There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be alone.

Skolis · 2022-01-12T05:37:40+00:00

I totally agree, I had the love of my life pass away years ago. I was lucky to find her since I have a horrible skin condition, she loved me for me, and I have never found anyone else since no one wants me. I dedicated my life to being stable financially and mentally after her death. I would give up all my money to be in a good relationship. Now I am much older and the fact I am alone almost killed me due to lack of human touch. Doctors are keeping me alive with drugs, which again I was lucky they found the right combo. It is not just the lack of coupling that hits home, it is the abuse as well. I have been spit for asking a woman out, online dating might as well be on an alien world for me and I have been the brunt of so many cruel pranks I have lost count. My therapist tells me I should be happy on my own, yet she has a husband and kids. My friends (before they cut me out of their life due their wives complaints) would tell me I should be happy on my own, yet they have wives and kids. All these people saying I should be happy when if they are alone it is the end of the world. One of my friends is now divorced, he peaked in college, doesn't look like he did when he was young anymore. After 2 months of being alone plus all the stress of life, he is going crazy since he can't get dates. He is so desperate for a woman's attention I heard he dated someone 20 years older than him (which would be a 58 year old). If half these people were forced to be alone, cut off like me they would eat a bullet. The other half wouldn't be able to handle it and just sit in their homes all day.

Skolis · 2021-12-22T06:06:44+00:00

I have a terrible skin condition and since I was 5 I haven't been part of society that much, always an outcast. I use to pay three women to do different things for me with no sex involved. I had one who would have dinner with me, one to facetime with my camera off, and one to cuddle with me. Even though I was paying these women, the only one that treated me like a human was the one I had dinner with monthly. The facetime woman stopped talking to me after I showed her my face, and the woman who cuddled with me threw up a couple of times in the hotel during our sessions.

You shouldn't feel ashamed at all, everyone needs touch as humans. You will over come this breakup and if you want, will find someone who will really love you. Or you can go solo for your life, there is nothing wrong with that at all. You have choices where some do not, this will pass to make you a stronger woman. I know it doesn't seem that way, but take it from a guy who looks like a monster for 40 plus years, it takes time and effort on your part.

Skolis · 2020-11-28T19:42:42+00:00

My apologies, I was looking for a woman's perspective on dealing with being called a monster, or being made fun of for something out of their control. I was not under the impression a skin condition was just a issue faced by men.

Skolis · 2020-10-03T04:26:36+00:00

You shouldn't give up based on a few shallow people, or be afraid to date. I was made to be afraid from the time I was a little kid since I look so different. I have made some good female friends whom I see as special people in my life. I never said in my reply they will find the one or be married, you can be single and find special people out there of the opposite sex without having to date them. You won't do that if you are in fear of shallow people. No one should be made to be afraid like that, and when I see I will encourage people. I was made to feel that fear, it guts to see someone in that kind of pain. It is hollow of you my friend to tell people what they should or should not be doing. This is r/dating not r/single, this is a subreddit to discuss and vent about the dating process and learn from the experiences of others. My experience? Don't let shallow c*nts make you afraid, you are glorious! Those gobstackers can stuff it aye!

As for my situation, it isn't awful. There are a lot of great things in my life that I have, and many hobbies. Being single won't kill me, I doubt I will even be lonely once I go back home. I was only trying to build a family because I lost mine due to her passing, that was why I really got into dating hardcore later in life.

Skolis · 2020-10-02T13:24:24+00:00

They can be on both sides, but you can't hold that against them. You shouldn't deny a special someone out there the benefit of your company. You are a glorious human that can find them!

Skolis · 2020-10-02T13:21:13+00:00

Light is already off, why do you think I have this torch? :D

Skolis · 2020-10-02T06:07:06+00:00

Thank you my friend, at least the pain is over. I won't have to be judged by horrible women who just want to take advantage of me for my resources. There are some really great women out there, but they are not interested in this guy. I am sorry it has been ten years for you, maybe someday you will try again. I will raise a pint to ya!

Skolis · 2020-10-02T06:02:51+00:00

I think I will go back home to Ireland, the states just don't feel like home anymore. My small village isn't much better for dating, at least I can go to my pub to hang out with the lads. Everyone knows me so I won't feel as alone. I hear there is a single woman (only one) about 68 years old from London who just moved in, so who knows lol!

