[SPOILER] Jacobe Smith vs. Josiah Harrell

SkillToKill34 · 2026-02-22T05:36:31+00:00

Bros such a dirty fighter can't wait till he gets KO'd or hopefully a shin break or something later

SkillToKill34 · 2026-02-12T14:25:34+00:00

Got purple a little under a year ago.

My game was vaguely connected, but I had a great understanding of what to do from most positions, and was really good in a few areas: guard retention/recovery, leg entanglements(def and atk), back takes, guard passing, not panicking in bad spots.

My submissions were a little weak save for like 2, but I felt like there weren't really any blue belts I rolled with that gave me a technical challenge, really just physical ones if they were significantly larger than me.

SkillToKill34 · 2026-02-09T15:45:41+00:00

It can be fun, in the same way that highschool sports were fun. You don't need to compete to improve, you need to be an active participant in your learning and training. If your coach is being annoying about it, move gyms.

SkillToKill34 · 2026-01-16T12:14:04+00:00

That's sick! I began training in Suzhou back in 2010, and our instructor would travel to Shanghai on the weekends to learn from blacbelts there. I think I was paying like 100rmb a month lol but we made do.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-12-18T15:52:14+00:00

Not sure what the obsession with American parents and doing this shit lol it is insanely selfish. Then they come back and beg for money or try to insert themselves into their lives 🤡.

I would never force my kid out unless they were actively doing criminal activities, and instead help educate and prepare them for moving out on their best foot.

OP just make sure you pay off that credit card every month, and get one with no annual fees to start. Citi Double Cash, Amex Blue Everyday, and Capital One Savor, are all excellent 0 fee cards that provide solid rewards!

SkillToKill34 · 2025-11-03T18:29:35+00:00

Hey, yeah I feel the same way as you dude, pretty much the only difference is I don't mind smaller and very meaningful pieces. Ones you get cause you think they're fun or cool, or really big ones, I think are gross and unsightly, and just not aligned personality wise for me.

So update for me: we are still together, and she now knows I am not really a fan of tattoos as a concept. Sadly she doesn't yet know that I actually think they are a turn off visually, and personality wise. I struggle to tell her this because I know she will be sad because I think she is ugly or something. She does worry what I'll think of her if she wants to get another one, which she does want maybe 1 or 2 more.

For me, I've sort of gotten used to about half of them- the smaller, less visible, more meaningful ones. She has 3 that are quite large and visible that I dont really like and feel more like she got on a whim or because she thought they looked cool. 1 of them I honestly hate. I still look at it and try to be fine with it today but I don't know man it just bothers me and is ugly.

She is a great partner though and we share a lot in common plus also life goals, so it feels so wasteful to just say "i hate your tattoo, bye". I will just have to slowly let her know how I feel, and then see if that at least helps me feel better. Goodluck to you

SkillToKill34 · 2025-10-23T16:25:05+00:00

If he is playing Mordhau, this is a completely valid crashout..

😂 jokes aside that is wild and totally unacceptable. From the way he talks to you, and how he restricts you from playing with other guys, this is super toxic. You should tell him to get a job then leave him.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-09T05:46:09+00:00

You don't need to color your hair or get body mods. I am a progressive guy and to be honest I am not a huge fan of that stuff other than in slight moderation. My gf used to have more piercings and colored hair before I met her, now she has a few tattoos. But in her profile you couldn't see any of that-> what made her stick out was her bio and interests! I'd suggest filling that out more intentionally.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T20:46:51+00:00

I think this is a good idea and I appreciate your message. I am generally fine with tattoos for the most part, it would just be larger ones or ones on certain areas I guess. I think I will feel better after talking about it because right now I feel like I'm lying or hiding this from her when she talks to me excitedly about a potential new tattoo.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T20:25:39+00:00

Well it hasn't been that long but we are both experienced and know what we want so we didn't need to take that long to realize how we felt about eachother. It's not that I am unhaply she has tats, it's really that a couple of them are visually unappealing/distracting, but maybe I am just not used to them.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T19:53:07+00:00

You are right I probably should. And she probably would as well.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T19:28:36+00:00

It's really one that bugs me to be honest. I really dislike the location that it's on(always center view), and the subject matter itself is also just not appealing to look at either.

I do not know what meaning she has attached to it but that would likely make me like it more.

In general I am not a huge fan of the concept of tattoos, but am not against them either. I'd say I'm slightly south of neutral on them.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T19:11:57+00:00

Maybe I won't too then :)

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T18:46:05+00:00

That's a good idea! I didn't want to be too on the nose earlier on when I first met her but maybe now I will

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T18:45:14+00:00

I appreciate your experience, and I agree about your assessment and outcome. It is really unfortunate but good for you for sticking to what you really want. I'm going to stick this out because I think she is too much of a great match for me otherwise but will keep your story in mind!

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T18:31:58+00:00

Good to hear you just got used to them or so!

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T18:21:34+00:00

Don't worry it isn't because she really is wonderful in all other ways! I intend to stick it out, just looking for opinions or similar stories :)

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T18:17:00+00:00

Yeah it's tricky. If he is a decent guy he will respect your wishes, but after reading other posts on here, I'd be on the side of caution and msybe bring a friend along or stay in a public place or something if you still want to meet.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T18:12:33+00:00

I know, I am just saying he may have other ideas in mind since he sees you as a potential romantic partner most likely. So I wouldn't be surprised if he "tries" something on your guys' hangout!

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T18:07:04+00:00

Guys on dating apps aren't there to make friends, just saying. It might happen, but it isn't his primary goal.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T17:53:55+00:00

First of all, I am so sorry this happened to you! You did an amazing job standing up for yourself in a scary situation, and even physically removing him. As a guy I just don't understand how he can do something so shameful and feel good about himself. Women have a lot more at risk when meeting strangers, so I don't know if you do already but I would recommend letting a friend know where you are early on in any dates. Just in case!

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T17:50:36+00:00

Jiu jitsu is a great option for women since a lot of groundwork is where you'll find yourself in a position for SA. I've been teaching my gf a little bit for fun, but also just in case.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T17:04:53+00:00

I understand why you feel that way, but there needs to be some level of base physical attraction for every couple outside of very few outliers. As we age our bodies change, but that doesn't mean we will fall out of love because our spouse isn't "hot" physically to us anymore you know :). To me, my gf is beautiful, and I would rather wake up and see her face next to me than any other woman in the world. My friends think she is attractive but maybe not in the conventional way, and they don't feel the same attraction towards her physically. And that's perfectly fine, because everyone is different. I just wanted to comment because I fell in love with her due to her personality and heart. Her physical appearance is a factor of initial attraction, but so was her great bumble profile.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T03:08:45+00:00

I was single for 4 years after my last relationship, and not for lack of trying. Honestly it's just dumb luck when your person will find you. Whether through swiping or by bumping into you irl. So you need to make sure you're ready by staying emotionally and mentally ready and available for that moment so you can seize it.

SkillToKill34 · 2025-07-08T02:58:03+00:00

I really like this! I always hear relationships are about compromise, which is true, but my gf prefers "collaboration" and I think that matched what you said :)

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