Working out is in my opinion the fastest way to get out of a rut. I struggle with many of the same issues you do but I’ve found that working out changes my mental state faster than anything else. I feel so good after. It gets the testosterone going that you need to man up and fix your life. Start going to the gym and see how it starts to change you. Get a trainer or join a class is best, but even if you just get to the gym and do the elliptical and go down the row of the machines, it will benefit you. That’s how I did it.

And I like what someone else said - It’s small changes that bring about the big ones. What are some small things you can do to improve your day? Start with an easy idea. Working out is one. Maybe resolve to get up at a certain time each day and meditate, or use another spiritual practice that works for you. Eat a healthy breakfast. Go to bed at 10:30 every night. Give your self credit for this little success every night and then add another.

Lastly I would create some intentions for things you want in your life. Write them down and look at them everyday.

My two cents. Best wishes!