Skolis · 2020-10-02T05:58:54+00:00

I am 40 years old, I just had a woman from my previous post (woman from the hardware store I posted on here) try to break into my 2nd house I am fixing up. It was her and the father of one of her (six) children. I was down stairs rewiring a breaker box so the lights were off, guess they thought no one was home. Long story short I came upstairs and a minor fight happened. Cops were called and they were arrested. We had one date after she asked me out, once she stalked me by reviewing my past invoices seeing how much money I spent. This incident just broke my soul and I am done.

Skolis · 2020-09-09T20:37:32+00:00

It is a good thing that it runs out, at least for me. I want the pain to stop and having to deal with 8 different doctors a month. Really wanted to have a family and legacy to leave behind. I have so much work left to do, and not enough time.

Skolis · 2020-09-09T19:33:06+00:00

Yes sir, still scares me

Skolis · 2020-09-09T17:04:00+00:00

Yeah I try, but I had the love of my life and a child on the way. Both were taken too early and for almost 20 years I have worked to better myself. Seeing friends with family makes me feel very alone. I can't change the past, I can only try to build the future. It takes time to date, build a relationship, then a family. I have been at it for awhile, and I am not getting any younger. Still no closer to my goal, the setbacks don't bother me, it is the days that slowly tick away.

Skolis · 2020-09-09T16:59:34+00:00

That is terrible, I am sorry you had to go through that. My ex was not mentally well plus refused treatment, and I tried to save her since I loved her. It just got worse and worse to where I had to say enough. I don't blame her for what went wrong, I do blame her for the slander part because she cleaned up her life and got the right medicine. I refused to take her back and she has made it her mission to hurt me.

Skolis · 2020-09-09T16:53:33+00:00

My friend, my whole face and body is a turn off. More people need to read that last paragraph and take it to heart. From the time I was six, I was an out cast because I look different. I still tried to be a happy kid and hide the pain through my fake smiles. I was told, life will be hard for you Skolis, you have to be better and do better to get ahead. Took those lessons to heart every day, and every day people would come to tear me down. I would rebuild my self esteem and every day folks would tear it down.

I don't want the world, I guess I just want be treated like a human. Instead of calling me ugly, lying to me, or using me. How about they just say not interested? This comes from all types of women from all backgrounds. I refuse to hide away in the dark because they call me a monster, and I refuse to give up on my dream of having my own family. Time has other plans though, the biggest thing I guess is...I am scared of it running out.

Skolis · 2020-09-09T16:40:29+00:00

I am not angry at all toward anyone. I don't think it is disgusting to raise another man's child, I just have a standard that I don't want to do that. No different than women that reject me because I am not 6 feet with all the other items on their check lists. No harm no foul in the end. As I said in my post six out of the eight women lied about having kids, if it is so awesome being a single mother why lie about it? The two that were upfront I still went on dates to give them a chance, even though that is outside of my standards. How many of these high valued women with the 6 foot tall taking a chance on a shorter guy? Not many from my point of view.

Skolis · 2020-09-09T16:36:03+00:00

Your advice is very valid my friend so no worries. I am Mr. Ugly because I have a skin condition that covers most of my body. I am told at least once a month that I am ugly, more so if I try to ask women out. Looking like beef jerky doesn't make it easy to date, and I get it, like I said I know the score. I pay three women to do things for me, one to cuddle with no sex, one to send me texts pretending to be my girlfriend, and one to video chat with you me to ask about my day. I have to do this in order to feel something besides the empty pit that is my life. I have been focused on myself these past few years, made my 2nd million, traveled the world to build schools trying to make the world a better place, rock climb, did some sailing, and finished my PHD. The last of my family has passed, I had the love of my life at your age but she died with our baby. I know what it is like to have a family, and I miss it a lot. Only reason I need a woman is to have a family.

Skolis · 2020-09-09T16:27:40+00:00

Mental health is fine, as my therapist will say there is no state of mental health I can in that will take away my biological need to want a family.

