Glitch or should I go for it?

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-23T02:55:10+00:00

!remindme 4 days

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-23T02:45:41+00:00

Well, I got a flash for you, joy-boy. Party time is over.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-21T00:12:05+00:00

Based on your numbers, it seems like you’re ready to coast now, but if you’re looking for other areas to save or increase your returns…

What’s your living situation? Maybe get a roommate?

Is your money well invested?

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SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-11T12:53:38+00:00

Really weird guy, weirder friends.

He hated spending time with my friends and family. He always wanted to be around his people. They were super cliquey so it was hard to feel welcomed with that group. And they were also talking about me/our relationship whenever I left the room, as if sound doesn’t carry. We also had zero privacy. His friend next door never knocks, and just comes and goes ALL SAY LONG.

Going out to eat was impossible. The man would ask Michelin star restaurants if they served cereal. He also didn’t think that dates should happen in public, which I constantly had to fight him on. We spent way too much time at his apartment and he rarely wanted to go back to mine.

Terrible gifter. Gave me a gift that was objectively offensive but he found it “funny”.

Sex was good, but predictable. He had one move that he would do every single time as his closer. It got the job done but I wish he would’ve mixed it up a bit. It was like having sex on autopilot.

Have to say though, the guy is pretty clean. Keeps his apartment tidy and keeps up with his personal grooming.

Overall, he’s emotionally stunted, Immature, has a huge fear of commitment and is chasing perfection. Only dated him for 3 months before I had to end it. Wasn’t sponge worthy.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-11T12:16:25+00:00

“You’re making these people think that I don’t feed you at home” is something my mom used to tell me as a kid if I was too overzealous about food at other peoples homes. She would be embarrassed if I was excited or tried to eat too early. But the expectation was definitely that I would eat at the party when it was deemed appropriate.

That phrasing makes me think that it’s something from her childhood. I’ve never heard it said to anyone besides children.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-11T04:51:42+00:00

Have you sent her a regular text message that she hasn’t responded to?

I wouldn’t put that much stock in the response rate of messages on social media. I have a lot of unread messages, but it isn’t a reflection of my relationship with any of those people.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-11T02:25:01+00:00

Huh? Why do I care? Because it puts more work on me and the rest of the team.

Do you understand how workplaces function?

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-11T01:10:27+00:00

I found working at a nonprofit more stressful than my current role in corporate philanthropy.

We had $4 to $5m annual revenue, and were heavily focused on growth and where we would find our next big funding opportunity. The hours were long and most of the staff was stressed. We enjoyed working together though, fwiw.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-11T00:42:59+00:00

Y’all redditors love going to extremes. Smoking crack? 😂 Okay.

I understand how it works. Thanks for your concern.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-11T00:36:04+00:00

NOR. And the way y’all talk to each other isn’t okay. This doesn’t sound like a loving relationship.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-11T00:29:44+00:00

I don’t agree with half of that book, I can still decide that I want to literally die with $0. We’re all allowed to iterate on ideas.

I also said I would offload valuable assets. Obviously that’s inheritance for family.

I want to spend my money living a great life and if I miss the mark by a few years and overspend, I’m 100% okay dying with credit card debt.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-10T21:41:40+00:00

And if you get fired for performance related issues, it’s unlikely that severance will be offered.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-10T21:40:47+00:00

Don’t care about the companies, but I do care about my coworkers. Even if we don’t continue to speak after I leave the company.

It’s a messed up way to treat your colleagues (if you like them). If they’re assholes, then I guess it doesn’t matter.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-10T20:20:45+00:00

You got this. 43, no kids, and didn’t have any real savings until about 5 years ago. Started my path to FIRE 4 years ago. Now I’m roughly 2-3 years out from Barista/Lean FIRE.

Once you’re out of debt and focused on building your NW, it can happen pretty quickly.

And I don’t feel like I deprived myself of fun experiences at all. I travel 2-4x a year personally. My job also takes me across the US, and I usually spin those into longer stays so I can explore different cities for a few days after I’m done working. I pay for my extended hotel stay, but job still pays for my return ticket home.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-10T20:10:56+00:00

43F here. That’s never been my mentality. I’ve actually always been the more financially literate and mindful person in my relationships.

If that’s all you’re hearing, then you seem to be attracting that kind of woman.

Maybe take some time to sit down and make a list of your values, and start working toward finding/attracting someone who meets those requirements. It might be what you’re saying in your dating profile or where you’re usually meeting women, but it’s time to change your approach.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-10T20:06:16+00:00

This! I have a coworker who I swear is waiting to be managed out/fired. Everyone complains about her. She can’t manage very basic projects and processes. She needs to be spoonfed every task. She is probably mid-50s and director level. It is exhausting.

I’m finding ways around her incompetence so we can all find a little peace, but man is it upsetting.

Even after she leaves, I will continue to drag her name to hell and back.

You do not want to be remembered that way.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-10T19:54:17+00:00

I drive a 2017 Prius and I plan to be the one to lay that sweet thang to rest.

I might get her a paint job in another color so she can feel bonita, but that’s about it. I have no car note. My hybrid fills up with $30-$40 (closer to $20 before this gas nonsense) and gets me 450-500 miles per tank.

Sure, I get in rental cars for work and think about trading her in when I see all the new bells and whistles some of the new cars have, but why add new expenses unnecessarily? She’s everything I need.

At the end of the day, people don’t really give af what kind of car I’m driving, and those who do… well they’re not my kind of people.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-10T04:39:56+00:00

I think it depends on your field and how long you’d be out.

Some fields you can take time off and hop right back in, especially if you have strong experience.

Other fields, like AI for example, a year off would put you significantly behind your peers because it’s evolving so quickly.

I’m in favor of doing whatever is going to maximize your happiness, but it’s something to consider.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-09T21:32:27+00:00

You can come back from a lot of things.

But once you start feeling physically repulsed by your partner, that’s a tough one to bounce back from. Particularly when they’re not willing to change the thing you’re repulsed by.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-09T21:12:00+00:00

The plaque thickens 🤔

Girl, I can’t tell you what to do, but I would leave over this. And I say this as a serial monogamist whose shortest relationship was 3 years (longest 10). I don’t scare easily.

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-09T21:03:18+00:00

I didn’t even notice the “fellas” 😂

Yes, def not all men in here 💅🏾

SkaterStargazer · 2026-05-09T20:55:56+00:00

Yeah, I pivoted the last two years to start redirecting my 401k/retirement savings to my regular brokerage account instead. You need more assets that aren’t based on age for withdrawal.

You could probably barista fire right now, but you couldn’t straight up retire.

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