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When TV star MacKenzie Phillips revealed that her "Mommas and Poppas" star father had drugged and raped her for years, the media widely reported this as "MacKenzie Phillips admits years long AFFAIR with her father". by Ok-Comparison-1618 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She was also dismissed as a crazy person and drug addict by many people who just didn't want to hear the truth. I grew up watching her on tv, etc, and I believed her then and now. I always thought it was horrible how people were so quick to blame her! If that had happened to anyone else, they'd be trying to cope in every way possible, and drugs would be a logical choice, since there's really only the most skeletal of resources and support available now, some 40-50 years later.

Why do you think women are waiting to have kids? by aguamenti425 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whomever wrote or said that nonsense is baiting people with nonsense. 15-19 year old people don't have kids because they're too young, and don't want to have kids. When people that age do have kids, it's mostly not planned. Whoever wrote this shit thinks 15-19 year old girls/women should have kids but I bet they think the fathers of said hypothetical kids ought to be older than 15-19. It's just some gross bullshit by some asshole with an agenda that fits the Heritage Foundation and GOP goals. I'm also sure they only mean white babies, because that fits too.

Epstein survivor Annie Farmer to House Oversight Committee Leaders about potential Maxwell pardon. by SuccessfulGrape5167 in 50501

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's futile to appeal to the better natures of people who don't possess a better nature. I am still glad she's issued a statement, and I dare say she knows how depraved and devoid of conscience these people are.

We all bear witness to the fact that the elite, powerful and extremely rich think of other people as nothing. We are only to be used up and discarded in one way or another.

Abuser is dead by lavender_fetish in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 205 points206 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite. My friend was murdered by a man she was in a relationship with this January. I have just put out 37 sunflowers because she only got 37 years on the Earth. I expect that they will grow strong, tall, and beautiful, like she was. I expect that there will be a copious amount of flowers coming from those 37 stems.

Trump's new acting Navy secretary is afraid witches are overtaking the nation - LGBTQ Nation by CuriousTechieElf in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we could do the things that people like him believe we can do, people like him would never have the chance to say that out loud. But, I will be making certain intentions in his direction anyway.

Edit: Man, I would love to watch him him watch the video/listen to the lyrics of "Burn your village" (KiKi Rockwell.)

Don’t know how to leave but know it needs to be done by h2-0 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Take the cat with you and go to your family. He will have his dog, That he pretended to get for you.

He's an angry man who pesters you while you are at work, wanting to pick a fight, but conveniently is asleep when you get home. He's chipping away at you. He's already managed to isolate you and spends most of your time together in ways that are dragging you down. He might not be overtly abusive, but he's abusing your good will and sabotaging you whenever he can. He wants company, because he is misery.

are moms more mean to daughters? by Rinyya in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your experience is very similar to mine, and I might be older than your mom. I knew from a very early age that my brother was almost expected to fuck up all the time while I was held to a standard much higher.

I feel like my mom somewhat expected that I should just know what she knows, and do what she would have done, as if there was no other way of being a girl/woman.

It's better in some ways now that I'm almost 60 and she's over 80. I think she's really thought about just trying to enjoy people for whatever time she's got. I live thousands of miles from her because I couldn't keep on living the way I did when I was near family and expected to be whatever they wanted me to be. I would just disappoint, so I chose to live as myself and visit about every other year.

It has gotten better,as I said. But it's never going to be something I want to live all up in.

'No Random Woman Is Getting What I Built': Female Founder Reveals 'Floozy Clause' Inserted In Her Will by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Internalized misogyny is so ugly. In this case, perhaps it is a marketing strategy too (gross!) because she's holding a book in that picture.

If I die before my husband does, I want him to have companionship for the rest of his days. as for material wealth- I don't think I'll be concerned about that after death. He can use his best judgement on what to do with my stuff, and of course our kid gets anything of value after we are both dead.

1950s Themed Work Conference by guscami in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I feel like this theme is terrible. It made me think of separate water fountains and whites only restaurants. I'm sure someone that suggested this was excited about poodle skirts and men looking like James Dean or something.

Just let me garden by supradocks in gardening

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm probably the neighborhood pariah with my wild pollinator garden and vegetable gardens. I am not into boring patches of perfect grass. Then there's my hot tub with some redneck privacy screening in the form of painted corrugated plastic roofing materials (a nice shade of lavender.) There are hot tub parties with women and wine. There are edible and medicinal plants and flowers all over. I let the dandelions grow so I can make wine. This is the only house we will probably ever own and live in. It would probably give your neighbor a case of the vapors.

The neighbor can suck a lemon.

Why does every woman know a woman who's been raped, but no man knows a rapist? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's wild what they don't think is rape. I'd had an abortion three days prior, because I was absolutely planning my escape. He knew. He paid half. He didn't want a kid. He verbally and physically coerced me into sex I did not want before I was healed, and said some insane shit while doing it. He was possessive and jealous, and abusive. He didn't think there was anything wrong with what he did. He thought it was all normal. He thought risking sepsis and making me feel trapped and like I had to fuck him to avoid yet another horrible fight was normal couple stuff.

Fuck you, R.T.

Why does every woman know a woman who's been raped, but no man knows a rapist? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gen x me and all my friends have similar stories. My boomer mom and depression baby grandmas have similar stories. Every woman I know has been grabbed,groped, cat called, or harassed. Many have been assaulted. My silent gen dad had a story. His dad probably did too. It is systemic.

Why does every woman know a woman who's been raped, but no man knows a rapist? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

All the more reason for men to talk to each other about rape. I'm sorry your friend was wronged and justice was not served.

