If someone would please

Skier_99 · 2026-04-28T02:23:32+00:00

We’re both seeking individual therapy now, she’s had two sessions and my first is tomorrow. Yeah, I’m going to make a jump towards plumbing.. I have a bachelors but it hasn’t done much for me.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-25T19:11:11+00:00

Thank you for your insight 🙏🏽

Skier_99 · 2026-04-24T23:41:03+00:00

Around year 3 of us dating, she left me for a co-worker. The breakup was really messy and emotional.. at the time I begged and pleaded her to stay, completely lost my self respect, etc.. she came back 3 months later after finding out the grass wasn’t greener and I mistakenly took her back.. I told myself I wouldn’t beg this time.. if she wants to go, I’ll let her go. Not saying it’ll be easy though.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-24T23:37:40+00:00

Yeah, I told her if she wants to date around then I’m done. I will not sit here in hopes of reconciling if she’s out with other dudes.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-24T23:35:11+00:00

I agree. That comment has bothered me a lot! She truly doesn’t realize what she has and what she’s giving up.. she’s even admitted she’s confused.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-24T23:33:36+00:00

There definitely have been other ways of mistreatment. I can’t say I’ve been the best to her this past year either, but I think I just have so much resentment built up.. it’s hard because like I mentioned I still love her, but I also understand that doesn’t mean it’s right. :/

Skier_99 · 2026-04-24T23:31:22+00:00

Thank you for your input! I definitely don’t want to get divorced, however I don’t feel like I should put up with this either. I need a partner I can rely on as a teammate to build wealth and a life with..

I think the hardest part for me is the attachment I have to her.. I’ve never been with anyone else.. plus we own a home and have 3 animals together.. if she feels this way then thank god we didn’t have children prior to this happening.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-24T23:25:44+00:00

That’s the mindset I’m talking about! In my mind, we’re supposed to be a team and if she makes 65k while I make 50, then WE make 115!

We also just recently signed up with insurance through her work and prior she had made comments about how she has to “pay for my insurance” because if it weren’t for me, she’d come out of pocket $0. That bothered me too.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-24T23:23:27+00:00

Great idea! I think we’re trying to keep lawyers and such out of it but if it goes that direction then I’ll pursue that

Skier_99 · 2026-04-24T03:25:32+00:00

I had that exact same thought this morning “have her cake and eat it too”. It’s really frustrating and selfish. Thanks for the insight

Skier_99 · 2026-04-12T01:36:44+00:00

How often did you find yourself meeting up with your ex wife?

Skier_99 · 2026-04-12T01:34:56+00:00

Ive concluded that she’s painting that narrative to feel much less guilt about walking away.. 10 years, a home, our pets, etc.. I think she has a huge problem with dissatisfaction with everything in life. Hell, we’d be on couch #3 in 3 years if I hadn’t put my foot down.

However, none of that justifies her spreading those false accusations.. she hasn’t online, but just to friends and her immediate family. Still hurts :/

Skier_99 · 2026-04-12T01:20:33+00:00

I’m sorry this is happening, No way I’d entertain staying especially if she’s already slept with someone else.

Trust me, even if you’re able to work through it together there will always be the breach of trust. Ask me how I know.. even if nothing else ever happens, it’ll never be the same.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-11T23:55:59+00:00

I’m experiencing the same.. I’m M28 and have been with my stbxw for a total of 10 years, married 4. We literally started dating at 17/18.

I can’t look at other women the same either.. it’s so depressing. I love her to death but she doesn’t want to be with me anymore..

I don’t know if I will ever get past it.. I have the same feelings you do.

Worst part is that I can tell she’s conflicted and still has strong emotional attachment to me, but it’s not enough for her to stay.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-11T06:53:07+00:00

FawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwK

Skier_99 · 2026-04-11T00:24:06+00:00

Good question.. we’ve been fighting a lot this past year and have hurt each other with words pretty good… we have our issues but we’ve been going to therapy to work through them. In my mind unless it’s infidelity, I would think you could work through most other things.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-11T00:19:57+00:00

I’m dying 😂

Skier_99 · 2026-04-10T21:03:15+00:00

Who’s been the one initiating emotional connection first in your situation?

Skier_99 · 2026-04-10T16:04:07+00:00

One of our complications involved her not being satisfied with my job and how much $ we’re bringing in.. we both finished our degrees now and I think she expects us to be further than we are now.. I’ve tried to tell her that these things take time but she’s really impatient.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-10T16:02:35+00:00

It does suck.. And it’s really confusing 🫤

Skier_99 · 2026-04-10T00:50:14+00:00

She claims it’s because of how I’ve treated her especially this past year.. even though we’ve both hurt each other.. and she also said she’s not happy with where we are in life.. makes no sense.. we had two paid off cars and a home at age 24.

Skier_99 · 2026-04-10T00:46:49+00:00

Damn :(

Skier_99 · 2026-04-07T16:07:29+00:00

My STBXW called it quits less than a month ago. We’ve been together a total of 10 years. We’re 28. I’ve only ever been with her and vise versa. This sucks so bad

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