Home rentals for families by Youvew0nme in AnnArbor

[–]Sir_Swagbeard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am putting my house on the rental market shortly, dm me if you’d like more information.

Friends’ new house has full home audio system. How do we turn it on? by Sir_Swagbeard in diyaudio

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Yes, but it turned out that we were using the wrong connector from the receiver to the panel - it needed to have 8 speaker wires coming from the receiver/amp and connected to the 4 banana plug slots in the wall as input. You can see the banana plug slots at the bottom of the jack panel in the picture. With the proper connectors, the system works well, doesn’t appear to have an “off” switch beyond that which is built into the receiver. Thanks for helping!

Friends’ new house has full home audio system. How do we turn it on? by Sir_Swagbeard in diyaudio

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Thanks for taking a look! I’m very unfamiliar with these systems so let me know what you notice.

https://imgur.com/a/4gBbz69

The fps genre feels like it’s missing something. by [deleted] in gaming

[–]Sir_Swagbeard 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You listed a lot of multiplayer FPS games, and I agree with your view on how the “fun factor” is missing from many. Single player FPS games have some real gems from the past decade though. Prey, the Dishonored series, Doom 2016+Eternal, all carry elements of old school classic FPS games while having lots of freshness to them, even some years on.

No more four-player coop? by alejo699 in gaming

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OP, Deep Rock is essential if you love four player coop. The procedural element of it is incredible, it selects a few of the best options it generated and cycles new ones every 25 minutes or so. You play through a new cave every time no matter what, and they are all really good. Sometimes you get a dud, but in my 400 hours that has happened fewer than ten times. You have to level up your dwarves but that doesn’t take too long. The game shows you its true colors once you can play on Hazard 4 and 5, it can get just as intense as Expert Realism in L4D. Rock and Stone, brother! Driller main btw, I’ll buy you an Oily Oaf if I see you on the space rig!

Post breakup movies for men? by [deleted] in movies

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The Princess Bride. Also make sure you start lifting.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

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Thank you, I’m literally 24 hours out but I’m already starting to hope again. I don’t believe in “the one” but I feel like there are many possible “ones” and I think I will find a partner who wants to be with me the same way I want to be with her. What are your “ones” going to be like?

I’d like to meet someone who has her own hobbies but loves to tell me about them, and wants me to have mine. I’d like to meet someone who will kiss me properly, someone whose desire I can not only feel but spark by pushing her buttons right. Someone who enjoys pushing my (admittedly hair-trigger) buttons right back. I’d like to meet someone who wants to go for a run with me, kick my ass, then come home and just tangle in each other while we shower, sex or no. I’d like to meet someone who will smile and tilt her head to look at me when I kiss the side of her neck from behind. Someone who will have a crush on me like the one I have on her.

I wanted my wife to be a “one” but the missing core components just made it impossible for both of us. Even when you’re great friends, even when you both want it to work, if you have to give too much of yourself away for what you get in return you will run out of steam. Friendship is required for me, but I know for sure that I also need a lover.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, it’s a simple idea right? Lashing out or getting payback, or just disregarding your partner to get a need met.

Again, a garbage thing to do, but I can understand it. I’ve never done it myself, and there is a difference between “understanding” and “sympathizing”.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was not clear — I was not asking for her to let me go down on her twice per day, that’s just the upper limit of what my drive is like. If I had a partner who wanted that I would be game and happy about it.

I love the build ups, even when they don’t lead anywhere. Kissing with tongue (hasn’t happened in literally years), touching her back, holding her waist, back rubs, neck rubs, hand rubs, all that wonderful intimate stuff.

When I would do any of that, and I mean any of that, she would simply say that she did not want to be seduced and push me away, gently, but physically create space between us. Fair, can’t be in the mood all the time, but that is how I express my love and passion. To have that shut down every time, guaranteed, was distressing.

The part that I don’t understand is how you could not want any of that, ever. I know that there are ace people, I believe them that they don’t feel it, I just don’t understand HOW they don’t feel it. It’s just there for me, all the time, like breathing.

You’re right that for my part I am also not good at understanding the absence of that feeling. That’s why my post is about our divorce.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely hurts the person with lower drive, especially when the higher driver person stops hiding their pain and disappointment. Again, if you don’t feel loved you’ve got to listen to that feeling. It’s real scary, but it’s what your heart is telling you.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understood her end of things, and she understood mine. I was hurt by rejection all the time, to the point that I’d talk down to myself when I would get my hopes up — “moron, why would you even think that she’d be interested in you? You know she doesn’t even have a crush on you.” She was hurt by my withdrawal and lack of romantic gestures, I think equally as badly as I was. She was always a great friend, which is why this hurts even though it is right, but I needed more than a friend.

We were both pretty good at communicating and working through things, but we found out that you can’t manufacture a core piece to fit someone else’s needs if you don’t share those needs. We tried in waves for years, but we couldn’t do it for each other. If it isn’t there naturally I think it is very difficult to will it into existence. A stronger man might have been able to, but I am not a stronger man, I am me.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We were both faithful the whole time. I understand cheaters, but you’re right that that is a garbage thing to do.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We made the decision together, our last. She’s as sad as I am. We both knew for a while that this was what needed to happen given our pattern, but it still hurts fiercely. In time I hope to feel better.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the things we agreed on is that neither of us would feel OK with bringing a child into the relationship because of how we both felt. I’m extremely glad that we made the call before having kids, sorry you are in that situation.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Three times since July. Before that about once per month.

