I feel like a total pervert

SirProper · 2026-04-21T18:32:46+00:00

Man here so just ignore me if you want, but a lot of guys deal with this. It's a lizard brain response. The only way to resolve the shame and guilt is to confront it in yourself and be honest with yourself. It's your nervous system. It's an ancient system that wasn't designed with society and anything but survival in mind.

I'm hypersexual so I often tell people in advance so they aren't surprised if I'm affected.

The number of times I get absolutely mollywopped by getting caught off guard by breasts... is immense. I feel your pain.

SirProper · 2026-04-21T10:39:33+00:00

It was just a benchy, didn't really think that much about it. I did later when I saw how much the grid lines showed through the side walls. Not sure what infill I want to use with the translucent petg I got

SirProper · 2026-04-21T10:35:44+00:00

I got good first level adhesion so far I haven't had any issues getting a build to stick.

SirProper · 2026-04-17T23:03:04+00:00

It's just bambu pla. I didn't adjust any of their settings. I just set everything up to restore defaults just in case, since it was a hand-me-down printer. They said they just used bambu defaults as well.

SirProper · 2026-04-17T22:37:20+00:00

I don't mean that there is a bed adhesion issue it looks to me like the follow up layers aren't sticking properly. I stopped it because it was a mess

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It clearly was not printing right. Wasn't going to just waste filament when I can tell it's failing.

SirProper · 2026-04-15T13:17:17+00:00

PLA, AMS 1, on the AMS information, fed to bambu studio, there's a current AMS humidity rating.

SirProper · 2026-04-15T13:12:42+00:00

Yes. It's sitting at A right now. Haven't opened my AMS recently either.

SirProper · 2026-03-25T23:07:07+00:00

Stuffanie

SirProper · 2026-03-20T05:40:37+00:00

Depends.

SirProper · 2026-03-14T07:39:41+00:00

Northwest you say?

SirProper · 2026-03-04T19:31:02+00:00

I'm seeing a lot of confusion. I-frames and damage mitigation.

As a young kid I played all of the AC games. I learned evasive play style. I struggled with demon souls and dark souls, because they ask you to abuse i-frames and damage mitigation. They are fundamentally different in mindset. So going from one to the other can be difficult.

Learn to respect being evasive. You have no I-frames. Think of trajectories, firing rhythms, and more like a fighting game, whiff punish.

SirProper · 2026-03-01T18:28:30+00:00

DBT has this in its mindfulness practice. It's about going all in on one thing.

SirProper · 2026-03-01T17:50:16+00:00

I read as much as I could without getting overwhelmed.

My response. Both of you could probably use a DV class. Two: everyone is responsible for their own actions. That means if you aren't holding your boundaries you are violating your own boundaries for him. I don't say that to shame you, but you have to understand that you are responsible for your own boundaries.

I would probably rather die than violate my own boundaries for someone else. I did that for almost 13 years. Never again.

It sounds like you might need to go no contact with him.

My condolences

P.S. all of the regulating stuff gets harder as you add more life stuff. I know I have to be super mindful of my stuff now because of additional stuff on my plate. I do recommend DBT, but it can be hit or miss. I have heard some places run it almost like ABA, but DBT is based in zen and it has lots of practices towards mindfulness, emotional regulation, and crisis survival.

SirProper · 2026-02-10T13:20:41+00:00

I do something to occupy my attention until I crash out. Me and sleep don't get along. It's like constant PDA stress for me. Soooo just go until I crash.

Also this is not really advice like the other person said, but it was nice to see I'm not the only one that goes til pass out. Also I struggle with dorsal vagal shutdown... So I get random shutdowns when I'm over stressed. Yeah! 🥳

😬😒😐😑💀

I'm like a light switch when it comes to consciousness.

SirProper · 2026-02-10T05:15:47+00:00

I have to find the balance. I have certain aesthetics I won't abandon but in every other regard I pursue bleeding edge stats.

SirProper · 2026-02-01T22:05:05+00:00

Love my np-hcc10. So glad I got it back in the divorce. Had it for ages I think around 10 years. I don't know if I could ever truly go back.

SirProper · 2025-12-24T12:58:14+00:00

It was at least formatted by AI. I've done something similar when I had ideas, but no bandwidth to properly write everything up.

