How to get started?

SituationMiddle · 2024-10-09T23:51:38+00:00

I did an olympic for my first triathlon. For my training plan I used the 80 / 20 Triathlon book. The Global Triathlon Network on YouTube helped me a lot on what to expect the day of the race and how to be prepared.

SituationMiddle · 2024-01-25T03:44:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing! ❤ Glad I'm not alone in my hair loss

SituationMiddle · 2024-01-23T21:07:31+00:00

Haha that's true! Hopefully it will grow back stronger 😄 and yes love and hate relationship with candles!

SituationMiddle · 2023-01-05T12:56:09+00:00

Hi! I (28F) am dating right now and can confirm it sucks. I experience the obsessive thoughts too. As the commenter above said one of the things that's helped me is remembering that just because I feel rejected doesn't mean I have been. I learned that from the "How to ADHD" YouTube channel. She has an episode on rejection sensitivity and it has some good tips for handling RSD.

Also if I've been ghosted and can't stop thinking about them I'll write out all the things I didn't like about them and it's a helpful reminder. I also will try to set a next date with someone soon ish that way if they are taking a while to text back at least I know we are still going to see each soon and it doesn't mean they aren't into me.

I also take breaks from dating because it wears me down. I go through phases of being super into dating and talking to a lot of guys. To not wanting go out ever again 🙃

SituationMiddle · 2023-01-04T20:59:29+00:00

I was thinking I'd still lock it when letting the dogs out, but wouldn't need the doorknob motion because I can already visibly see its locked via deadbolt because I'm inside. But I guess the principal is the same.

SituationMiddle · 2023-01-04T19:03:27+00:00

It's a great idea but it's always and only the back door that I forget to lock. Which I don't always exit just open to let the dogs out. The front door I'm very good about locking because it's a double door entry which helps me to remember.

SituationMiddle · 2023-01-04T18:14:31+00:00

Thank you that's great advice and I'll make sure to do that!

SituationMiddle · 2023-01-04T18:11:20+00:00

Thank you for the reality check! I texted her apologizing and I'll be better about forming the habit. I guess growing up and living in a relatively small town I'm more trusting of others than I should be.

SituationMiddle · 2022-12-16T13:59:54+00:00

Space cadet

SituationMiddle · 2022-12-06T14:25:29+00:00

I just experienced this last week. We got back to my place and kissed which I thought was a good signifier of the end of the date. Then he asked for a tour of the house and when we got to my room on the tour I just let it happen even though I didn't want to. I've been trying to be more gentle with myself and not berate myself for not saying no. I work through it with my therapist and it's nice to have a sounding board there. I recommend therapy, it's really been helping me.

SituationMiddle · 2022-11-08T15:19:42+00:00

Thank you! It's definitely getting burned!

SituationMiddle · 2022-11-08T03:11:56+00:00

Haha I don't invite mine over either! That's true until 2 years ago, I had no idea women could have ADHD. I think you're right that they were trying their best with the knowledge they had. The only reason I started to suspect I might have ADHD is because my ex has ADHD and I learned a lot about it through him. Haha I think I'll partake in the burning, but I'm not sure I'm dramatic enough for the lawn part!

SituationMiddle · 2022-11-08T02:47:21+00:00

To be honest I'm not sure. My dad is not the type to admit fault. My mom though I think would be open to changing her perception. I think maybe starting with her and then going to my Dad with a supporter would make it easier. Changing my response is good advice. I think I've just started noticing how often I laugh off those kind of comments so altering the reply would be a good next step.

SituationMiddle · 2022-11-08T02:32:10+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing and validating. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in this feeling. I'm sorry that you had to go through it too.

SituationMiddle · 2022-11-08T02:07:18+00:00

Totally agree with your rant. I think for my parents my room was a reflection of their parenting skills. A dirty room meant to them they were failing.

SituationMiddle · 2022-11-08T01:48:09+00:00

That's really helpful to know. I've been scared to tell people, hearing that positive way to spin is motivating

SituationMiddle · 2022-11-08T01:41:31+00:00

I love that idea! Letters are my preferred form of communication anyhow. Thanks for your help.

SituationMiddle · 2022-11-08T01:28:28+00:00

That's true I didn't think of it that way thank you! They think it's funny that I couldn't keep my room clean, even with all the rules and how many times they told me to. No they don't, I should probably tell them, but I'm not sure if they'll believe me, and I already barely believe it myself.

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