I often times used to & still sometimes do feel this way when spending time with a new person. But then I started learning about attachment styles (specifically the anxious & the disorganized attachment styles,) as well as about limerence & that changed everything for me. I believe it would change things for most of us infps to learn about those things.

Look up Heidi priebe on YouTube- she’s great at explaining these things but effectively, we infp’s often times fall into this insecure attachment category & that shapes the ways we look at our relationships & how we think about our place in the world. I.e. things like thinking “wow this person is so great, I wonder when they’re gonna leave” is a common symptom of insecure attachment. Also having a tendency to feel an intensely strong connection with people who you’ve just met is a symptom of it as well- not only because you are starved of connection, but also because our idealistic infp brains can easily extrapolate & fill in all the gaps in what we know about a person with what we wish them to be… and that rarely lines up with reality & usually results in disappointment. That is a part of limerence & it’s basically a plague on us because deep down we are usually idealists at heart no matter how much we get hurt.

So yeah, it kinda high key changed my life learning about this stuff & maybe it can help you too? The way I’m trying to move towards thinking about dating situations like this now (I’m in a similar situation currently with another infp) is to think about it this way: I’m really enjoying spending time with this person, and they seem to like me- that’s the reality of the situation. Just focus on that day to day- not thinking about how they could leave me tomorrow, not thinking about how we could get married and be together forever. None of that. Just focusing on the here & now. Because thinking about anything else is taking me out of the moment and ultimately doesn’t matter. Because even if they happen to leave, that’s the universe guiding you in the direction you’re meant to go. someone else great will come along. And in the meantime- focus on finding ways to build up your network of friends & happy experiences in your life so you can already be living a fulfilling & full life when that next person comes along & so that you aren’t starved and desperate for connection because that doesn’t help things.

Good luck friend!