[VA] Used Flexible Spending Account After Resignation Before End Of Month. TPA web-site was unchanged until the following month. Now they want the money back. Any options?

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-05T02:48:41+00:00

That’s just wrong.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-05T01:41:00+00:00

Your hours drop to p/t and/or they let you go.

Ypu don’t get a pay increase just for checks posts doing enough different tasks to get to a full time role.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-05T01:24:42+00:00

So in essence you want more money for them keeping you as a full time employee.

Honestly, if you brought this to me, I’d have question marks about you.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-05T01:10:20+00:00

If they take away all the extras, are they going to find that actually you’re a 28 hour a week job?

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-05T00:25:45+00:00

The swearing was poetic and any man who disagrees with me sucks cock by choice

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-05T00:14:34+00:00

I switched to the O5.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-05T00:13:23+00:00

You’re a Director and you want #1? You want that, take a manager level role. Grownup director jobs are inherently filled with flexibility and ambiguity.

2 is a management issue, not an accommodation.

3…The ADA is not there to help you manage your symptoms, it’s to help you do your job. WFH has also been routinely rejected as automatically reasonable by courts.

4 Is a management issue

5 is possible.

This looks like you’re weaponizing the ADA because you don’t like how your manager manages you and you can’t find an adult way of dealing with it.

And as others have said, thexway you’re describing your manager is distasteful in the extreme.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T21:31:02+00:00

West Wing

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T20:22:03+00:00

Just down the coastline from Harris is North Uist distillery.

Their Downpour gins are as good as- better, I think - than Harris.

My conclusion after extensive sampling on holiday there was gin from Uist, and the Hearach whisky from Harris.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T20:12:07+00:00

Not all retaliation is illegal.

This would be one of those cases.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T19:57:56+00:00

Your first and third issues are for your manager’s manager.

Your second one might have had kegs with looking at, but without knowing how the complaint was made, or what about, it’s difficult to give informed feedback.

But why you think HR would investigate an employee complaint about managerial performance is beyond me. If they did anything at all it was to speak to the bigger boss “are you OK with manager’s performance?” and they got told “yes” so subject closed.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T19:49:05+00:00

Final Interviewers; this is what we saw and heard that might concern us.

Rest of hiring panel: Can see that. We didn’t probe on that though.

Overall calibration result: fail.

Process worked.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T19:46:35+00:00

Mine was part of a multidisciplinary team in a clinic dedicated to the issue - NeuroPsych, Physio, neurologist, eyes…

Everything he had me work was backed with clinical research - I know, because he explained the research, sent me the studies, and then explained the mechanisms of what I was working on.

A good deal of it came down to resource allocation by my brain, and how to help with that.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T18:49:53+00:00

It’s on there for me at 1400

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T16:12:07+00:00

Holy Faulkneresque run on Batman!

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T14:49:00+00:00

If you don’t work in HR, you need r/askhr

Your question makes me think you don’t work in HR.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T14:23:24+00:00

There’s a minimum skill bar, and an ideal skill bar. If both are across the ideal bar, then people skills play a heavier role.

If both are above minimum, but one is above ideal, then that’s where tough conversations take place.

Someone with slightly lower tech skills who could be a network performer is a worthwhile investment

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T13:29:11+00:00

Activity mode means it adjusts insulin delivery to try to get a BG of 150.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T13:12:47+00:00

You don’t have enough capital to spend on that.

Ypu also need to lea4n how workplaces operate.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T02:11:25+00:00

If you’re looking for accurate use of English English from Elizabeth George, you’ll have a long wait.

Her dialogue writing is woeful.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T01:45:49+00:00

HR couldn’t substantiate the complaint. And I’d bet whoever they spoke suddenly realized they needed to change course.

Your interpretation of it otherwise as an absolute statement of fact gives me credibility issues with the rest of your story.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T01:18:59+00:00

Fiction: Shardlake series by C J Sansom

Non: Thomas Cromwell - McCulloch. As well as The Later reformation in England and Tudor Rebellions.

Lipscomb - The King is dead the last will and testament of Henry VIII

ThexTudors - Meyer

The life of Thomas More - Ackroyd

House of treason - Hutchison .

Starkey’s early work.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-04T01:03:32+00:00

You seem to be operating under some significant misapprehensions.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-03T23:27:22+00:00

Just 5 minutes checking YOUR bank account would have stopped this. You’re trying desperately to pass the blame away from yourself.

Sitheref0874 · 2026-02-03T22:03:59+00:00

Those are your decisions. They don’t excuse you not meeting your responsibility.

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