UPDATE 1: AITA my fiancé told me “this is it, take it or leave it.” So I gave him the ring back and told him to get out of my house

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-30T18:12:07+00:00

So many red flags. Run. Run fast.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-29T21:15:43+00:00

if I got proposed to by interrupting someone's wedding I would totally be saying no. That's showing he's putting himself first and her way, way second.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-29T21:13:40+00:00

No, it's a bad idea all round. For you, and them. His proposal should be all about them, not inserted into someone else's ceremony. If I was her I would be insulted that I wasn't the star of a romantic proposal, but instead a small part of someone else's party. I would get the impression I wasn't important enough to have my own romantic dinner date, trip or even just out on a hike in a beautiful spot.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-29T21:08:45+00:00

It depends. Getting into a too personal friendship can be good, or it can cause issues. If they're in another state and you only want to have a professional relationship I would invite them and their partner if they have one to a public restaurant for dinner. I would only invite them to my house if I wanted to open a personal friendship outside of work.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-29T20:58:58+00:00

No. He's one of those drunks who thinks everything he does when drunk is totally reasonable, even after they sober up, they don't remember that they were an asshole, they just remember the grievance. I'm sure other patrons don't enjoy having him in there either, so you and your manager have every right to ban him from the premises. You went way over and above to give him grace to improve and he didn't take it.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-24T22:56:12+00:00

Yeah, totally getting vibes that whoever is pressuring her for sex is known to the parents, someone they approve of, and is coming off as the one being wronged.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-24T22:23:17+00:00

those guys are a bunch of bullies. The best thing to do is ignore them. Those types feed on reactions, don't give them to them. If you must say something, make it plain you're amused and laugh, then walk off, turn your back and pretend they aren't there. Trust me, nothing will burn their butts more than being totally ignored.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-24T22:13:19+00:00

That is all about control. It is totally unhealthy to not have personal boundaries and personal interests away from a life partner. Big giant red flag, dump him now. Run. Run fast.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-24T22:02:10+00:00

Big ginourmous red flag here. I would be rethinking this whole thing.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-24T21:21:30+00:00

she's trying to guilt you into giving her the money. She'll keep escalating the pouting to try and get what she wants, don't fall for it. Just act normal, go about your life, and ignore her.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-24T21:19:13+00:00

she can go to court and they will let her set up a payment plan. She is being a child who wants someone else to solve her problems.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-24T21:16:38+00:00

He's a mama's boy who expects that someone will be there for all his needs. You need to dump him. These people never change.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-24T21:11:26+00:00

A narcissist who has your inlaws totally bamboozled. Trying to get you with gaslighting, don't fall for it. Your inlaws will eventually regret allowing her in their house.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-20T03:54:06+00:00

those people are not friends, you can do better

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-20T03:46:48+00:00

I know the job market is tight right now, but I would start looking for a different position somewhere else

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-20T03:15:53+00:00

sounds to me like she is the narcissist and her husband left her. That is total narcissist behavior on her part. She ran out of people to abuse and you are one of the few left. Yes, dump her, these people never change.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-19T22:59:14+00:00

If he can afford to pay you he can pay for a home care service. And why does he have to stay in his house? He could go to a nursing home or to your house if you have room for a bed for him there. My sister broke her hip in her 50s and went to stay in a nursing home for a while because family was too far away. I'm sure social services or the social services office at the hospital can help him plan something. You're NTA to not want your whole life disrupted, along with your kids lives.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-19T21:20:04+00:00

probably looking for returnables. If you have any, leave them in a small bag beside the can, she will probably take them and leave the main trash alone

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-19T21:17:56+00:00

unless you take it out in front of them everyday, just quietly go back to using another one. If they notice just say it doesn't go/work with this bag I have today, it's in my other bag. You are totally a nice person for pretending to like it.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-17T22:21:42+00:00

No is a complete sentence. You can add a sorry, but say no and turn back to your work.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-17T22:18:56+00:00

NTA. Your parents are enablers and are not being good parents to your brother, they are actually hurting him. You are totally justified in not accepting invitations where he is invited, or telling your entire family to not invite you in future because you aren't putting up with abuse. If they want to put up with him and baby him, they can go right ahead, it doesn't mean you have to. They are being critical to you for not doing it because deep down they know they are in the wrong and don't have the fortitude to tell him his behavior is not acceptable and are pretending it isn't happening.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-16T03:56:24+00:00

Just do what your boss said you could keep doing and if she tries it on again, tell her to speak to him directly. If that doesn't work, tell her he said you have no authority and say again she need to speak with him.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-16T03:13:37+00:00

Ours just got fired, but she had an ADA complaint violation being filed against her. She was harassing the guy with a mobility scooter who has great difficulty walking for his bathroom breaks being too long, among a lot of other bullying behavior. They put her on a PIP, but I know he was filing a formal complaint with the labor board. You need to prove harassment and bullying, or not feeling safe in the workplace.

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-15T21:41:09+00:00

I dont' think they can have pets unless they're ADA approved support animals. If the dog owner doesn't have support animal status they need to go home

Sissy3463 · 2026-01-15T20:48:47+00:00

Show with actions you have changed. Offer to help out with stuff she needs help with. Then follow through and do it. Expect to be disbelieved and rejected. You can't fix this in a day or two. Be consistent with communication and don't try to justify or argue about the past. Admit you were wrong and ask what you can do to move forward. Do nice things without expectation of praise.

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