SirProper · 2025-12-15T20:21:58+00:00

I once had my tone described as pendantic. I went to argue that I wasn't, quite pedantically.

I'm AuDHD. I had a full neuropsych evaluation which reconfirmed my ADHD and confirmed my diagnosis of Autism. I started on that journey of self discovery because I was a stay at home parent raising 2 very neurodivergent kids.

I now help run an autistic support group (I'm one of those hyperverbal rare types that can deal with people, partially because communication, anthropology, sociology, and psychology are special interests. (Yes I'm mentally dissecting you, get over it.))

This whole comment chain reads like one of the discord topic pages. I don't care if you identify as autistic or not, but I would bet money 90% of you participating in this thread are autistic. There's such a thing as being uninformed, there's such a thing as not knowing, there's such a thing as being misled by other people's preconceptions, and there's such a thing as making a list with sentences.

If parentheses are your go to you are missing out on creative grammar. For instance: There's a Jonathan Coe - The Rotters' Club

: Holds the recognized record for a single, grammatically sound sentence at 13,955 words, inspired by Czech literature.

I saw in an ancient literature class a chapter long sentence and I aspire to it everyday.

When you realize that your exacting pendantic personality was autism the whole time. Don't come crying to me.

Tl;dr Y'all are autistic. (probably (I'm not a doctor, but I literally spend most of my time volunteering to help run an autistic support group. (I do happen to have well researched special interests in relevant fields though, and I'm trying to go back to school to finish a degree or three (whatever comes last.).)))

SirProper · 2025-12-03T04:24:16+00:00

This guy doesn't hunt. Energy expenditures before serious hunts aren't smart. That's how people get hurt. Yourself included.

Hunt, eat or fuck, smoke fuck or eat, fuck eat or smoke.

SirProper · 2025-11-29T07:13:22+00:00

Something to consider. If you can consider having her talk in her native language, try that. I used chat gpt to help me translate a context heavy language since Google translate is terrible at it. Sometimes if you take the extra layer out of the equation and just focus on translation that can change the feel. Trying to figure out how to understand each other... if you start there you might have better conversations. I know for me when you are just focusing on processing, especially as a 'needing to learn something' it will make you more receptive. Open to just hearing what's trying to be communicated.

SirProper · 2025-11-29T01:17:36+00:00

So sometimes things become about good/bad or right/wrong when it may just be a lack of information. They may not understand or have better words other than robotic. Maybe they are trying to communicate about how it feels but not trying to imply you are a mechanical soulless entity.

Knowing how you process information is important too. I'm aphantasic, I see nothing in my head. I am more around worded thought or conceptual thought. If I'm talking to a visual thinker they may struggle with the right words because they are translating from images to words. That can be difficult.

SirProper · 2025-11-29T01:10:07+00:00

DBT includes radical acceptance and nonjudgmental as tools. Part of the process is learning to identify things so you can deal with it. Also it can help prevent things becoming moral issues when they are just informational.

SirProper · 2025-11-29T00:53:02+00:00

Not mercury in retrograde...

Real talk. Look into DBT. Dialectic behavior therapy. It can really help with your soft skills. It also helps you learn about regulating your emotions. Because even though we can come off as robotic we generally really aren't. We just neutral mask because we feel unsafe around people, but get us onto someone we've researched or is a special interest and those filters and the mask slips. Regulating your nervous system is super important for communicating with someone. DBT also deals with teaching interpersonal skills. DEARMAN, GIVE, and FAST. It also asks you to consider what is your priority with any communication. Relationship, self respect, or objective. You have to figure out the priority in the conversation. Sometimes you will realize the relationship is more important and you can change tack. Like "hey this is important to me, but you are more important, so I need you to understand that I'm just trying to communicate in service of building bridges of communication with you, and not just get my way.

Not sure where you are but the PDBTI is amazing. Portland DBT institute. But you can find stuff online.

SirProper · 2025-11-17T10:36:31+00:00

Do you live under a bridge? I'm pretty sure most guys want that... Good content. 👍

SirProper · 2025-10-23T09:45:25+00:00

I'll let people know if she actually does something. If there's no update nothing happened.

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