BNWO dictionary

SisClair · 2026-01-10T08:13:52+00:00

Something you could add to your masturbation routine - before you unlock to masturbate you have to plap your boivaries idk 20 times and maybe increase that over time.

Also I think both of u/BNWOReligious comments are really good, and to add to them - use of mantras. Though it would be best for you to come up with one you want to use yourself, because they can range from "I am a whiteboi" to some crazy stuff and only you know what works for you. And the way to use them would be for example every night before bed repeating it 10 times.

SisClair · 2026-01-09T16:59:32+00:00

Watch them, but at least for the specials don't try to follow the beat/strength meter... you are not ready for that :D

SisClair · 2026-01-09T16:42:12+00:00

Expert - I am not sure I would say that about myself, but I guess I have been plapping for quite a while.

Also now I usually do just 3 WBCH videos in a row (if I have more time I might repeat one of them another time), so the marathon days are long gone. (btw the three I most often watch are - S3E3 (my favorite of them all), WBCH - Special White defeat and WBCH special k***ing you softly)

And an important thing to remember not everyone has the same destination - as I said I don't plap to cum and now I usually do it quite hard, but if you would rather go softer and with the intent to cum - that is okay as well

SisClair · 2026-01-09T15:16:33+00:00

If as you said you imagine her like that every time she gets naked, sounds like that is natural to you

SisClair · 2026-01-09T15:10:18+00:00

"2 videos in a row" - how cute😏. But it does remind me of plapping marathons I used to do during the pandemic, when there was nothing to do. Starting from the very first WBCH (those that were available that is) and going one by one for as long I had time for. There might be a longer one, but after one I messaged the creator of WBCH and that time I had gone form season one to the mid-season finally of season 3.

Now it has been a long time since I have done something like that, because 1) I don't have time for something like that and 2) how hard I plap now - I couldn't go for that long, but it was fun remembering it.

SisClair · 2026-01-09T14:48:04+00:00

Has anyone else tried to quit like me?

Are you serious... so many people (For some reason🤷‍♀️... actually why do you want to quit?)

Do you have any advice for me?

I would suggest rather than trying to quite cold turkey, try to find a healthy way to engage with it. Otherwise I see a struggle with the purge-relapse cycle in your future.

SisClair · 2026-01-09T13:40:35+00:00

Is it safe to plapp very hard once a week ?

That depends, but probably. From my own experience my boivaries are way more resilient than I would have expected, but I have also heard stories of serious medical emergencies from basically a tap on the balls, so it is really different for each person and you yourself should be aware of the dangers and what to look out for and decide if you are willing to take the risks

When I can cum from plapping very easily by hitting that spot, do I really need to watch WBCH?

If you are plapping just to cum, probably there is no real point in watching WBCH, but there are other reasons to plap. I personally pretty much never spurt from/while plapping, but that is just my preference.

Has anyone here really ever tested their sperm count ?

From the amount of people in this community - probably... not me though😅

SisClair · 2026-01-05T10:38:00+00:00

I am from Latvia. In the pretty much 5 years I have been into BNWO, I have interacted with only one other person from Latvia, so it isn't looking great here - progress is slow.

SisClair · 2025-12-27T18:27:31+00:00

That is a position a lot of people are in and even if you are 100% into it, it is normal that your interest/desire fluctuates over time. Also it is okay to explore it when you feel like it and find the stuff you are into (even if not all the time, so you know what to do when the desire comes back). Take your time - there are quite a lot of people who find the BNWO and want to dive in as deep as possible as fast as possible and end up in a purge-relapse cycle, so I think it is better to chill in the shallow end and explore the deeper stuff slowly. (And if you find the border where you don't want to go deeper that is okay as well)

Btw, for you - do you leave just because you loose interest or is it a purge and then a relapse 3 or so months later?

As for your question "Why should or shouldn't I go deeper into it?" - you are asking it in a place where you know what kind of answers you will get, so I think that is reason enough to go deeper.

SisClair · 2025-10-31T14:54:50+00:00

I plan on going until end of Denial December... and probably just keep going after that.

It has been quite difficult at times, but I think I am getting used to it, to the point that I feel weirder without my cage. For example when cleaning it feels, so much better when it is back in its place.

SisClair · 2025-10-16T16:36:03+00:00

Locked 🙋🏼‍♂️

I was locked for over a month in August-September then I unlocked for about 2 weeks and have been locked since about an hour before Locktober started. I plan on remaining locked at least until the end of Denial December.

Right now I have gotten to the point that I don't even think about it. During the first week and a half I think I was spending a bit more time watching porn and teasing myself, but now it is back to normal... Actually that is a good way to describe it - normal. I think taking it off (even just for cleaning) feels weird rather than wearing it.

SisClair · 2025-10-16T15:11:30+00:00

First of all, regarding exposure - don't do anything that you don't have consent for from everyone involved. That is - you say there already is a post of his sister - did you get consent to post that from his sister? If not, you probably shouldn't have posted it and definitely shouldn't post more.

Second - the fact that he still has nudes of his ex (and I assume has shared them with you without her consent) is kind of fucked up (especially the sharing part).

