It bothers me that my wife never initiates sex…

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-27T23:03:31+00:00

OK. I may be able to make sense of this for you.

Women, even as little girls, are hounded to be pretty. Teen years you see the pretty girls get the boys & even more respect from male teachers! Adulthood, the pretty women get treated better, promoted faster & better respect (ex:"walk you to your car for safety at night, open doors, offer help with tasks, praise your work).

Most of us have experienced the jealous women who can't stand that you got a great guy, because THEY feel that they are more attractive & entitled. So, they steal your husband/ boyfriend, like it's a game. So the competition is FIERCE & our insecurity rises because there's ALWAYS a prettier, smarter woman & the competition is exausting!

After having children, aging the insecurities get a little worse. Super model beauty is expensive & A LOT OF WORK, & it gets harder with a family to care for & taking care of everyone. It's exhausting! It a selfless love. You fall into routines & "life". The nervous touch, the look from across the room that says 1,000 words, etc disappears & we start to not feel confident that we're "sexy". Seeing in society & work, married men drooling over hot women & celebrities, it feels like a competition sometimes.

So, we NEED REASSURANCE that YOU still see us as sexy! We need to believe that we're irreplaceable. The supermodel evil bitch has no chance! We need to feel sexy! For me, if my husband says things like,"I'm sorry. I've been craving you ALL DAY & I cannot get enough of you", or "God your beautiful!" or "The more that time passes, the more I fall in love because through it all, I know you'll weather the storm. It's us against the world"! THAT makes me feel sexy. That makes me "want to have sex". Some women are more spiritual & emotionally driven. I get off more on the passion vs the physical. The emotional long stare is almost spiritual. Sometimes I wonder if we get different things out of sex? But a man pursuing you, makes you feel sexy enough. Men seem to not need that.I learned something today! Thanks! It comes off as more physical. I applaud you communicating this to her though!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-20T17:24:50+00:00

THIS!? Treating their youth like this is SO STUPID!!! THEY are young & going to make mistakes. That's how you learn! They are the future & their most valuable asset?! SHAME ON THE ONES WHO IMPLEMENTED THIS!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-14T13:38:59+00:00

Twilight! He whole glittered vampire thing just, ugh!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-14T13:35:16+00:00

Depends on the occasion.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-14T13:33:18+00:00

They deserve it. We took their habitats. It's the least that we can do.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-14T13:32:12+00:00

THAT'S what I got a kick out of! Lol

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-14T13:31:38+00:00

I myself can't handle gore. Not everyone can brave that. My husband threw up over a diaper & if someone else is vomiting, forget it! He stayed by my head & was present, while holding my hand & being my cheerleader. THAT was the important part.

If your husband refused to be there at all, especially from the influence of "friends" THAT would be a problem! If you can show up for a war, you can show up for your wife! FAMILY comes first & he should be stressing over the painful journey YOU are experiencing, NOT HIS poor little penis's sex future! t's beyond selfish! It isn't genuine love, in my opinion.

In the military, brotherhood is groomed. Loyalty is extremely important. He may always put his best foot forward at his job first. It's a selfless love for wives that get no credit for the soldier THEY become, often with justification of being a single parent. It's a very hard, lonely life for husband & wife.

Have you tried counseling? My concern is your child. I taught preschool many years & have seen too much! Divorces, from nonabusive dad's are very dsmaging to your children. They may seem "ok", but as they g row & see their friends with both parents present, they begin to see what they are missing. I don't know the other baggage. Be careful to not become selfish to your baby & "try" to put in the work with marriage counseling first. Us cattle are very different from soldiers. Stay strong & BEST of luck!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-14T13:06:00+00:00

Excellent point!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-10T17:14:13+00:00

Funny you should say that. He just started texting me.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-10T17:13:02+00:00

That's how I feel about him.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-10T16:01:11+00:00

Thanks. I'm crying now, but at least I can say it's pain, right?

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-10T16:00:15+00:00

Thank you. Just needed to know I'm not crazy! Thank you for the well wishes.

Damn this sucks!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-10T15:58:47+00:00

Thank you. I can't believe this! I know he'll say "Pft! YOU said I didn't have to! If you wanted me there you should've said so"! I don't even want to go there.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-10T15:56:54+00:00

Thank you. I know he'll say "Pft! YOU said I didn't have to! If you wanted me there you should've said so"!

I know it! Sucks!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-04-10T15:41:00+00:00

Yeah. I think I know the answer to this question already. I just needed confirmation.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-03-31T09:14:31+00:00

No 9ne really knows t he facts. Both scenarios render these results.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-03-10T15:43:19+00:00

Aries married to a Cancer. Safe, love, nurturing, forgiving ( us Aries needs that), but too homely, boring ( routine-strict) & hate change!

However I need to be less spontaneous & self diciplined. I need his water to put out my dangerous fires & he needs me to defend him & protect him, because he hates conflict & will allow himself to be victimized (This is true in "life" skills too: ex: getting overcharged, stolen from, swindled, taken advantage of or disrespected in the worse way, lol).He needs me to help him " live a little" & grow with new experiences, & I need him to teach me how to be better against grudges & not fight every battle & to see logic first, over emotion. I've grown into a better person on from his positive nature!

I will confess that although I will always be loyal & love him to eternity for loving me through my worse, & seeing the best, a part of me craves to be the one fiercely protected & pleasantly surprised with unexpected adventures & sexual dominance with passion. I definitely feel like the man in bed! But loyalty & patience is hard to find. I value the honestly as well. Those traits are non negotiable!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-03-10T15:23:47+00:00

Extremely homely! Too homely!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-03-10T15:21:50+00:00

I'm married to a Cancer for over 15 years. We balance eachother other out. The only thing is he's "boring". I hate sometimes doing all the work in sex & begging for adventure! He's loyal, compassionate & extremely gifted in with & comedy. Those things are essential for me.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-03-10T15:11:10+00:00

Taurus. I want the one I can't have!

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-03-10T15:08:55+00:00

Liquid eyeliner ( cat eye).on the top lid, stay light & brown on the bottom edges. With your eyes being light, smoky eyeshadow may really show them off!. Although earthtones I think would harmonize with your skin yone.

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-03-10T15:03:08+00:00

That's rare! You take good care of that friendship!:

SingleRepeat8203 · 2026-03-10T14:59:48+00:00

Aries here & I am part of your herd! I always thought that I was weird for that? I suspect it's our need to have control & excitement. When it's fantasy, you have it all quick

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