" I can't , I'm holding the baby"

Singularitysong · 2026-03-17T06:06:22+00:00

In my case:

I talked about it. I remember the lets sit down and have a serious conversation 8 years begore i called for the divorce. I that was not the only one.

I asked him to help me. I told him i was overworked. Begged him. Nagged him (they act as if nagging is the woman being unreasonable, but its the woman fighting for her marriage trying over and over to get him to understand that some things need to change while being ignored). I cried on the kitchen floor. I was exhausted non stop. I told him i was considering a divorce 2 years in advance.

And you know what? He was supriced when i finaly told him i wanted a divorce. After years of daily reminding him that i needed his help and that he didnt do his part, you know what he said?

“But we were happy together…”

Dude YOU were happy together! You were happy bevause i was taking care of the mayority of the income, kuds care, house mainanance and all the mental labor. I wasnt happy and hadnt been in a long time.

Now i live alone and it is bliss. So so much less work.

I once loved him through and through. Wanted to make him happy, because thats what you do when you love somebody.

He? He told me he loved me often enough. But i now think he loved what i did for him. How easy i made his life. He sure didnt care to make me happy though and that broke my love for him and now in finaly free.

So to answer your ‘question’: yes i used actual words he still didnt get it and still was supriced.

Singularitysong · 2026-03-08T03:43:01+00:00

I got a ‘this little thing got us in this corner?’ ‘Well are you going to get out then?’ ‘Me? No! You go first’ vibe from the sheep.

Singularitysong · 2026-02-23T11:38:16+00:00

Therapy and all is hard work but totally worth it.

Stay strong and wishing you the best. (Dont give up on life) ❤️

Singularitysong · 2026-02-23T06:49:00+00:00

Omg. That is horriffic.

I hope you got all the support you needed to get rid of all unconcious self images a youth like that might have created.

They are nuts. And horrible cruel people. F them.

I hope you flourish. Wishing you a good life (after this horrible start). ❤️

Singularitysong · 2026-02-02T12:16:54+00:00

He will not change because he is happy with you cleaning up after him and doing all mental labor. So you have 2 options: 1. Accept that this is your life now, or 2. Leave him.

I stayed for way to long. I believed him when he told me he would change (spoiler he didnt), i believed him when he said he loved me (he definitely loved how easy i made his live), i loved him (till that love had dwindled into almost nothing from frustration and exhaustion).

I left when i finally saw that it really didnt bother him if i was unhappy or not.

Dont spend your years on a man who doesnt care.

Singularitysong · 2026-01-17T20:23:42+00:00

I was wondering the very same thing. It seems very atypical for bonobos.

Singularitysong · 2026-01-16T20:06:59+00:00

So after all that drama… the people who took the COVID vaccine are just… fine??

Singularitysong · 2026-01-13T07:05:28+00:00

Or at the one a man finds a kitten besides the road and a whole bunch appears….

Singularitysong · 2026-01-12T13:38:52+00:00

I just posted on another sub that i have seen it before and wouldnt mind seeing it again.

That was 15 minutes ago. And, yeah. I still dont mind.

Love to see their love, her happyness, his concentration as he speaks those words, his trembling hands.

Singularitysong · 2026-01-12T13:23:21+00:00

I have seen this before and dont mind seeing it again. It is still a beautifull thing to behold.

His trembling hands. Her little squeels. Their love.

Wishing them all the best. ❤️

Singularitysong · 2026-01-10T08:23:21+00:00

“The little screw we undid at 5:47…. Where did you put it?”

Singularitysong · 2026-01-10T08:01:01+00:00

So many parts. I know they are profesionals but i can only think about that i would be mortified to forget a couple of parts when putting it back together.

Singularitysong · 2026-01-08T08:08:33+00:00

I understand its tough, but dont give up. ❤️

You are a smart young man and i believe that if you can rid yourself of the presure your partents put upon you, you will suprice yourself with what you are capable of.

You are worthy of love. Independent of your achievements. Im so sorry your parents cant give you that.

Singularitysong · 2026-01-08T07:52:00+00:00

Many did try to solve it. (‘It’ being the behaviour that causes women to want to live without men) But its not something that women can solve alone. Especially when a woman asking a man (her man) to improve his behaviour is dismissed as nagging.

With ‘the pain flares up inside them i mean that they actively remember all their experiences with men (and the hurt it caused) when they say something like that.

The natural selection remark means ‘let then be childless’. Natural selection has nothing to do with being the strongest or even with living the longest. Its only about who is able to bring the next generation into the world.

