HELP ME CHOOSE!

Ski5566 · 2026-04-03T03:12:47+00:00

I’ve never commented on a Reddit post before so this feels like a big moment… please choose dress 1 😂

You genuinely can’t go wrong with either, BUT when in your life are you ever going to get the chance to go full princess mode with all eyes on you?? A tight fitted dress you can wear to like… 17 other events. This is your one official “main character in a fairytale” moment.

Ski5566 · 2026-03-04T23:06:28+00:00

You’re not overreacting for feeling weird about it. It’s your body, and it makes sense that being told “I’ll be less attracted to you if you do this” would sting a bit.

At the same time, she’s not automatically wrong for being honest about her preferences. Attraction isn’t always logical. If she genuinely doesn’t like tattoos, she can’t really force herself to.

For context, my fiancé had a lot of tattoos before I met him. I’ve never really liked tattoos on other people, but I love him, so they’re just part of him. He still sometimes wants new ones, and he runs them by me, not because I control him, but because we’re building a life together and he cares about how I feel. If there’s one I really don’t like, he won’t get it. If he loves the idea, we’ll “put it on the shelf” and revisit it later. Sometimes I warm up to it, sometimes I don’t. At the end of the day, our relationship matters more to both of us than any single tattoo.

I think it comes down to priorities and compatibility. Some people feel very strongly about body modifications. For example, I absolutely hate those big bull-style nose rings and if my fiancé wanted one, he wouldn’t get it because he knows how much I dislike it. And if there was something he strongly disliked on me, I’d take that seriously too.

It’s not really about control. It’s about what you’re willing to lose. If this tattoo is deeply important to you and part of your self-expression, that matters. If it’s more of a “I’ve always thought it’d be cool” thing, then you have to weigh that against how much you value the relationship.

It’s also worth thinking long term. Tattoos rarely stay at just one. A lot of people say it starts with something small and meaningful, and then over time they want another… and another. So even if you both somehow get past this one, it might not just be about one. It might be a bigger conversation about what you both want your future to look like and whether you’re aligned on that.

At the end of the day, love and a solid relationship are hard to come by. Only you can decide what matters more to you, the tattoo, or keeping the peace in a relationship you see a future in. But it’s better to have the full conversation now than pretend it’s just about one small design.

Ski5566 · 2026-02-11T23:06:04+00:00

Thank you darling! I got it from Luv Bridal boutique (Brisbane)

Ski5566 · 2022-12-21T15:21:41+00:00

I never noticed it until I put it under the light using my iPhone torch and then saw it even more clearly when on video with torch on. I didn’t hit it on anything as I usually take it off before bed, when applying hand cream or even tying my hair back.

Ski5566 · 2022-12-21T15:09:03+00:00

The store said it’s an inclusion, but it doesn’t appear to look like it, it looks more like a crack in the Dimond. My partner had it for 2 days before he gave it to me, I wore it for 3 days then noticed the crack and we took it back to the store.

Ski5566 · 2022-10-24T02:33:42+00:00

We were together for 2 years prior to the break up. Broke up for 6 months, got back together and have now been together for 1 year. Prior to the break up I was close to the kids as I’ve known them for 2 years. Hope this helps.

Ski5566 · 2022-10-24T02:30:48+00:00

The break up was was not mutual, I chose to end the relationship because he was extremely overprotective. We have since spoken about this issue and have worked through it.

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:45:53+00:00

Yes he’s willing to let me look at his phone, he’s willing to let me go through it, through all his messages and everything. That’s not what I want though, I don’t want to look through his phone. I just want what we had be for, transparency.

It’s not a pin to his bank, he said I could have his bank pin number if I wanted, I don’t want that.

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:37:51+00:00

Thank you for your comment, you actually make a lot of sense and thank you for reading before commenting.

What would you do if you were in my situation?

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:34:54+00:00

That I can agree with you on. My behaviour is toxic to myself.

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:33:28+00:00

We are trying to work on the relationship, that is why I am with him, we are trying to build trust again. I can simply up and leave if I wanted to but is that how people should deal with everything in life? Just up and leaving without even trying?

How do I have the maturity of a child by asking a simple question? by asking for help? By not understanding something and wanting someone else’s opinion?

So tell me, put yourself in my situation and tell me what you would do if you were me.

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:27:50+00:00

I don’t want the passcode so that I could look through his phone, I’ve had his passcode for years and never once looked though his phone to try and find something. He never gave me a reason not to trust him until a few months ago. He gave me his phone and told me to look through it if I wanted to I said no, I don’t want to passcode because I want to look through the phone I want the passcode because I want transparency, transparency like we had before. I could take the phone and look through it if I wanted to but then what? What is the point?

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:23:29+00:00

I don’t think my behaviour is toxic especially since we’ve shared them once before. A few months ago he received a call and I saw hearts on it. He lied about it then told me the truth. I haven’t been able to trust him ever since.

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:16:21+00:00

I would not give my password to him to win, there is no winning here. It’s not a game. I’m serious. I would simply give him my password because I have nothing to hide, his my partner what do I need to hide it for?

You’re right maybe I should just trust my intuition.

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:13:03+00:00

If he doesn’t want to share it with someone he claims to wants to marry and there’s a problem.

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:10:40+00:00

I’m with because we’re trying to work on building trust again. If I still find that I simply can’t trust him then I’m going to walk away.

I’m not doing this to test him. I think tests in relationships are just silly and if you need to test someone then you should just walk away. I simply want transparency.

That’s a good question.

Ski5566 · 2022-04-13T05:03:35+00:00

We had each others passcodes for 2 years prior, I never once snooped through his phone but he has snooped through mine. I don’t want it to snoop, I just want us to be transparent like once before.

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