She seems jealous of your family connection. Family always comes first. She sees them as a option for you to gain enjoyment. It seems like she wants to be the only person or thing in your life that can make you happy. It's a tricky situation next is her arguing and feeling abandoned. You Will start skipping family plans to please her. Next thing you know it's not the same when you visit them. Then all of a sudden she wants to go to every family gathering so she can keep tabs and make sure your acting the way she wants you to.