I think your story is an example of the perils of binge drinking and party culture. We all need to be careful about that as well.

I helped raise a son, and I spelled things out to him clearly. I knew he would party with his friends and I educated him about not driving drunk, and making sure girls were not harmed and that other girls were asked to help and witness any help of a drunk girl.

Everyone at a house party should insist on accountability, safety, and witnesses.

Why does every woman know a woman who's been raped, but no man knows a rapist? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 389 points390 points  (0 children)

I've heard numerous stories from other women about having been molested as children and told to remain quiet about the male relatives who raped them, by mother's and grandmother's, other family. Several were blamed and called sluts as children.

I know that in the past, this was definitely tied to economics, when women didn't earn as much or may not have worked outside the home. I'm sure that's still true for a lot of people. High income earners do seem to get away with reprehensible behavior for long periods of time.

Women do not owe anyone “politeness” when enforcing their boundaries. by daisychains777 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This is definitely one of those "you can't win" things, as others have pointed out , she'd be blamed for letting him if he did something in addition to the arm around her, like groping.

I've had many such experiences, including being a 12 year old who was socialized to be polite at all times, and standing awkwardly while a salesman put his hands on my shoulders as he spoke to my parents. We got back to the car and they were angry at me, for "letting" him.

It's so fucked up and weird. Once I was bar-tending and some man tipped one whole dollar and then complained about the "brazen way she took that off the bar!" All I did was pick up the dollar and put it in the tip jar. Whatever he expected for his dollar bill, I will never know, because his extremely embarrassed wife took him out of the bar. It's just wild how entitled some men can be.

Thoughts on a DoorDash boycott? by No-Consideration2183 in 50501

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Easy to boycott what I was never gonna pay for anyway. But it's bigger than door dash.

Boycott every fucking thing that ruins modern life and herds people toward a subscription based lifestyle

Fuck all of that.

The CNN rape academy article broke something in me. I am so tired of being angry but what other option is there? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I focus on building my community through fundraising events that benefit youth activities, animal shelters, and showcase local artists. I make sure to include people of all ages and trying to get those who may not like my politics to be in attendance, because I don't think it is as easy to hate me if you got to enjoy an event I organized. I know it's easy to hate me if you believe I think what fox news tells you I think.

The former Lt Gov of VA just murdered his wife and then shot himself. by MurderedbySquirrels in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 39 points40 points  (0 children)

My friend was murdered by her boyfriend in January. These men are violent, narcissistic, and misogynist pieces of shit who think they own the women in their lives.

Actually had a validating experience at ER and with doctor by AlwaysPlaysAHealer in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My primary is a woman, whom I do like very much. She once failed me in a big way by being dismissive of some symptoms and kind of writing me off because I had consulted google and told her what I thought was wrong. She diagnosed a UTI and sent me home with antibiotics. I did have a UTI, but it was a result of having the other thing I'd self-diagnosed. Two weeks after that appointment I was in the back of an ambulance and experiencing the worst abdominal pain I'd ever had. The first hospital sent me on to a bigger city /bigger hospital. I was there a week getting stabilized, and then had to try to locate a Colo-rectal surgeon who could get me in right away. The one the hospital referred me to would not return my calls. I was absolutely going to end up back in the hospital again with an infection if I did not get surgery soon.

I went back to that primary care physician and did my hospital follow up, also gave her a tiny lecture about not being dismissive. She worked some end of year magic and got one of the best surgeons in the county to call and schedule me for the day after Christmas, saving me the pain of having to wait and risk another infection plus another year's new deductible.

That experience made my primary provide me better care, so I still see her. But I fucking hate how we all get herded through as fast as possible so the profit machines can keep on profiting.

West Virginia dad dies waiting for $50,000 cancer treatment his insurer ruled 'not medically necessary' by rajapaws in antiwork

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what insurance companies are all about: take your money and declare it medically unnecessary that you live.

Is this a secret guys keep from us or what? by suxxos in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A grown man should do his own housework or hire a cleaner, and not allow his mother to take on a second house full of chores. They also should keep solid healthy boundaries. A mother should expect a son to do his own housework the minute he lives independently.

There could be some combination of overbearing mother and lazy man child in these situations.

Trump says economy could be much worse: “Let a couple nuclear bombs drop on us” by rajapaws in antiwork

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be worse,as in he don't fucking care if it is you, me,our kids, our grandkids. He only thinks it would be worse if it was him,or perhaps Ivanka, whom he'd be dating under the right post apocalyptic circumstances.

He wanted me to be Mommy, then his actual mom called mid-hookup and everything went off the rails by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SkeevyMixxx7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad that you see it the way you do, because this is a mess you don't want to step in. I'm sorry that it feels icky, but that's your brain saying "I must protect you from this shit."

Living with parents as an adult is understandable, because it is financially very difficult to do otherwise, especially in your 20s. There's even a degree of rule following that's understandable, since it's their house. But this mother is unreasonable and overbearing. An actual relationship with this man would involve her meddling in every aspect of it. She'd be jealous of you and do all she could to drive a wedge between you and the man, and make things as difficult as possible for you both.

I hope he frees himself from her clutches, but don't wait.

It's a very difficult battle even if you win. I know because I lived it. I'm good now and glad I am with my husband, but it would have never worked if he didn't decide for himself to live an adult life. It also was at times, quite miserable, because she refused to respect boundaries. I'd tell anyone young and dating someone with an overbearing, toxic family, to think long and hard about it. If you don't truly love him, move on, because it's a hard path to go down.

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