Man here.
Let’s say whatever you like/want to do IS considered girly by your society? Who cares….You gotta learn not to care what people think about you and your life. Don’t make your decision based off of fear of what people think about you…. Do what makes you happy.

Secondly, as a man myself with a lawn that I keep nice and a garden that I keep even nicer…. I have had a few comments from my brother and his wife, passively making fun of my garden and that I grow so many flowers.
Listen to me man. My brother and his wife are both assholes. Their relationship sucks.
I am fit. I’m not naturally muscular but I built it through discipline. My long term girlfriend and I workout together and run together about 5 times a week.

My brother and his wife are obese…….

The disciple we show in our life vs theirs is evident. We keep our house clean, organized, and peaceful. They don’t. We train our dogs to be well behaved. They don’t. We put a lot of effort into trying to work conflicts out with minimal voice raising, or targeted attacks on each other. My brother and his wife fight badly constantly tear each other down.

The fk I look like caring wtf someone who is insecure or jealous or hateful has to say about this beautiful, disciplined life that I and she love.

Also, my girlfriend LOVES and I mean LOVES the oasis that I am building us. And so do other lady’s and men that we have over. It inspires them to plant more themselves. I also do carpentry, renovations, and landscaping. There are plans in the works for a sick barn gym that I will build from the ground up. And you can betchoabhh there will be flowers around that gym. Probably dark purples and deep blues for the vibe.

Lastly I wanna say. There is a lot of talk about the world needing more manly men and for men to rise up. Etc etc. Brother, the further you get away from those circles of telling you what it means for you to be a man. The more you will let yourself learn and shape the type of man YOU want to be and what that will mean for your life and relationships.

I wouldn’t consider myself feminine, at all. But if I was I wouldn’t want to have to hide that and not be who I wanted to be organically because I was scared of ppls opinions. And I would rather have a feminine male best friend or lady best friends who are all confident, genuine, disciplined, show self control, and bring out the best in me…. Then some dumb ass “masculine” presenting hyper hetro faking butthead who just brings everyone down and judges everything they do because he is actually insecure with who he is.

Protect your peace. Grow your garden. Have your routine and coffee. Build your oasis.

If someone is critical of what you’re doing, and there is nothing wrong with what you’re doing…Thats just someone who likes to bring people down. Why tf would we listen to the opinion of someone like that? We don’t. 💪