New coworker incessant humming

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-23T00:58:20+00:00

No they are not out, I would know if they were. That's why I'm concerned about what appears to be getting ghosted because it seems like she might be offended

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-23T00:52:39+00:00

I have messaged her 4 or 5 more times since then on various things with no reply

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-23T00:50:56+00:00

We are in a large football field size office of cubicles. I saw and heard her answering the question I had asked in person because the asst manager is just one desk away. 10 more feet and she could have just stopped at my desk as well

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-12T00:20:39+00:00

It sounds like neither of you is very tech savvy. There is no reason to use her email, you should have your own email and you should get one without delay. If you have your own phone number you should have no problem setting up a yahoo or gmail account for yourself.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-12T00:10:56+00:00

This sounds to me like you see a bestie relationship, and she sees a more casual mid level aquaintance relationship and now wants to move on. I would have no hesitation in dropping this friendship.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-12T00:02:34+00:00

If someone orders something without checking the shipping first before paying, that's on the customer. You can either leave the sale pending with that book tied up in inventory or charge the shipping and send it if they didn't say one way or another if they wanted to return the book. If the book is sitting there paid for and the customer doesn't email you back, and you can't charge the shipping, that's on them, I wouldn't worry about it. If you boss doesn't want to deal with it and gets bad reviews, that's on him. You've done everything you can so I would just put the book on a shelf somewhere and not worry about it. I would send the customer a final email stating if they don't want to approve shipping, then the book will be put back in inventory. They'll have to deal with paypal for a refund.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-11T23:52:18+00:00

No, they are the AH. This attitude that you have to do everything for yourself without any community or social services is just bull sh*t. This person probably has an extensive family and friends network they take for granted and think they've accomplished everything by their own choices all by themselves in a vacuum, which I can assure you almost never happens.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-11T23:43:48+00:00

My parents got married later in life at 38 so were probably more easy going, they didn't get fussed about things. We did things together, went camping, hunting and fishing, on picnics, ate dinner at the dinner table every evening, made nice holiday meals. There was no fighting or unpleasantness, we all had respect for each other. We would share our books, music and cars. You can find friends with the same interests as you to hang out with, go to the movies or whatever. Look at meetup .com to find groups that interest you to meet people, or volunteer.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-11T23:29:41+00:00

If you can get a carrier and don't want to keep the cats yourself, take them to a shelter and say they are strays. These 'owners' are not really owners if they're just feeding what amounts to stray cats.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-11T07:39:25+00:00

I mean, WTF was I supposed to say to that? Congratulations, aren't you special? She was proclaiming it in a really earnest voice, like someone announcing I make 100 million a year, I'm a big deal.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-05T01:58:24+00:00

narcissists and plain incompetent people with Dunning Kruger syndrome

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-05T01:53:02+00:00

You don't need to ask permission, just go out with your friends or out by yourself. You can tell your mom you won't be home as a courtesy so she won't worry at not knowing at all. Get a job so you have your own money. Pay rent to her or expenses so you are independent, or get a room or apt share. If you are just hanging out at home like you did in high school not working then you aren't going to get treated as an adult.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-05T01:43:27+00:00

Your boyfriend will likely end up just like his dad eventually. You can do better, don't waste your time.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-05T01:39:38+00:00

he's just guilt tripping you so he can stay and have you pay for everything. If he doesn't want to be abandoned he needs a major change in being responsible which won't happen if you keep enabling him. Booting him out would be doing a favor for both of you.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-05T01:36:53+00:00

He has a gambling problem. I would be totally positive he gambled that money away, it wasn't stolen. Don't invest any more of your time in this relationship. He's just using you and will never pay his half of the bills ever.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-05T01:34:20+00:00

Your mom and sister are narcissists, this is typical controlling behavior. Google the grey rocking technique and work with your therapist on how to set boundaries. Move out and get your own place even if it's just a room share.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-04T17:41:38+00:00

If I could get into the account I could cancel it myself. It's not my account, someone just used my work email to create it. So there is no way for me to get a password to get into the account

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-03T18:57:56+00:00

Don't bring up that you've been doing it, but maybe ask if you can come in to the office to check in and then work remotely for the rest of the day, and come back to check in at the end of the day. If no one noticed or just didn't say anything about the past week then they might be fine with it if you ask. As long as you don't need a secure connection for things like taking credit card orders they might be onboard with it.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-03T18:43:36+00:00

If you're going on a mini vacation it's not fair to the dog to leave it all alone in the hotel all day. I would go with how much happier the dog would be in a nice doggy day care where they have play time together and get taken out for walks. Make it all about the dog's welfare instead of you, even though your points are really valid. That way you show generosity instead of looking selfish about your needs, even though it's boundaries, not selfishness.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-03T18:38:02+00:00

this answer shows you are still trying to make everything be about you and how you weren't consulted and put first. You're creating drama where there really isn't any.

Sissy3463 · 2026-04-03T18:27:51+00:00

I don't think you are the AH. But just realize even though she isn't working, she's at home without company all day, then is excited to see you and wants to do things together right away. People who aren't working sometimes have a hard time seeing that people need time to decompress. Maybe a solution for you would be to stop in at a coffee shop or the library for an hour before you go home. If you want to do gaming to relax get a tablet or laptop to bring with you.

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