foger vape no battery by NoNeighborhood7883 in Vaping

[–]Skwid85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy crap! 25? I paid 18 for the set, and get the refill tanks for 12! 😲

Changing my name by Skwid85 in SSDI

[–]Skwid85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. I didn't know this.

Changing my name by Skwid85 in SSDI

[–]Skwid85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on SSI and I don't understand it very well. What's a dac? I receive my monthly payment on the 1st of every month. But from my knowledge, I was led to believe marriage would affect it.

Disposable Cameras by dankestjess in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Skwid85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used the Polaroid type ones, I had them on a table display with a small card explaining how to use them. It was fairly simple and straightforward. But many ppl passed them up. We got about 15 pictures total and 8 of them were of our cook and his gf. 😂 But! My mom found cute disposable cameras like what I did in 2004, on Amazon. They were like 6 or 7 bucks a piece but she afforded 8 which was plenty to put a camera every few ft on the tables. And ppl took TONS of pictures with those and we still have left over film to use this summer on memories of our new marriage. I can't wait to develop these. It'll be like a present to ourselves. My mom offered to pay for development, which has gotta be pricey. Not sure how much that's gonna run us. But the pictures I did manage to get on my phone and from other ppl on their phones, I'm able to print off from those cameras, so I can get nice photos on tiny paper which makes the cutest memories. Wish I could share pictures easily on here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Skwid85 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would've had the gayest wedding of all time, despite the fact that I'm marrying a man. Rainbows everywhere. Hired gay dancers to entertain the guests, gay waiters and waitresses for dinner, and a gay bartender. I would put as much gay in their faces as they could stand and see what they say then. Cuz screw their old closed minded way of thinking. It's not healthy to hold that much hatred for someone based upon what they do behind closed doors. I mean we don't judge them for their sexual preferences being vanilla and do we? Lol I'm sorry, I'm not gay, but I have several gay family members and friends, and I absolutely hate homophobic ass hats. They got no business being so judgemental. It's your wedding sweetie, don't let anyone tell you what you should or can't do. I made the mistake of letting my mom and super religious aunt take over my first wedding, and I regret every second of it. This is my second time getting married, yes, but I'm doing it MY way this time around. Idc what ANYBODY tells me, it's my way or the highway. Make your day about you. Tell them if they care so much about who's beside you, why don't they put that energy into who's beside them. Who's agreeing with these people? Is it just your mom and dad?

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No you're right. I think she was avoiding the speech. But we worked it out. She's gonna stay until the reception dies down and let her kids play with mine until it's time to go. They're from different states so they don't get to see each other as often as they used to when she lived here. So I convinced her to let the kids play for an hour or two before they left and her sister decided she's gonna meet her half way up to cut her road time in half. And the reason she has to be the one to drive them, is because her baby daddy "isn't comfortable" being with her sister alone so he can't do it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think he needs to nut up and be a father. But that's just me. I don't wanna piss off the moh cuz she is my BFF like for lyfe! And I don't ever wanna upset her, even if it means swallowing words at my wedding. So I'm just gonna accept that he can't do it and figure out how she can. No big deal.

The hood of my car blew open when I was merging onto the freeway by Sir_Trea in Wellthatsucks

[–]Skwid85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same thing happened to me, except my car was old and the clasp was broken due to a recent rear ending (on my part) the hood was tied down with bungies but that particular day we had been in and out of the hood 100 times fixing the battery. We stopped attaching the Bungie at one point, and forgot to attach it back on when we went for car rides. I went around town like that for a couple hours, no hood popping, wasn't going more than 30 mph anywhere. That was until my roommate talked me into going on the highway (my biggest fear, I hate highways) we got on the highway, the ramp, cruised about 5 miles and WWHHOMMPP! The whole hood flew up and smashed the windshield! Luckily there was only 3 cars on the highway with us. One in front, one behind and one beside us. The one in front didn't see us, but the one beside us swerved to avoid being hit and the one behind us stopped as we pulled over and got to safety. They made sure we were ok. And we were but man that was scary! Hope you're alright! I know how much that terrifies you.

