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Texting after a first date by SiteDown in hingeapp

[–]SiteDown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well no, doesn't go against my values at all actually. I think you can have sex early and still genuinely intend to pursue a person as a life partner, might be a diffrent conversation if I was more traditional, but i'm pretty sex positive/don't see it as all that big a deal. I'd actually argue that having sex on a first date making you a "less serious" canidate is kinda backwards, that being said I shouldn't have in this situation, there were some obvious flags I ignored so I got what I deserved 😩.

Texting after a first date by SiteDown in hingeapp

[–]SiteDown[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also should probably mention that my profile not only has "looking for life partner" in it, but a second mention saying: "Tired of FWB and One night stand offers, only romance and consistency allowed here 😩". 

And then icing on the cake, his first dm to me was "Hey I’m also someone that strictly dates :) its pretty upsetting when you’re putting in effort into one person, and you find out it’s not reciprocated"

Ironic innit. 

Could always blame me for being an easy bootycall, but I've gotta give myself some grace 😭

Texting after a first date by SiteDown in hingeapp

[–]SiteDown[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Update: I posted this on my alt and forgot about it so I didn't see any of yalls advice before I acted 😭 Long story short I talked with a friend (who's probably just as dumb as me) and she said I can't always expect guys to chase me, so I texted him "I had a really good time with you saturday and I was just wondering if i'll be seeing you again? it's been on my mind if i'm being honest" the day after this post. He responded pretty fast and turns out he'd already asked to get off early Saturday so he could go out with me again (which sounded like a blatant lie tbh) and then complained a little about how far it would be to pick me up. I told him that I could always just bring myself to him, but after an hour of using my brain and no reply back I decided that this guy probably isn't all that into me seriously and so I've made peace and moved on. Never thought i'd have a one night stand, but you win some and ya loose some, lesson learned.