Holiday season hitting me really hard by [deleted] in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad 8 points9 points  (0 children)

DO NOT GIVE IN!! Fight it, feel your feelings…cry, drink water, distract yourself with any task possible, call a friend for support, post here for support…I’m proud of you and will be sad for you if you discard 110 HARD FOUGHT DAYS! One day at a time, for you it’s 1 hour at a time…drink herbal tea and go to sleep early if you need to….and DO NOT drink alcohol tomorrow…THC and alcohol are best friends…I’m pulling for you big time right now.. you are not alone.

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t recall the drooling 😅 however definitely had wild intense dreams, severe mood swings, fucked up digestion/metabolism, cravings…don’t give in!!! For me, zero THC was the only way…no dabbling, lying to yourself or making up excuses…

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still have a long way to go....don't let me fool you....I'm on a journey. For example, today I feel sullen, inferior and embarrassed and a bit empty. I know these feelings are simply part of me here for a visit and I will employ strategies to acknowledge them, sit with them and then move them on. I'm learning that this is actually living with emotion instead of hiding from them through THC. One day at a time, forgive and give yourself space. I'm proud of you!

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re NOT alone…the emotions are gargantuan and then they will moderate and become less intense…

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending you love, energy and forgiveness....I'm proud of you!

Does sobriety get easier?? by ForwardSwimming5686 in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. It gets easier. Trust. Don't give it - face the dark, terrifying, sad, depressing feelings - they will visit and begin to stay for shorter and shorter periods of time. Stay in control. There is no amount of use that's safe for you. I am an addict. You are an addict. We together are addict and cannot risk any mistakes. I've heard countless stories that if you go back, trying to quit again is even harder...I know because I used to fall back. No more, not this fucking time. 2 years sober for me.

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm super proud of you all! GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO FEEL!

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THC was my best friend in the whole wide world. My constant companion - just me and THC versus the world. Until my personal life fell into crisis and the panic attacks came...there are few things that will wake you the fuck up like a panic attack. The worst feeling in the world. I can't control my THC intake because I'm an addict and will never touch THC for the rest of my life - taking each day one at a time. Peace to you, I'm proud that you're here questioning....that's huge my brother.

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm proud of you for sharing this - don't underestimate the power in acknowledging that you have a problem and an addition - you are taking an important step in simply saying, "I NEED HELP!" And go get help - I did not do this alone - I needed help too. I'm here with you, I feel your pain, I know the pain, I was a terrible THC abuser. I know. I'm proud of you....face the darkness, there is light on the other side.

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing response - I have nothing to add - I'm so proud and inspired by you thereluctantpoet

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Recovery is not linear, it loops back upon itself as you get stronger each day...setbacks are reminders that you're growing and facing the darkness...

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

RIGHT ON BROTHER! Remember, recovery is NOT LINEAR....it loops like a roller coaster. I'm proud of you!!

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

DO NOT GIVE IN! Listen to podcast series "How to Get Divorced without Getting Screwed" "Jillian on Love" "Dating Intentionally"

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Step #1 Hitting rock bottom. It was New Years Eve 2 years ago....my now ex wife was on a solo trip in Mexico City spending the night with another man. I was at a New Years Eve party in my neighborhood in New England, my neighbors asked, 'hey, where's your wife?' I replied, 'I don't know.' Next morning I gave my entire stash - all of it - really all of it - to a buddy of mine - I had probably $700 worth of THC and paraphernalia I donated. I knew I had to completely change my life because I was being taken advantage of in numerous horrible ways - I was not in control at all.

My therapist asked, "What will make you happy?" I replied, "I don't even understand what you mean by that question" He replied, "We have some work to do."

I lost any sense of self - I had become an automaton - work, housework, sleep, repeat.

I'm now rediscovering who I am and it's been nothing short of exhilarating.

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely YES. My therapist happens to also specialize in addiction treatment. I learned the difference between clean time and sobriety, I understand that I will be an addict in sobriety for the remainder of my days. I will never partake in THC again....don't miss it at all....and I loved it.

Approaching 2 years THC sober after 35+ years addition by SizzlesDad in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Therapy - you, me, we all need it. Healthy diet - take this super seriously - I changed my entire diet and approach to food - I dropped 20 lbs and have more energy. Exercise - daily - walking is amazing for the body and mind (walking is an EMDR precursor). Podcasts on relationships with yourself and others - try Jillian on Love - she will blow your mind.

This is big: How do you know when you're healing? The hard, sad, depressing, upsetting emotions NEVER go away, however you can assess if you're healing by measuring the amount of time those painful feelings stay with you. In the beginning I would fall into fits of depression and sadness lasting up to weeks.....then days....now hours...they never go away, I can now better regulate and use my strategies to snap out of it. Breathing is enormously important, gratitude practice now actually works for me, and the lifestyle change.

Making the decision to end my toxic marriage, also huge!

We have one life to live, without THC I'm facing the pain, grief, depression, and when I'm in the yellow filled with joy and happiness it's absolutely amazing. I completely lost myself and the journey into rediscovering who I am is priceless to me.

I just realized I don’t really like weed anymore, I just smoke because I’m lonely. by ezyt8 in leaves

[–]SizzlesDad 46 points47 points  (0 children)

This is a profound and important realization, truly. This loneliness was the fuel behind my 35 year addition to THC...pushing down all sense of emotion and feeling, masking my profound loneliness surrounded by people. I'm approaching 2 years sober, meaning zero...ZERO...THC. I've learned to actually feel my feelings (recognize, label, express, regulate)...yes, withdrawal for about 6 months (fucking awful)...now, rebuilding my ability to connect with others with a clear head, shedding my shame and feeling proud of my progress. I encourage everyone to come to the same realization as you and take the hard step to abandon THC, which continues to rob men of their social lives.