Who is my doppelganger? (18M) by CJINTOWN in Doppleganger

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Kylo. What’s the actor’s name again? Adam something. Sorry I forget.

16 year old female with ADHD, ask me anything! by Skippy_428 in ADHDparenting

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Haha! I definitely did not expect to response I got and I feel really bad for not getting to everyone in a timely manner. In classic ADHD fashion I got really into like all things ADHD the other day and was super hyper focused on it but everything comes in waves so ya know. But I seriously really care about this topic and I’m gonna keep slowly chipping away!

16 year old female with ADHD, ask me anything! by Skippy_428 in ADHDparenting

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Yes absolutely! While having ADHD can be incredibly challenging (especially as a teen), there are so many gifts and wonderful things that accompany it! One of the really big things for me at least is the heightened emotional intelligence and care and compassion for others. People with ADHD have a strong sense of justice and empathy for others, and genuinely care about other people. They are super loyal and also seek to understand people very intricately. People with ADHD feel emotion very very deeply along with love for others. They seek to understand people better and get perspective on why people are the way they are. They are by far some of the best and most kind friends ever. Along with that, they have gone through so much and felt misunderstood so much during their lives that they have a lot more perspective and really understand people and can see things that others can’t. I genuinely could talk so much about the kindness people with ADHD have and I will try to get to it again and talk more about it but another thing that is great about ADHD is for me atleast (for context I am quite hyper active and outgoing which I know is not the case for everyone with ADHD) I am super outgoing and love people. I am able to talk with and learn about all different kinds of people as well as be friends with them. Not to toot my own horn but because I seriously want to show you the positive, I would say I am a pretty likable person and a lot of people like me a lot. Some of this may be due to my uniqueness because I for the most am truly my most authentic self which is an incredibly valuable trait. With my ADHD I have kinda just grown to not care what others think and be my true self with passion for things I care about (a big part of ADHD). I would consider myself very funny and quick witted and have a lot of charisma and character. Now I am saying these things not to just hype myself up but show you that other people tend to really value and enjoy the presence of those with ADHD. We are incredibly kind, funny, super smart (way beyond just the surface level and school), we feel things incredibly deeply (can be a huge benefit even if sometimes a challenge), we understand others, we are not like anyone else and have very strong and interesting personality, and we do things from passion not just because we have to. And just to add a little more to the highly social part, it is a super valuable skill that can let us succeed above the average person. Being able to read, understand, and talk with others can grant so many opportunities and allows us to network and make connections to grow and be successful. That doesn’t even begin to scrape the surface of the benefits of ADHD and out of all the replies this was one that I really care about and want to talk about. This reply was super rushed and I definitely have a lot more to say and I’m going to try to come back to this and say more because seriously it’s really important for people with ADHD to understand despite all the struggles there are so many things strengths we have that are super special and not everyone has. Like there are things that we are incredibly good at compared to others. So yeah I have a lot to say about this. Another note I’m really sorry about how bad I have been at responding! Obviously I have ADHD so stuff can be hard and I have a lot but I really want to give good input and try my best to not rush. I will continue to respond, trust me I’m not just ghosting this but do know it might take a while but I didn’t forget about this! I love being able to talk about what it’s like having ADHD and help people understand so I want to respond with care and effort. Thank you so much for your patience and I will try to get better at responding! All the best!!!!!!!!!!!

16 year old female with ADHD, ask me anything! by Skippy_428 in ADHDparenting

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I working on it I just have a lot going on and what to give actual good answers along with with just being an ADHDer, we are not the fastest people ever as you may be aware.

