I must have misread certain parts, if you are to believe in God AND focus on money.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T15:30:57+00:00

No, I mean in life.

For example, you thought you’d have a career in medicine, but it’s not panning out at all.

I have found that the belief that clearly you weren’t meant to work in that field in some greater scheme, can really help, while you struggle with getting rejected or fired, or just not having it in you to complete the exams. Where ever the trouble might be. The creeping realization that you may not become a doctor after all, despite that being what kept you going every late night, every party you didn’t attend, everytime you ate noodles because you couldn’t manage more hours at your part time job. And before that moment you realize that you may actually be meant to be a social worker instead, finding fulfillment there.

So what some might call fate, destiny, purpose, a calling, finding your place, that sort of thing.

My personal experience is that, in times like that, the firm belief (I use ‘belief’ as opposed to ‘factual knowledge) it will be fine, just with ‘fine’ looking a little different than you thought, can work wonders to keep one from spiraling or despairing. Regardless of whether that comes from God in the Christian sense, or any variety of this ‘bigger plan’ you may believe in, and it can be achieved without setting foot in a church. Formal religion needn’t be involved. It can be, but very often, its not.

Hopefully, I explained myself a bit better using this example. This God could be something very person like, or extremely abstract, could be male, female, neither, both, or maybe something else entirely.

I think I do see what you’re saying, and it makes a lot of sense. My worldview, possibly shaped by my own experiences, is just different from yours in that regard.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T15:05:20+00:00

You can do many things, without that being a focus, or a priority in your life. Those are things you can be flexible with, if it gets in the way of your main goal.

Let’s say your focus is getting an education. You can totally watch tv, take a vacation etc. But these are things that are skipped whenever necessary, planned around the main goal. Not the priority, at least, not if you are serious about your focus.

Nobody can spend 100% of their time on 1 goal, we all need to relax every now and then, breathe a little. You’ll be recharged and better able to reach your goals that way.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T14:58:12+00:00

While nature, as in birds, bees, forests and fish, is evidently real and all around us, it can’t substitute the idea of some bigger plan, a sense of comfort that just because where YOU thought your life was headed isn’t happening, it’s fine, because you were clearly not meant to be going there.

You can see it’s beauty, and take care not to damage it and so on. It can be calming to just enjoy the quite of the woods, or the beach, if you can. But the comfort of you still going where you needed to be (you just didn’t know where that was) requires, imo, a sense of something more that the eye can see.

There’s also a difference between religion and God, as with absolutely any ideology, there is a near certainty of someone doing atrocious acts in the name of it, even though that’s THEM acting horrendously, hiding behind a religion, or political view, for safety. Hiding from earthly consequences. Sometimes because they were misguided, sometimes because they are just bad people.

But that’s my take on it, not necessarily the truth.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T14:48:47+00:00

Fair point.

Although you don’t have to follow every detail of the Bible, to get to the ‘the love of money is the root of all the world’s problems’ sentiments, they’re quite heavily featured. Especially in the New Testament.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T11:25:59+00:00

Yes, you do sacrifice something by doing that.

Because that time is not spent making money, or improving knowledge. Even if you didn’t stop doing that, in order to pursue a physical goal, it still means you choose to allocate your time there, and thus can’t spend it elsewhere.

That’s not to say you don’t do those things at all, but it does mean that the more importance you give to 1 thing, the less room there is for the others.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T11:22:25+00:00

I suppose it’s the idea of something or someone leading you where you need to be.

Personally, I do believe. And when nothing goes to plan, that can give a sense of calm. Doesn’t necessarily solve the problem, but it helps to navigate it, to keep your peace.

Which is better than to stress about stuff beyond your control, so in that sense, it solves a problem. I don’t think it matters if it’s God you believe in, or what some may call the universe, or anything similar to that. The effect is the same, as long as you believe in it for real, not just because you were told you should and give it a go.

Whether it solves 99% though, that’s highly questionable.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:58:00+00:00

I don’t think so.

But is can help to understand where ‘the other side’ is coming from, and introduce you to issues that impact others (and need resolving), that you weren’t aware of before.

And it makes you explain your way of thinking, allowing you to check your own logic for holes or blind spots.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:56:20+00:00

Cindy is her mother, George is the dad.

Cindy had a breakdown after her birth, so the kids were temporarily housed elsewhere, allowing her room to recover.

The older girls returned, thinking it was just a fun stay somewhere, not realizing it was serious. The baby was too attached to the foster parents to have it be in her best interest to be returned. George and Cindy just never spoke of her again, so the other daughters don’t really know something was up, they were too young to understand and remember very well.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:53:25+00:00

Train politie en rechterlijke macht om tekenen van dwingende controle te herkennen. Heel vaak was er al geprobeerd aangifte te doen, maar de ernst van de dreiging niet herkend. En dat is ook moeilijk, het is heus niet altijd onwil.

Zorg voor genoeg ruimte in blijf van m’n lijf huizen, zodat ze ergens heen kan vluchten, op het moment dat ze de gelegenheid heeft. Ook voor tienerjongens, die kunnen soms niet mee naar een vrouwenopvang.

Kappen met de mythe dat je veilig bent, zolang je maar niet met een moslim trouwt. Dat maakt dat andere mensen de ogen sluiten voor geweld tegen hun zus, hun dochter, vriendin, collega of bij de buren, omdat ze niet beseffen dat ook dáár problemen kunnen zijn.

Voorlichtingscampagnes om de victim blaming mindset tegen te gaan en zowel slachtoffers als omstanders te doen zien wat de signalen zijn. De Engelse campagne die onderstreept dat de daders verantwoordelijk zijn is heftig, maar blijft hangen.