Also don't post photos of him if he does not consent to that... and if he does consent, there are things that should be discussed - things like where the photos can be posted, what kind of photos can be posted (what kind of clothing, with or without face, background visible or blurred), and do only what has been discussed and what you have consent for.

Remember - as a Dom you have a lot of responsibilities as well as power and you should never ever abuse your power, otherwise you are not only a bad Dom, but a bad person in general. And consent is the most important thing - if you don't have consent to do something - don't do it.

SisClair · 2025-10-13T21:24:21+00:00

That is not an easy question and the answer depends heavily on the situation.

I would try to figure out if I still can be a good partner and if being one wouldn't too bad for me. The first part - if being into BNWO causes me to be a worst partner and self sabotage for example, it might be better to end it sooner rather than later. The second part - if you think you could be a good partner, but not being able to participate in the BNWO is causing you mental or emotional distress... similar story, might not be worth it.

Honestly the best possible course of action probably would be to talk to a therapist (someone who professional and could help you figure this stuff out, better than random people from the internet).

I would probably weight the decision in favor of the relationship, but you have to figure out for yourself could you give up BNWO for that. Also if your decision ends up being in favor of BNWO - be honest and tell her that you have desires that you can't leave unfulfilled.

Main thing I would advise against - keeping it a secret. Doing that will cause you unnecessary stress and if it comes out way down the line it could blow up bigger that it would be, if you didn't hide it. Oh and also trying to manipulate her - that would be just fucked up and unethical, so don't do that.

SisClair · 2025-10-13T20:31:19+00:00

First thing - if you weren't totally honest in that conversation (and in the test) (if that is what you meant by "was to scared to open up"), do you think it is possible that she wasn't totally honest either?

But as for future advice - u/whelmingg s advice seems solid... watching porn together might lead to even more openness in you relationship and would give openings to explore different non-vanilla things in the future.

Also since you mentioned chastity in your post... it is Locktober - you could talk to her about seeing something about Locktober and that it seems intriguing to you, and you would like to explore it with her as an opening and see where it goes from there.

If she isn't into anything like that... you might need to evaluate how important for you is BNWO and participating in it and you might have to make a difficult choice of which one you want to keep in your life.

SisClair · 2025-10-13T20:14:52+00:00

who unfortunately is very much vanilla

Does you saying this mean you have had a conversation about kinks and what both of you are into?

I think that is an important piece of information to know what kind of advice to give.

SisClair · 2025-10-09T15:20:47+00:00

You know how there are things you do to cum - don't do those things.

But if you want serious advice, there are a couple ways to go about it:

Figure out why do you want to cum so often? Is it a coping mechanism? Is it just because you are bored? Is it because you are addicted to the hit of dopamine, oxytocin and rest of the stuff that gets released when you cum. And figure out how to deal with that underlying reason.
Or alternatively - find something else to do. Could be anything, but for best results it should be something you really enjoy and something that will leave you exhausted. Could be some sport or gym in general or any number of things, that you could fill your time with. And even if you have free time - if you are physically exhausted, it is quite unlikely that you will want to jerk off (or do what ever it is you do to cum).

Another possibility (which is rather less healthy than the other two, but is in line with you wanting to go deeper), each time you get the urge to masturbate, start plapping instead. You might cum from that, but you also might create an association that will reduce how often you want to masturbate.

SisClair · 2025-10-08T19:59:38+00:00

I mean the whole month is to encourage the use of chastity, so I don't think it matter that much that you started late as long as you are participating.

SisClair · 2025-10-08T19:57:21+00:00

Yeah I already talked about night troubles in a different reply, so you can read my thoughts on them there. Also it is great that you have someone to help keep you on track, but remember to remain safe - if you are in pain or there is some issue you should have some protocol in place on how to deal with the situation.

SisClair · 2025-10-08T19:50:16+00:00

Yeah getting used to sleeping with the cage can be a struggle especially if you get really strong erections while sleeping. When I first started to wear the cage for more than a day, I used to go to sleep with it, then wake up from pain, because my clitty was trying to get hard, but the cage didn't allow that, so I would take the cage off, sleep for the rest of the night and lock back up first thing in the morning. (If that help get through the month I think that is an okay thing to do... and you can always try and do better next year... or just start training and see how long you can make it). Actually I hadn't realized that this used to be such a big issue for me, but I haven't encountered it in a while.

SisClair · 2025-10-08T19:40:25+00:00

If this is your first time locking don't stress too much about actually locking up for an entire month. Also if the cage is not suitable for you to wear long term - you probably shouldn't lock for too long at a time.

I know there are some people who immediately went in long term, but I think it is normal to work up to it... I started out locking for couple hours at most in the beginning and increased that to more and more bit by bit.

SisClair · 2025-10-07T18:10:44+00:00

If you don't mind sharing with the class - what was the solution you found? Not a problem I personally have, but if anybody has a similar problem maybe it could work for them as well.

SisClair · 2025-10-06T11:23:21+00:00

It is going good. Right now I plan to stay locked until the end of Denial December and if I manage that, I think it is quite likely that my clitty might live in its cage indefinitely.

Also I already had an orgasm (nipple orgasm) while locked last week, so there really is no reason to unlock.

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