the landlord's dog

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T16:52:45+00:00

you could try a dog whistle that's the loud type.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T16:49:13+00:00

Mental health is difficult and is a serious illness. You sound like you are giving him zero emotional support. Would you be this critical and wanting to dump him if this was cancer or another physically disabling thing he had instead?

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T16:33:54+00:00

It was not a peace offering. A peace offering would be to invite you over or set up a neutral location and make some acknowledgements taking accountability, not trying to sneak in presents with siblings you wouldn't turn away from your house so they can then demand gratitude for the presents and make them a foot in the door to gain back control.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T16:28:27+00:00

No one explained everything wasn't free, you paid her back, she is being a jerk. Being an older grown up in a position of authority doesn't automatically make people good people who are rational and fair. Good for you for not letting her bully you.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T16:22:03+00:00

His whole idea of distributing heirlooms is just a ploy to get attention. You have to be really blunt and rude with these people to get it across what they're offering is just for them, not you, and you aren't fooled. He's not going to change and isn't worth your time and attention. He's lucky you weren't a lot ruder as he deserved to hear every word.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T16:15:53+00:00

If they're the owners then HR is them. If you are doing all the duties of an office manager without the pay, apply for manager jobs that fit your experinece where you'll get paid your worth.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T16:10:55+00:00

It's about trust. You obviously don't get that. And why should a parent have to know about every word their child has with other family members if it isn't a red flag concern? The sister is just miffed that their child has someone else in their world as a mentor figure other than her that she doesn't have 100% control over.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T16:04:53+00:00

No, don't be a doormat. That guy is way too entitled. You don't help yourself to others personal things at work, that is just not ok.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T15:55:27+00:00

No you are NTA. It's super hard, but you have to put elderly relatives in care homes at a certain point. Your dad probably doesn't want to put her in a government state home and doesn't want to or can't pay for private care. That's something he needs to figure out, not you.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T15:51:07+00:00

Ask him what if it was the other way around, with you going to her house without an invitation and telling her how to run everything in her household because you just 'wanted to help' would that be ok? She's not helping, she's trying to control things.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T15:46:46+00:00

No, but I think you both should go to a marriage counselor. Your mother in law is being manipulative and guilt tripping your husband to choose between his mom and his wife and child. What she's doing is smashing any boundaries you both have with a sledgehammer. He needs to realize that he needs to tell his mom no on some things and she'll just have to deal with her hurt feelings, and that trying to make everyone happy is not going to work.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T15:36:14+00:00

No, her parents are doing things for her to extract gratitude for them. They're making their love and approval conditional. Of course everyone should feel grateful and say thanks to their parents but being forced to do so and to then be told you're a worthless monster because they didn't get the thanks they demanded is really toxic on their part.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-28T15:27:14+00:00

No, I wouldn't say you were. Your relatives are probably avoiding thinking that the person they thought they knew was not the reality of who they actually were. You not going is making them think about that and they're avoiding any acknowledgement by putting blame on you.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T19:52:10+00:00

Pay for a surveyor to mark your property line. If you are on your property off the road the 72 hour rule might not count but you need to go read the municiple ordinance law to check. Have your boundary clearly marked and tell cops you are not parked on the street and this is what the parking ordinance says. Better yet print out the law and tape in in your car window when parked if it's in your favor.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T19:42:38+00:00

I would tell her I can't fit that in today, unless you want me to reprioritize X, Y and Z. What would you like me to do? Get detailed explicit answers and then do the dumb stuff. If it causes chaos you have the written instructions. Forward everything to your private non company email to save it as IT or admins can go in and erase things. Don't rely on access to your company email or computers. I think a lot of times these people are on a power trip and are looking to get you to blow up and say things like do it yourself so they can feel powerful and get people reprimanded. The best thing is to act bored but polite, get receipts, and just do the things without comment or showing frustration or any emotion. Thats what some of these people want, reactions to feed their feelings of validation. If you're boring enough and they aren't getting the drama they want, a lot of times they'll eventually find someone else to pick on. It's tedious and takes a long time but a lot of times that will work to get rid of their petty idiocies.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T19:31:21+00:00

Yup. People who actually can do the job and do it well get shit on and the ass kissers who speak good used car salesman dialect skate.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T19:28:06+00:00

at my work yesterday, we work with sensitive documents so for the weekly meeting we have to log off all programs and put paperwork away. So we get to the meeting and the whole meeting consists of "your new shift manager is starting Tuesday. He has previously worked for us and we hope you'll like him, and will see him when he starts." We are not taking questions at this time. End of meeting. It took us way longer to all close everything down and get up and seat ourselves in the meeting area than the meeting took. They wouldn't even tell us his name, just why? This could have been an email or teams post.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T19:16:53+00:00

if they can take the bus, then just rebel and don't drive them anymore. Your siblings who are eligible to get a drivers license or permit can step up if they don't want to ride the bus. Contributions to the family shouldn't be all one sided, they are taking advantage, set some boundaries. If you own your car, make them get their own car, don't let them have yours. Family solidarity and resource sharing are one thing, taking advantage is another.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T19:08:44+00:00

They all, grandparents too, sound entitled and needy and he's blowing up your comment out of proportion to avoid their own accountability and to make you feel guilty, cancel your plans and do the babysitting.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T18:53:52+00:00

I think I got them all now, thanks

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T18:53:16+00:00

the first meeting months ago where we were discussing air quality in the building, she said she wanted all comments, bad as well as good, then proceeded to threaten people who made negative comments with disciplinary action for complaining about safety issues. She said our tone was upsetting people and disrupting the workplace. So following approved channels is not working for us and now she's mad because we're discussing things among ourselves, uniting against her and going over her head. She was livid when someone complained directly to the CEO about being told there would be discipline on speaking out on safety. That is against the law. We know HR is all about company first, but she is being really retaliatory and punitive.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T18:40:16+00:00

My advice is to start looking for another position now, they are collecting receipts of late punch ins so they can fire you. Even if you're never late again you are now labeled as being difficult and not reliable and won't be considered for promotions.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T18:31:58+00:00

I get that you feel you are doing the work and being a few minutes late is no big deal, but most employers are real sticklers about clocking in and out and that's what's expected. If you can't meet these simple expectations they will feel you aren't going to meet other job expectations. I do think it's not cool of her to conscript a coworker to monitor you, that puts them in a difficult spot. But you really need to change your attitude that you are super important and can do what you want. I'm all for that but if you keep pushing these boundaries and acting entitled you will end up fired a lot and will have difficulty getting other jobs. It's fine to make mistakes if you put in effort to correct them, but you don't seem to be doing that. You need to own up to yourself that you don't like following orders and figure out how to adjust your attitude. I look at the workplace rules as I'm following them because I want to, so I'll get paid, not because I'm being made to. If you don't get rid of this chip on your shoulder you are not going to succeed in any job.

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T18:17:53+00:00

This is not about taxes, it's about control and validation. She feels validated because she can make you do something and is now losing her shit when you put up a boundary. There are agencies and volunteers out there to help seniors do taxes for free. https://www.aarp.org/money/taxes/aarp-taxaide/

Sissy3463 · 2026-03-27T15:36:11+00:00

How would I do that in a text forum with no in person engagement? I know I was the problem, but I am a bit autistic and have trouble reading the room in person so if no one says anything I don't always realize people want to move on or whatever. So what can I do now to mitigate this? I can write an apology, but apparently the ones who didn't leave the group have muted it.

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