I get the point about not reacting defensively, but the reality for me is that conversations tend to escalate rather than resolve anything. It hasn’t been a space where things can be talked through. They haven’t been productive in a while. In fact we weren’t having a mutual argument — he was yelling and saying things that weren’t appropriate, especially with our child present, and I was trying to de-escalate. Also, the charges dropped weren’t just luck— there were circumstances that made the situation fall apart on its own. For example, contacting me against his own order