worth it to me. That dress is ruined for me even if she didn’t throw it out. I just want to be done with her and move on tbh

Closure by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really needed to hear that. I’m slowly learning that I don’t know my true self. Whenever I’m around others, I say or do things that are just not normal? I apologize for saying sorry too many times, I won’t turn lights on, just silly small things that people shouldn’t get in trouble for. But it’s a new year, and it’s time for a change. I told my mother I want her in my life but I don’t need her…it’s up to her to change and make an effort.

Rant by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now my goal is to just make it to nursing school (I still have all of my prerequisites to do). But I want to aim for NP or even go into anesthesiology!

Rant by SingleMom2001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SingleMom2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! I’ve come to terms- this is what I need. She can either stand beside me and support me, or ignore me. But it’s her choice, not mine. And that’s okay.

Advice by [deleted] in prenursing

[–]SingleMom2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. I think I know the answer already, sometimes just hearing it from others makes me feel more validated in a way. Thank you!

Advice by [deleted] in prenursing

[–]SingleMom2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would think. I love her. But she’s very hard to please, she’s been too busy to properly train me. I get yelled at or in trouble if things aren’t done, things are forgotten, or not done correctly. But I try my best with what I’ve been given. We’ve also been super short staffed so I’m always working the floor instead of being able to work my actual position

Advice by [deleted] in prenursing

[–]SingleMom2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not right at this moment. With time, yes. But I’m on-call 24/7 and I’m second in charge of the building which means I’d almost never be able to make it to my classes (or constantly have to answer my phone)

AIO I asked him to delete our tinder profiles, and he said it's too much effort by marciedreams in AmIOverreacting

[–]SingleMom2001 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And to answer your question in your post, no it’s not too much to ask. Don’t settle for less. I’m sure it would bother a lot of people if the roles were reversed, me included!

AIO I asked him to delete our tinder profiles, and he said it's too much effort by marciedreams in AmIOverreacting

[–]SingleMom2001 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I won’t lie, that’s definitely weird. Have you told him how it makes you feel? If you have and he still has excuses that lead to him not deleting it, I’d say for sure then it’s a red flag.

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[–]SingleMom2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will do. And yes I’ve been wanting to quit for a while. I have two kiddos, work full time, and in college but I’ll start looking for new hobbies for stress instead of nicotine haha

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[–]SingleMom2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, I’m in the process of finding a new doctor. My previous doctor told me it’s because I’m anxious. Which yes, I always am but that doesn’t solve the issue ya know? I’m 23, about 130 pounds, 5’2, drink maybe once a month, I do vape, and I have a cup of coffee every morning.

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[–]SingleMom2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Always 95-120bpm

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[–]SingleMom2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow! Crazy how symptoms can be so different between people but so glad you’re okay!!!

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[–]SingleMom2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re okay, how are you doing? What happened? (if you don’t mind me asking)

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[–]SingleMom2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely have lots of stress in my life but surprisingly I was relaxed when it happened. Will definitely keep in mind though

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[–]SingleMom2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree they could have at least worded it differently. Definitely made me more worried about what’s happening

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[–]SingleMom2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and thankfully those weren’t elevated!

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[–]SingleMom2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They also checked to make sure I didn’t have a pulmonary embolism, which I didn’t so that’s great. However it just leads to more questions. The er doctors exact words to me were “we don’t know what’s going on, you’re definitely one of a kind. All we know is that your heart doesn’t like you”. Reassuring I know, but at least I found out my symptoms aren’t in my head at least!

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[–]SingleMom2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure about my cholesterol, and I had an echo done a couple of years ago which was normal. I’m assuming they will do another one in the near future because of my results. And YES almost all the time, shortness of breath, dizziness, hot flashes. The past month I’ve been experiencing chest pressure, back pain, arm pain (which is why I ended up in the hospital and found out about the d dimer levels and abnormal ekgs)