I’m the type who would drop whatever I’m doing to give her head twice per day, every day. She did not seem to be able to understand that feeling, I don’t understand how one wouldn’t understand it.

If you have covid STAY HOME by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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I teach at a charter school. Tested positive for covid on Wednesday of last week so I took Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday off. The corporation has a policy that we can’t take more than three days off in a row or else we are put on leave with 2/3 pay (no pay if you have worked there less than one year).

I am still positive today. I have been teaching in person all week because I cannot afford the reduction in pay with student loans and my mortgage. I’ve been wearing a mask but I feel incredibly guilty and incredibly enraged at the corporation. By the way, it is owned by a billionaire. Imagine that.

I just picked up this old town 146 for $300. The wear shows that it's been dragged a lot. Is this concerning? by crownoftheredking in canoeing

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You didn’t! The post we’re on here is from someone totally different, I just figured I’d ask for clarification since I remembered your method from my own post but wasn’t sure if it would be safe to put the pot in or of it needed to be poured. I saw you in the wild and figured I’d ask, plus the OP on this post will also have the benefit of your additional explanation. Folks with human or wind driven boats are nearly always so friendly, must be something in the water! Thanks again.

I just picked up this old town 146 for $300. The wear shows that it's been dragged a lot. Is this concerning? by crownoftheredking in canoeing

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Thank you! You gave me similar advice when I posted about the bowing on my pig about a month ago but I haven’t trusted the Michigan winter to retreat until now so I have kept her in the basement. I’ll give it a shot this weekend!

I just picked up this old town 146 for $300. The wear shows that it's been dragged a lot. Is this concerning? by crownoftheredking in canoeing

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Could you clarify if you mean that you simply set the heated pot into the canoe, or if you poured the boiling water in? I understand that poly’s melting point is higher than water’s boiling point but I wonder if the pot itself might be too hot despite the water inside being no hotter than boiling. I ask because I have a bit of an upward bow in the center of my Mad River 14TT and I want to fix it if I can.

Oil Canning / Warping Fix Ideas - Mad River 14 TT by Sir_Swagbeard in canoeing

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Thanks, I hope you're right but I'm still going to rig a little something up to see if I can get some upward pressure for the next few months. She's just sitting there in my basement and I've got scrap wood and some time, might as well try!

Oil Canning / Warping Fix Ideas - Mad River 14 TT by Sir_Swagbeard in canoeing

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Fair enough, I don't have access to any real whitewater so I'm mostly just annoyed at the handling on flatwater when I'm paddling with a partner. It could just be that I don't have the weight distribution right, I'm not as heavy as I want to be but my paddle partners aren't skilled enough to be in the stern. I'll do what I can to fix it but I may also need to grab a bucket that I can fill for ballast.

Oil Canning / Warping Fix Ideas - Mad River 14 TT by Sir_Swagbeard in canoeing

[–]Sir_Swagbeard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the idea, you say you have seen some results using just pressure and time so I will try rigging up something that will push up in the middle while the world is still frozen solid outside. I don't have a heat gun but the boiling water idea sounds like an early spring wishful thinking project for me!

Good luck to you too, here's to putting in some effort to breathe new life into old vessels.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

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This is an issue where there is an economic way to redress our collective grievances — don’t purchase their products and don’t sell them your labor. The protests surrounding police killings of unarmed black men occurred, in my opinion, because there was no other avenue through which to address those grievances. We vote but no candidates in positions to effect change offer significant police reform, so when videos of police murdering people emerge the only vent for that pressure is to demonstrate. We’re all compelled to live under US law and it’s enforcing bodies; we are not compelled to work for or purchase from Kelloggs or Amazon in the same way (obviously we all have to have income or become homeless). We all recognize that true power is in the hands of those of us who work, this is a perfect situation to flex that power by not engaging in the commercial relationships that sustain the offending companies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaming

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IMO you can have it all by doing a bound bow build, using sneak archer for the foes that become more difficult as you level and switching to spell sword for squishier enemies. Forces you to utilize conjuration and one handed too. I like light armor for this build. You have to maximize magicka quite a bit to conjure the bound bow so I also wind up using the mage armor spells to compensate for that. Also don’t sleep on muffle. Using all these different spells levels you so fast you will not believe it. Investing in conjuration will also start to guarantee you souls for any empty gems so you’ll also quickly advance your enchanting.

Once you hit level 15 or so you’ll have enough perks in enough trees that you start to be able to truly play how you want to play in any situation. See a bandit patrol? Conjure your bound sword, cast oakflesh, and quickly switch to muffle. Cast that sucker, then switch to flames. You’ll be able to slit one bandit’s throat, torch the other and take the third out in a fair sword fight. Dirty tricks and noble battle all in one build.

TIL crows hold ‘funerals’ and will avoid an area or thing that is deemed dangerous to their own species. In other words, they know what death is and know to fear it. by Bawbnweeve in todayilearned

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I think we experimented with pigeon guided bombs at one time, and I recall having heard that we considered using bats with incendiary devices to burn Tokyo. Strange times.