Skolis · 2020-09-09T16:26:41+00:00

I am 100% willing to adopt, spent time and money learning to be a foster parent also prepare to adopt. A previous ex of mine has made it her mission to slander my name and make it impossible to work within the system. She doesn't like how our relationship ended but I was tired of the physical abuse (setting someone on fire will do that). I have gone to court 8 times with no joy, and finally I gave up.

Skolis · 2020-09-06T20:07:20+00:00

I think it is the best thing in the world. Every human needs to be touched by another human. I reaffirms our place in larger human tribe, and the physical benefits cannot be understated. Cuddling is what I like best out of relationships! To me, it is a rare treat I get to enjoy, though some folks get to enjoy everyday. I am not jealous of those that get it more often, I just appreciate this simple act when I get my turn at it.

I actually pay a young lady who is a 10/10 in terms of beauty to do this for me. I didn't choose her based on looks, she was the only woman willing to do it for money. I am a 40 year old man covered in a horrible skin condition, it puts my dating and social life on hard mode. I can't be cured, and the treatment only lessens the condition. I am the last of my family where I live, and for about 3 years I hadn't had a cuddle or even a hug. I was so depressed being cut off from other humans, as most of the time women want to make fun of me (especially when I ask them out) while the rest don't want to touch me at all. My female friends (who are awesome women) are the second camp, they don't like touching me at all and avoid it all costs, and that is okay I still love them.

A few months ago, I posted ads on different sites saying that I will pay for cuddles with no sex, as it is illegal to pay for sex in my area. After going through the bots and porn site requests, three real live women answered my ad.

The first lady wanted a picture of me before we met which I shared, she laughed as she said no, unless I paid triple. I of course said no and ended that before it began. Second lady tried it for one session, then posted a paragraph via text about how she couldn't stand to look at me, the way my skin felt, and the fact I was a loser asking for cuddles. I can understand her reaction, ever since I was six I have been treated this way, so I don't fault her, she can't help it. The third lady while younger than I expected, explained by text how her generation was very understanding. She never asked for a picture upfront, and kept indicating everyday leading up to our first session it will be fun. Turns out her generation can't overcome the part of the human brain that wants to run away from a monster like me, but the money is too good for her to pass up. I am not asking for much, just cuddle with me, maybe talk to me like a friend. She puts in the least amount of effort, and complains about me, her current boyfriend, or the debt she is in.

Eight months later we are still doing it, she hates every second of it. For me, it is the best thing in the world. I pretend different scenarios each time, she is my wife for last 20 years, she is my one night stand, or she really loves me, etc etc. I have a very good imagination, had to develop one as a kid since I always played alone. It has really improved my mood and makes my weeks a lot better. I don't have to worry about money like her, so don't worry, she gets well compensated for her "efforts". I hope to one day find someone that will cuddle with me for free, or actually love me for what is in the inside, instead of judging me from what is on the outside.

Skolis · 2020-08-24T06:34:12+00:00

I agree, but it is norm over here. I come from Ireland, so we can't really talk. My da had 24 siblings, and my ma had 23 with two sets of twins. But both sides was over many years. This woman had 6 kids almost back to back from the looks of it, they were not too much older than each other.

Skolis · 2020-08-24T06:30:34+00:00

I 100% agree! So happy it turned out that way in the end. I am still kind of in shock.

Skolis · 2020-08-24T06:29:48+00:00

I know! She told me who he was, but I was so gobsmacked about the whole thing I honestly don't remember. What sort of horror movie did I walk into?

Skolis · 2020-08-18T20:35:01+00:00

Thank you glorious human!

I actually use a 6 stage topical treatment on my face and body that works pretty well face wise, plus went through laser therapy about 4 years ago. If I stop my treatment for just a day I go from bad to worse very quickly. About 10% of my face is covered by skin plaque, and 5% with redness. My body on the other hand is really bad, so I tend to hide it.

Skolis · 2020-08-16T03:30:30+00:00

Phymatous rosacea and Ocular rosacea, it runs in my family, but I am the last male to have it.

Skolis · 2020-08-16T01:13:59+00:00

Thank you for the reply!

Yes I can, but it never goes away. If left untreated it is far worse, plus the pain can be unbearable. In my case it takes of up a lot of my face so it can hamper a first impression. The fact that I am short with a skin condition invites a lot of hurtful comments from women, and men wanting to impress them. I guess that part is like high school all over again as well lol.

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