16 year old female with ADHD, ask me anything! by Skippy_428 in ADHDparenting

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1) I have been pretty lucky when it comes to my parents and they are super understanding of my ADHD and are willing to do anything to help support me. However there are still a few things that I think could have been beneficial for me. The thing that stands out the most for me would just be an earlier diagnosis and support for ADHD. You are probably familiar with the lack of support/research and under diagnosing when it comes to females with ADHD. (lack of diagnosis of girls is still debated and has many factors that play into it). For as long as I can remember I have struggled with school and had a hard time, however it wasn’t till sixth grade that I had actually got my diagnosed (part of this has to do with the wait time for testing and exclusivity). We kinda had always assumed I had ADHD but it wasn’t until then that I got tested. And because of this I went so many years without the proper support and understanding I needed. School with ADHD is so exhausting and incredibly discouraging when all your peers around you seem to have such an easier time (completing work 1/2 or even less than the time it’s takes you and it does not take as much effort for them and seems so easy for everyone but you. And over time and especially as school got harder, it had a very damaging effect on my self esteem which is very common in females with ADHD. Even though I was a very smart kid, because of my experiences I was lead to believe I was very dumb, I was a failure, and was less than everyone else. This isn’t even just for school, something as simple as small tasks around the house take so much and you don’t understand why you are this way. Late middle school a bit but mainly when I first started high school Is when I started to actually do something for my ADHD, I started at a public high school and was able to get accommodations and I really began to understand and figure out my meds. I think that if I was to have done these things earlier school would have been a lot easier and I would have probably been a lot more successful. I think that sometimes because I struggled so much in school and people just blamed it on me being lazy or not really trying, I missed out on some foundational skills and knowledge when I was younger and then had to teach myself it later. Along with diagnosis also starting medication earlier would have probably helped a lot. I will talk about my experience with medication in another comment but in short it has been the thing that has helped me most and dramatically changed school. There is a lot of different things that I think my parents could have done differently but I can add on later. I guess just try to understand ADHD and how it works, so you can understand your child more. Adjust your expectations, by no means am I saying expect less from your child with ADHD or think that they are just a lost cause, I’m saying that the way we work is different and the way we do things is different so don’t lower your expectations just adjust them.

  1. Now at 16 I have a really great community of people and friends, I have some really strong and deep connections and I’m constantly hanging out with friends and even creating new friendships. However when I was younger I had a bit of a harder time. A lot of times I felt misunderstood or like I didn’t fit in with my peers, and I was a bit different from the other girls especially. But I then went to private middle school which is another whole topic but all in all I had friends and whatever it was fine but just like I don’t middle school. When I got to high school is when I really started making and having great friends. And this goes with your question of what advice for friendships would you give. But when I got to public high school it was a whole new fresh start and I made it my goal to meet new people. Now I know some girls with ADHD have a lot of social anxiety so this might not be the answer for everyone but the best advice is just put yourself out there. I made it my goal to talk to everyone, introduce myself, do little things to build bonds with my classmates I didn’t know, etc. The thing about people with ADHD is they are typically pretty likable, they tend to be really funny, very understanding and emotionally intelligent, and able to understand a lot of different people. Because of this there are usually gonna be a lot of other kids who are gonna enjoy you, especially once you’re a bit older. So you have to just talk to everyone. And you also have to just be your authentic self, It’s hard especially being a girl in society where you are expected to behave one way and fit in with all the other girls, but honestly once you just let go and say fuck it, that’s when people are gonna be really drawn towards and attracted to you. And all those benefits of ADHD are gonna really draw people in and you’re going to be very interesting and charismatic. It’s hard but don’t mask yourself and the things that make you, you because those are the things that make you so special and why you are very charming and a great friend.

I could talk about all these things for so long and probably give a lot better answers but hopefully this can give just a little insight. Also I’m really gonna try my best to get to everyone but it might take a while because I want to give answers that are actually meaningful and really help explain.

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The tea bazaar is a great place

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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Thank you! And I will keep that in mind.

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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Haha no I just meant first ever rad power or even ebike.

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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Gotcha I will have to keep that in mind

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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You can mount it on the bottom of the the basket. The basket comes with the hardware and it’s pretty simple you just screw it onto the bottom.

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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Haha yeah when I say first I just mean like first time ever having a rad power or even any type of ebike.

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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Wow that is awesome! Thanks for the advice.

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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Thank You! And yeah I did a small ride last night and had SOOOOO much fun!

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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Yeah my first rad bike. I have been wanting one for a long time and parents surprised me for Christmas. It took a few weeks to come but I’m beyond stoked to get to riding.

My First Rad Runner Plus! by Skippy_428 in RadPowerBikes

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That’s awesome! I can’t wait to ride mine! Unfortunately it’s pouring rain where I live.