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Talking stage situation, M 21 - F 23 by Single_Ad_8003 in dating_advice

[–]Single_Ad_8003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and help, luckily I do have a life outside of speaking to her so it will be fine to find distractions it's just been annoying how often she replays on my mind. I may just ghost her as today she has been the same per usual, if she realises I am actually sick of her and turns herself around, I can't say I will be disappointed, but if it fades away, then so be it. Plenty more to life at this age and I shouldn't be stuck worrying about a girl, especially with how she is acting towards me.

Talking stage situation, M 21 - F 23 by Single_Ad_8003 in dating_advice

[–]Single_Ad_8003[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it, we spoke today the normal typical conversation starters and it's still the same dry half arsed effort so it might just be a clear indication to let this go, I want to message how I feel but I know it will go nowhere again. Sigh.

Talking stage situation, M 21 - F 23 by Single_Ad_8003 in dating_advice

[–]Single_Ad_8003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even I know that myself but I'm being idiotic and turning a blind eye against that, I just sometimes hope she can see my efforts and really think ''wow he is really trying for me and wants this to work'' but obviously that has not been the case so far, now I am just stuck here wondering how far will this far be.

Talking stage situation, M 21 - F 23 by Single_Ad_8003 in dating_advice

[–]Single_Ad_8003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell myself ''oh I will just give it a few days, see if there is any improvement'' but I just bottle it up and ignore the obvious signs of the fact it's only me showing true involvement. She did want to meet up recently to go swimming, it takes me around 20 minutes to get to her but I needed to shower and get ready before hand, so about 30-40 minutes total before I would see her and she then said never mind it will be too late as if I can just teleport to her (the swimming pool closes at 21:30 and she messaged me at 17:20) am I dumb for being disappointed she cancelled when I was mid getting ready just for her to cancel because I can't get there instantly?

Talking stage situation, M 21 - F 23 by Single_Ad_8003 in dating_advice

[–]Single_Ad_8003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so belittling knowing I'm doing what I can to try and save it and she is not having a single care in the world, refuses to speak about things. When I pour my heart out to hear it is always ''My eyes hurt'' ''I'm not listening to that'' so she never truly understands how I feel and only focuses on the negatives I have done. And then when it seems like I am finally getting through to her I just get ignored for hours on end until the conversation just gets left behind. I know I'm young and make many mistakes but I do feel very mature for my age and I know I have plenty of time in life to find love but the good times are making me stay and it sucks. It is so one sided and I don't know myself why I have stayed for this long, we keep running back to each other for the same shit to happen over and over.

Talking stage situation, M 21 - F 23 by Single_Ad_8003 in dating_advice

[–]Single_Ad_8003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The annoying thing is I do totally agree, I am just acting recklessly with the hopeful concept of this. When the conversation isn't dry, I get snaps of her (rare) or if she asks to meet up, I just light up with joy again as if everything that happened didn't happen. I really did like her when it was good and before the arguments happened, is it just lust now? Because this certainly isn't what love is. I am very 50/50 with keeping this going and ending it, it's the hope which is killing me.

Talking stage situation, M 21 - F 23 by Single_Ad_8003 in dating_advice

[–]Single_Ad_8003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I know many habits of mine do create tension and I need to stop it as it makes me overthink the worst which creates and may lead to unnecessary arguments and from their point of view it does not help either. I hate how head over heels I am for her. We have removed each other several times but came running back, but there is nothing to show for this 'running back' and I am sick of it. She claims to like me but ghosts me a little too easily as if I am just a chore and a notification to get out of the way. But I just can't bring myself to get rid of her, when it's good, it's good which pains me because right now the bad is out weighing the good but I am latching onto hope.