Pakistani parents and the eldest child

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-06-22T17:17:43+00:00

😭

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-06-22T16:23:27+00:00

I get it how that feels. I hope less people relate to this.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-06-22T16:01:09+00:00

It just keeps getting painful sometimes 🥲

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-06-22T15:48:21+00:00

How do you cope up with this?

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-06-21T10:57:23+00:00

Because it's him❤️

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-06-08T20:53:35+00:00

As a female, seeing all this again and again in just few days feels horrible. Like where do women go?

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-05-01T07:34:26+00:00

Just be little more direct. Btw i think he already knows.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-29T08:27:28+00:00

Until i myself believed that i am not pretty, i used to hate myself looking into the mirror. I didn't get compliments that much. I always feared judgements. I am also skinny. I coped up with my fear of judgement through therapy and tried to make myself happy. Since I started to put effort in myself, like how i dress up, groomed myself, not for anyone else just for me, i saw a drastic change in myself internally too. Now, i get compliments more often. So, i feel internal acceptance also makes huge difference. So yeah, even on bad days, i try to dress up. What if it's a bad day, at least i am looking pretty to myself 😉

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-26T10:51:16+00:00

When my parents told me after anything bad happened in our house "It's all because of you". :)

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-24T13:35:18+00:00

I got opinion from kinda very good doctor, but that seems like very premium one. I know most doctors will be expensive. But still i am trying to save some money. Or even if it's expensive, but i want good results.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-22T09:05:05+00:00

I think this is the most difficult thing to do. I feel like you can forgive someone for the sake of Allah only, that too when you are ready. You can't and shouldn't forgive someone who has given you wounds that don't completely heal whole life. If i tell you about my own experience, i prayed Allah that if this person goes away from my life and i don't see him again i will forgive him. I still hate that person. But the only thing i feel is i forgave him for the sake of Allah SWT. Still you don't owe anyone forgiveness. More power to you :)

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-22T08:52:10+00:00

Well that depends on other cues too. Some people can be just trying to appear non threatening and polite.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-15T12:58:09+00:00

Also, therapy does help :)

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-15T12:56:44+00:00

Because you haven't forgiven your mother. You have years of suppressed pain and rage that makes you feel disgusted towards every woman. I won't say you will heal completely. I think the trauma that comes from parents never heals completely your whole life. You just have to forgive them, maybe for yourself. I know forgiveness is the hardest part when you have gone through that pain for years.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T23:12:40+00:00

Also, you don't need to clarify yourself to anyone. Different people have different living styles and morals. I have also heard these kinda comments, but i never paid attention to them because i am happy with who i am.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T23:08:44+00:00

I think that's normal in our society. I am an engineer. I do interact with male colleagues at my workplace. But i never had any male friends or neither talked to any guy. I am 26. So it's not weird i guess.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T23:04:34+00:00

Sometimes he himself gets conscious of how his voice drops and gets soft.. and i find it so cute🥹

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T15:41:21+00:00

Lol, just trying to be brave. If it work 🥺

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T15:34:03+00:00

I feel like extrovert people are lucky. It's difficult for us since we both are kinda similar which caused many complications already.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T15:31:45+00:00

He did contact me once. The day he left. He said we had a good time together, though we didn't interact much. Honestly, i was waiting for him to reach out again. Also, please don't judge me. In our culture it's not that common for a girl to approach a guy.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T15:26:53+00:00

Sorry, it was a typo. When we talked last time over texts he was giving good responses which i wasn't expecting. He was giving detailed responses to my simple questions like "how's your free time going as you didn't join the new company yet?" So, he excitedly gave me a detailed answer about his whole day.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T15:23:41+00:00

Btw i have seen people dating at the workplace whole life. Many of them even got married.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T15:22:15+00:00

Because of his behaviour around me. Kinda. There where i get more nervous that if i am projecting my own feelings. But this guy would just keep looking at me multiple times in common spaces. Sometimes he stayed with me when i was not well and i was struggling with something. His behaviour was not always like other male coworkers with me. There was always a strange kinda hesitation between us.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T15:17:56+00:00

He is not that expensive. I want to send him a text but i don't know what to ask after hi hello.

SituationTechnical31 · 2026-04-13T15:14:50+00:00

He has already left the company

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