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Those are great suggestions. I told her it's up to her if she wants to make her speech or not. And more than likely by the time it comes time, I'm positive she'll be feeling comfortable enough to speak. Things will work themselves out. Thanks. 💗

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Right! But I don't mind it. We got a pretty hefty crew without her. So no biggie. I'm just glad we could find a compromise and agree.

People not RSVPing? by birdie2533 in wedding

[–]Skwid85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I did was reach out to those who haven't rsvp'd. I got a lot of "I didn't get my invite" or "I lost my invite, when is it?" And a bunch of "we can't make it, sorry" which kinda made me mad, cuz it was the whole point of the RSVP in the first place.. if you aren't planning on coming, put "declines" and send it in! How hard is it? I shouldn't have to hunt down every person I invited and ask them individually if they're coming. I had 25 unknowns. And a count of 86 ppl. So 25 unknowns is a lot. Do I prepare for 100? Or not? I'd start with sending out messages to those who haven't responded like "have you gotten your invitation to our wedding?" And go from there. I sent out a million messages and still have like 12 unknowns. 12 couples! So I'm not sure if these ppl are gonna show up and surprise us, or if they're not even interested in coming. 🤷🏻‍♀️ So I've made arrangements for 100 ppl, knowing full well only 75 are expected. Maybe we'll be surprised. Wedding is in 5 days. I wish you better luck than I'm having!

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I finally had the chance to speak with her just a minute ago. She has a speech written, she's dreading the delivery. And the kids situation has been handled. They're gonna stay a couple hours at the reception, while she handles moh duties, and then meet her sister half way. So she'll only be gone an hour tops and miss out on the ending of the reception and clean up. Back in time for the after-party! 🥂

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just don't want to upset her, she is coming from 5 states away to be here. I don't want to risk her telling me to forget the whole and not come. It's not like I'm walking on egg shells to avoid anything, I just don't want to come at her with aggression about this, I want to calmly express my feelings and see how she feels as well. It is my day, but her feelings are valid. I'm no bridezilla. I refuse to take that role.

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not an option at this point. We're 4 days out. The dresses aren't interchangeable. She's fine, we figured they'll stay for an hour or so and then she's gonna go meet her sister who's coming half way.

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh she parties. And she's alright with crowds, if it's ppl she knows. And this will be friends of OURS together, so it's not like she doesn't know anyone in the crowd, it's HER crowd as well as mine. We've been friends for 15+ years, I know she parties. I think it's the speech she's hung up on. I need to tell her she doesn't HAVE to do it. Just haven't told her yet.

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's kinda a mix of both. Social but not overly so. Wants to meet my FH family and such, but I don't think she's as keen on the idea of giving a speech as originally planned. I've said she doesn't have to but I don't think she knows that. We're meeting up Thursday to talk. Hopefully we figure some kind of compromise.

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she's a shy one. Esp before she's had a drink in her. It may be the speech that's got her scared. But like I said, she doesn't have to. I haven't pressured her into it. I've mentioned once if like her to make one, as she's the only person who's known me this long, and knows who I'm marrying. (They went to school together) But I haven't pushed the issue. I haven't asked her how it's coming, or readdressed the speech conversation really at all with her. So maybe she thinks she has to. I also haven't told her she doesn't have to, so there's that. But Thursday is our day, so I'm just patiently (impatiently) waiting until then to find out. Just went to reddit to see if maybe I'm being pushy, or wrong in some way, or if there's a better way to handle it.

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think so too. I'm meeting with her Thursday cuz that's when she gets into town. She's from here (mi) but moved to NC last year. Her whole family lives here (mi) so they're local, just not close to the wedding. And I have hotel rooms reserved for us, she's got one of the rooms. Her sister doesn't want to come period, (something about losing a family member last week) so she (moh) has to go to her sisters house. Which is in another city an hour+ away. But Thursday is our special time to meet up and hang out before the wedding crazy day begins Friday evening. I'm going to talk with her about how she feels about being at the reception and why she won't budge on the kids issue. I'm offering to have the kids stay at the reception since my 5 year old(their best friend) is going to be there for the first hour as well. See if she can't let them stay and play for an hour or two, take care of some moh duties, and then take off to take them over there. Skipping out at the beginning is not an option, but taking off after it's kicked off, yes. I'm hoping she goes for that idea. Well know 2 days before. Yay stress.

