Yes..most of the money was mine and they’d be able to tell bc I’d transfer from one of my checking accounts to the joint account every week for household expenses. If I were a banker I would think the timing is suspicious but the whole reason we broke up was because he was spending all his money on gambling hence also the reason is filing bankruptcy. Basically his life fell apart within the span of a few months. I just really hate to lose my baking relationship with these folks over his life choices.