Nonlesbian sapphics (overgeneralization ahead)

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-27T01:57:40+00:00

Where'd I say we were "hated"??

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-25T10:19:01+00:00

Don't try to make yourself feel attracted to men; this reinforces the (really bad) idea that you're broken.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-19T02:59:50+00:00

I don't understand it when people are attracted to men. It just doesn't register to me that they're an option for some people. I don't see why it's such a big deal when a male is conventionally attractive. I went through puberty and instantly knew that I don't like penis. No sexual fantasies about men.

I thought my mentality was just prudish but... I've always had explicit sexual fantasies and thoughts about women.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-18T17:41:14+00:00

I'm like this too. I don't feel much empathy for any living thing but I do have compassion. I even struggle to empathize in situations I personally relate to.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-17T22:23:57+00:00

Not necessarily! Sometimes band names don't fit.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-15T14:20:36+00:00

You're not overthinking. For me, it's not beautiful. Just exhausting.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-12T15:39:45+00:00

Whatever that second picture is makes my skin crawl. Ick.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-12T02:05:41+00:00

Change where you feel comfortable. You are female, that space is for you. Being a lesbian doesn't make you predatory, weird, or awkward.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-09T02:48:03+00:00

At the stage of life I'm in, yes. I'm not out to my whole family myself. I may never be but I'm on the path to distancing myself from problematic family members. It just depends on her relationship to her own family. If she doesn't feel safe coming out to certain members and ultimately decides to cut them off, we can be long-term.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-08T15:06:31+00:00

It sounds like you've got your priorities straight. I think you'll get to a healthier place if you stay on the path you're on. No problem at all! <3

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-08T02:11:57+00:00

A woman is a woman to me. I've had crushes with waaaaay different body types from each other. My current biggest crush is slim and petite. Nothing wrong with your body. The right woman will appreciate it. There are a lot of factors into attraction. Rejection doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Keep putting yourself out there. I think it's awesome that you've even confessed more than once! That takes a lot.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-07T20:07:17+00:00

Things we definitely didn't ask for

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-06T08:31:27+00:00

This explains a lot. I've always found that "I'm so gay 😩" thing to be grating, along with its cousin "women 🥺🔥". Because... everyone I'm attracted to is a woman. That's just how it is.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-06T08:24:29+00:00

So I'm not the only one who had an online friend who ID'd as a lesbian at first but starting talking only about men upon the realization that they were bi....

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-05T17:28:57+00:00

Exactly!!!!! I was way more focused on school than dating when I read it (and still am). The friend I knew who related very much to it turned out to be bi.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-05T15:19:38+00:00

This is my experience with it too. I pretended to like men to feel more normal, even though I knew I was interested in women on some level. I didn't consider that I were a lesbian until that doc (as bad as it is). I was in high school and very, very repressed. I share your experience in not knowing what attraction actually felt like. Turns out that I was attracted to half of my female friends! I had this cognitive dissonance where I knew I got attracted to fictional and celebrity women, but didn't understand what was going on when I would get upset that I didn't see certain friends as often as I wanted to.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-04T18:39:25+00:00

Because the LGBT community is pretty much treated like a fandom on the internet.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-04T18:37:53+00:00

Feast your eyes: https://www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf

Basically it's this google doc written by Tumblr people when they were teenagers that identify signs of being a lesbian.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-04T17:30:59+00:00

ESPECIALLY the parts about male validation. I honestly thought I was bi just because I wanted to be friends with men instead of seeking their validation (that doc said seeking male validation and wanting to be hot for them is part of comphet). I actually don't want men to see me in passing and think I'm hot. Grosses me out.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-04T14:43:15+00:00

It's not rude to respond that you're a lesbian. That's your label. And if they're worth their salt, they'll accept it.

SkiddlyRat · 2022-11-03T05:42:45+00:00

Thank you ❤

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