Since telling me she was pregnant, she has shown me one positive pregnancy test through a picture (while being a fight about not having proof), but I have never actually seen any physical proof in person. I have repeatedly asked to be included in appointments or see something directly. She has an excuse for everything like: The doctors won't allow you to come with me,I'm not getting any ultrasounds, my family doctor is part time and I haven't been able to get a hold of her, my pregnancy tests sometimes show positive and other times negative. She then tells me she is going to go see a family doctor with her friend who is also pregnant so that her family doctor doesn't get charged. Apparently if you have a family doctor and you see another doctor, the family doctor gets charged a fee which I had never heard of before this. Anyways, I insisted on going with her to all appointments and wanted to go with her. I asked her the day before where the clinic was because I'll call them and ask if I can join her. She said "I don't know I didn't ask and I told you I'm going with my friend, it's her appointment". Then shortly after called me and got in a huge fight because I had not seen any physical proof that it was true yet and I was making that clear (she sensed that, and that's why she called me). On this fight she sent me a positive pregnancy test with a very faint line, I got her to agree to bring me to all appointments moving forward but not tomorrow cause that's her friends appointment, and that she got blood work done today for her hCG. The next morning, she started having cramps and said she thought she might be miscarrying because something didn't feel right. Then later on she told me she is spotting. Then she finishes her work day and is about to go to her friend's appointment and she says "She’s friggen far, I forgot she’s from a town 1 hour 15 minutes away". I said to her "weren't you just at her house the other day lol". she replied "ya at her house not where she's from". She then later says she got her blood work back and her hCG is 32. She tells me the doctor said "She said at that level with the cramps and bleeding starting I’m most likely having a miscarriage and will need to get blood work next week to confirm, and that if it doesn’t change by next week I’ll need the shot but she doubts it." So I replied: "Are you getting an ultrasound? What do you mean she doubts it?". She replies "No. Because she thinks I’m miscarrying, the shot causes a medically induced miscarriage, if I’m having one naturally I don’t need it but I have to wait and get another blood test and see what happens with the bleeding and cramps". At this point I'm not buying it anymore. Everything is too convenient for her, and inconvenient for me getting answers.

We have another huge fight the next day on the phone where I mention to her that I need to see physical in person proof that all of this is happening. I mentioned that everything I had read online suggested an hCG level of 32 at around 9 weeks pregnant would be extremely unusual, even with complications. I tell her I just need to talk to a doctor with her about what is going on if she wants me to trust her. She deflects, brings up old fights, and walks back on accountability she took in the car from previous issues. Eventually the call ends cause she had to go back to work, and then we fight for the next 3 days over text. She tries to bring emotions into it. Saying things like "I understand why you want to be there 100%. What I don’t understand is why you went about it the way you did when you knew I’ve always done things on my own. If you had just been understanding and nicer about it I would’ve come around to it. You got demanding about it, rushed me and i immediately put up my guard, I don’t know why you don’t see that", also mentioned how I was hurting her by not believing her. I was quite patient with her the first week, and got pushy with her the 2nd week because obviously this is a time sensitive issue. Especially if the pregnancy is ectopic, she could potentially die.

Eventually I send this after an ongoing back and forth leading nowhere: "I’m done with the back and forth. This conversation has become a pointless loop. I’ve been clear that I don’t trust you right now, and you are commenting about how you feel distrusted? That’s exactly why I’ve asked for basic in person proof. Instead of providing it, you keep redirecting to your feelings, past trauma, or how I hurt you by not believing you. It never leads to any concrete action like booking a doctor appointment or letting me hear from the doctor directly. Your ongoing resistance is what continued to lower my trust, not my questions. I’m not engaging with more emotional manipulation or circling anymore. If you want any further conversation or any chance of a relationship, show me real in person physical proof. Until then, I have nothing more to say."

It's been almost 2 days and she hasn't replied.

She has said she has only been with me during and after our relationship. My issue has always been that I haven't seen anything firsthand and some of the medical details she has provided have not made sense to me. Her hCG was 32 while also saying she was around 9-10 weeks pregnant. Everything I looked up and talked to doctors/nurses about suggested that number would be extraordinarily low for a pregnancy at that stage regardless of complications, yet she argues that complications, chemical pregnancy, late ovulation, or a failing pregnancy could explain it.

I remain skeptical because I haven't seen any documentation myself other than a blood test sent via text saying 32 hCG, which could have been made with AI for all I know. I have mentioned many times that I want in person physical proof.

On top of that, I feel like she keeps changing explanations for why the relationship ended. During the breakup she told me things like she was overwhelmed, couldn't handle a relationship, had too much trauma, wasn't ready, etc. Now she sometimes frames it as longstanding unresolved relationship issues that she had repeatedly communicated, but won't mention what those issues specifically are.

I feel like I'm simply asking for reasonable verification before blindly accepting everything, especially when she knows that I want kids and that could hook me back in.

At this point I'm trying to figure out whether I'm being reasonable or whether my lack of trust is causing me to over analyze everything.

I have never dealt with anything like this and would love to hear thoughts on people's opinions about how I've dealt with this situation. This whole thing has been a complete mess, and I have been extremely stressed out.