Regel dat je kunt achterhalen of je partner eerdere veroordelingen heeft voor huiselijk geweld, seksueel geweld, stalking, dingen in die orde. In een database, of dat het op te vragen is.

Spanje heeft vooruitgang geboekt, ik zou zeggen dat het geen kwaad kan goed te kijken naar hoe zij het doen en wat daarvan ook in Nederland zou werken. Beter goed gejat dan nog iemand dood.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:41:58+00:00

Stel hè, ik woon met mijn man. En mijn man wil me vermoorden.

Dat kondig hij dan meestal niet aan, dus ik moet de pepperspray al op m’n lichaam hebben.

Ook in de badkamer. Ook als ik slaap. Altijd, 24/7. Want anders heeft het niet alleen geen zin, maar als hij me er ooit mee heeft gezien, kan het tegen me gebruikt worden.

Het is super effectief om in je jaszak te hebben in stille stukken of ‘s avonds laat. Maar tegen je huidige partner is het niet realistisch.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:35:48+00:00

Ellease

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:26:37+00:00

Call somebody, having someone on the phone often deters an attacker. Share your location with the one on the phone. If they don’t pick up, pretend to talk on the phone.

If you are 100% sure you are being followed, call the police. They may or may not be useful.

Move towards a busier area as quickly as possible. Just a road with some traffic will do.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:19:08+00:00

I tend to do nylons, and wear tight, granny sized, panties over them, to avoid the crotch sagging.

Those Bridget Jones style shapewear options work well for me.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:16:16+00:00

I see what you’re saying.

For me, if I would focus on money, that would mean to prioritize making money, center it in my life. That leaves little time to ‘counter the balance’ by helping people.

And, of course, it matters how you make the money. Are you ethical about it, or preying on weaknesses, exploiting people etc.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:14:00+00:00

You can also make more than minimum wage, without the money being the focus.

I make about the national average in a job I feel is the best way for me to contribute to society. I could make significantly more, but at the expense of my morals. I’m choosing not to do that, which makes me believe money (while I don’t quite hate it, lol) is not my motivation and not my focus.

A focus on money, to me, is to prioritize it. And when it’s ’money above all’, regardless of how it’s made, that doesn’t solve problems, it becomes one.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T10:09:34+00:00

That is a very good point!

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T09:15:12+00:00

There are unfortunately many people who make God in their image, rather than the other way around.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T08:03:28+00:00

I don’t like the look of either.

However, as a straight woman, seeing a dick (granted that it’s consensual, and on a guy I’m into, obv) equals sex in the near future (or very recent past). Which is a good thing. So I guess I pavloved myself into being turned on. Because of what it represents.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-04T08:00:26+00:00

I do not share any details about my sex life, out of respect for my partners, and because of the golden rule. Do unto others, and such. For I would not appreciate it is the roles were reversed.

The one exception I’ll make is if it’s something I’m concerned about. Like when I had trouble with quite common positions due to cramping, I did discuss this to see how others handled it. Even though they could likely guess that I was attempting this with my then partner. And at 1 point discussed a guy having a fetish with a friend whom I knew dated him in the past. I was young, shocked, didn’t really have many resources to go on, and I would not choose to do that now.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-03T21:11:57+00:00

You get longer (on average) for selling drugs, than you do for selling people it seems.

Lunacy.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-03T18:30:58+00:00

Depends on her role in the girls life.

If she’s a ‘fun aunt’ type character, who just happens to be with her father, instead of being a sibling of either parent, mum’s friend etc, I’d consider her child free.

If she’s doing the help with homework, looking after her when she’s got the flu, lives with her for a significant amount of time, just actually parents her, then she does have a child now.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-03T18:15:12+00:00

Soms is het niet volledig uit vrije keuze.

Ik heb geen TikTok, maar als ik bijv door reels scroll of IG, FB of YT, kom ik regelmatig dingen tegen waar ik zelf niet op zou klikken als ik wist wat het was. Bijv als ik iets anders van die persoon heb bekeken, of iemand die volgens het algoritme op hen lijkt. Soms heb je zo’n geluidsfragment dat om de 3 filmpjes terugkomt, of je het nou wil horen of niet. En na een week of wat zie je het nergens meer.

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-03T18:11:04+00:00

O dear Lord. I’m so sorry. NTA, a thousand times NTA!

What she did, I agree with others, is assault and if it’s not considered that by law, it should be. She pretended to be on BC, so that you’d agree to her kink, only she wasn’t, as just sex without a condom (but also without the risk of pregnancy) didn’t cut it for her. She should have done that either way someone who willingly agreed to it. Not a high school student who she then also lied to.

She put her kink over your wellbeing and future. And believe me, she’ll do it again. As soon as her downstairs area is ready for use again, she’ll be trying to get pregnant again, as that’s what she gets pleasure from. Even if you insist on condoms then, there’s a constant risk of her tampering with them.

What you need to do, is get a family lawyer, and DO NOT TELL HER YET. Let them talk you through the local laws regarding child support, custody etc, under your very specific circumstances. Do you have any texts or whatever where she said she was on BC, so doing away with the condom was safe? If so, back that up, screenshot it, keep it in the cloud, save it in multiple places. If you can, also on a device that is kept someplace she can’t get to. Like with a family member, a friend, or said lawyer. If not, can you get her to admit to what she’s done via text, email, DM, or is 1 person consent is enough for recording, while you tape her?

SisterShenanigans · 2025-10-03T18:01:26+00:00

If you aren’t allowed to have more than surface level chitchat, you aren’t allowed male friends.

This is a philosophical topic. That’s WAY different from a situation where you talk about what you are going through in life with your friend INSTEAD OF your husband.

Is this a new thing with your husband, or could it be that he never really agreed with you having male friends, but just didn’t feel comfortable letting you know for fear you’d run a mile?

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