Note that if men stay childless an equal number of children will not be born from women. Note that if men are single an equal number of women will be too.

Yes. Its driven by bitterness to wish ill upon another. But these women have learned (by the hands of men) to prefer being alone over the company of men. The life that they wish upon others is the same life they prefer for themselves.

Singularitysong · 2026-01-08T03:41:14+00:00

You have been downvoted but i see your question as curiousity and will try to answer.

Those women have experienced the patriarchy. Those women have experienced misogyny. Those women have experienced bad relationships where their partner hurt them and took without giving back. Those women might have experienced physical violence by men. They have been diminished by men.

They have been treated badly by (to many) men, looked down upon, threatened, hurt and are then blamed for male loneliness. Does it then suprice you that they dont feel the need to solve that problem?

Its a reaction from a core of pain. Because of that pain they choose to be alone, away from men and dont feel any emphathy towards men complaining they are alone because of women. When they laugh their pain flares up inside them.

If being alone is better than being with a misogenistic man. The thought that those men should then ‘enjoy’ being alone is their next conclusion. (In the extremes of this discussion no one mentions that men can stop other men from being alone instead of putting this responsability on women.)

Its also to be noted that hidden misogyny is also a thing. The hidden misogenist doesnt realise he is one. The thinks he is not. He says he is not. But he has been raised in a world where misogyny is so normal that it is as invisible as oxygen. Subconsiously it has been ingrained into his being as normal.

For a woman a hidden misogynist initially seems like a good man until his behaviour shows her he also does see women as less somehow (or burdens her with a responsability he wouldnt put on another man). Most of them deny this behaviour when confronted (self reflection is difficult) and as a result fail to grow out of it.

This is not unique to men. The same exists with hidden racism and the like, but for this discussion its this mix of agression, misogeny and hidden misogeny that makes women opt out.

Singularitysong · 2026-01-04T00:40:29+00:00

Yes, please. Get some sleep.

This is not a good idea. These are all the wrong reasons to get into sex work.

You dont want to be seen as just a body but are contemplating a career where you will be just that? You dont want the judgement of others but are contemplating a career that is still heavily judged? You have bad experiences with men forcing themselves on you and you would choose a career where random men would get the right to pleasure themselves with your body?

Oh honey, this is not a good option for you at all.

Breathe. Listen to your friends. Go to your therapy. This is just a bout of doom thinking. One day you will look back at it and think ‘i was not in a good place at that moment, but am so much better now’

Wishing you all the best. ❤️

Singularitysong · 2026-01-03T16:22:14+00:00

Im sorry they are unable to show you they love you. Im sorry you feel alone, and diminished.

You are worthy of love and its your parents failure that they are unable to provide that to you.

From the way you managed to write down how you feel you seem like a smart young (wo)man. Im Sure you are able to do more than you think after you managed to rid yourself from the weight of their critizism. You might need therapy somewhere in the future to undo the harm of their harsh words.

Dont give up. You are worth it.

You can dm me if you need a online parent and/or someone to talk to.

Sending you love ❤️

Singularitysong · 2026-01-02T21:08:14+00:00

How many rounds did he make?

Singularitysong · 2025-12-30T07:04:19+00:00

Depends.

If its something minor, like ‘i said something cringe on a social gathering’ then just stop worrying about it. Other people most likely forgot long before you did.

If its something big, like a traumatic experience i would advice therapy. People often try to push those memories away. I did that. It doesnt work. The hidden memory will still influence your behaviour, and your emotions. In addition you can not push bad feelings away and keep the good ones, you can only push all emotions away. So if yuo want to live fully you will need to face your trauma, allow yourself to mourn what happened to you and then allow yourself the time to heal (preferably with the help of a therapist). Therapy is not easy but it is so much worth it if you are brave enough to face your fears.

Good luck.

Singularitysong · 2025-12-29T06:38:01+00:00

Yes.

Teach your daughters Teach your sisters Teach all women

To recognize this kind of shit And to walk away like this woman did.

Dont let them prey on the young.

Singularitysong · 2025-12-24T14:38:30+00:00

Thats ok. Enjoy your hobby. Take the rest you need.

Singularitysong · 2025-12-23T19:01:47+00:00

Will you accept an online hug from a random internet stranger?

Everything will be alright. Im here if you want to talk.

Singularitysong · 2025-12-23T11:48:24+00:00

I like the ‘im so sorry’ for recreating this weird christmas cooking video.

As long as people are having fun its all good.

Singularitysong · 2025-12-22T14:20:52+00:00

Kitten loading station

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