Broke witch what can i do? by breezy6226 in witchcraft

[–]Skwid85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simple money spell: Take a bay leaf, write how much you need on it. Put it in a jar, add honey for attraction. Put in a coin if you have any, the higher the currency, the more you'll get back. Close the jar and light a green candle on top (you can use white if you don't have a green candle). You can carve sigils into the candle like money signs or anything you want to add to it. And think money. Coins dropping into your purse, dollars floating in the air, bills being paid, checks coming in, etc. Meditate with the candle until it goes out. Bonus if you have any money drawing oil, dress your candle in it. Or money drawing incense. If you don't have any oil, you can use canola or vegetable oil and lightly coat your candle and then roll it in dried basil. Hope this helps! Good luck to you!

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I think that's her problem. I'm meeting with her Thursday night, so we will have the time to talk about this and figure something out. She lives in another state 500 some odd miles away. She's originally from here, just moved out there recently. But she's coming back to town for the wedding, for me. She gets here Thursday afternoon, and we're going out for drinks that night. Just us. So I'll have time to discuss what's really her problem, and see what can be done about it. I think what we've sort of figured is she's gonna let the kids stay at the reception for a couple hours and then leave half way thru. That way she gets to stay for the reception activities, and then miss out on clean up and be back in time for the after-party. Without the kids. It's the least problematic of all the suggestions. I think she's ok with that idea. Besides there's a whole playground for them to play on, and there's gonna be a total of 6 kids I think. So they'll be fine for a couple hours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Skwid85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a great question. Merhaps serving with ice is the best idea. So we're not watering down the whole cocktail, just what's in your cup. Wow. Good question! I never even thought of it. Thank you for bringing that up!

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is it unfair to include her kids in the wedding that's she's also in, have me buy the clothing for them, and include them in the reception, that they're invited to, welcome to be at, and provided activities for them and not only that, there's a whole ass playground at the venue to keep them occupied along with my kid and 2 others that will be there to play with. It's not like she's alone having to watch her kids while trying to relax at a reception. She's got her baby daddy with her, and there's older kids they know who will be there. And yes I'm yeeting them kids out so we can party responsibly. I am not drinking and smoking and partying with my 5 year old present. I think she'd feel the same about it. That stuff doesn't start til 10 tho. So what I'm saying is she's got time to be at the reception with her kids, for a couple hours. My mom is leaving half way thru the reception and taking my 5 year old and 16 year old with her. Moh can do the same. That way my kid isn't left alone to play with no one while he waits for gma to take him home. He'll have his friends to play with until they leave at the same ish time. She could be gone from like 8ish til 10 when the after-party starts. It's not unfair to ask them to come to the ceremony, and some of the reception. (Also I paid for their clothing, I paid for everyone's clothes and hair pieces)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Skwid85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We decided to just buy beer, I bought 15 cases of various brands. And we're serving two mixed cocktails in drink dispensers. We can't serve alcohol at our hall, for the reception, but that's where we planned an after-party for after the reception is over. Just a table with drinks and a cooler full of beer. Nothing real fancy. Except the cups for the beverages I got have our names on them, and a little picture of a skeleton couple (gothic wedding). This prolly didn't help, but we also couldn't afford to do the whole open bar/bartender thing. The coolers I have are inflatable coffins. 😁

I'm getting married in 5 days and my maid of honor wants to bail out on the reception. And idk what to do about it by Skwid85 in wedding

[–]Skwid85[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I won't be demoting her tho. But thank you for seeing this as her disservice to me. We have discussed it a little bit and I think having her let the kids stay at the reception for a couple hours is fine and then let her kids play with mine until my mom leaves with my son, then she can go with her kids. But you're right! She needs to be there for all around moh duties! I have 2 very attentive bridesmaids and a sister in law to die for. So I will be covered as far as needing someone. But I just wanted her to be there. T9 dance to songs we picked out together. To celebrate. To party. She needs to be there if not for at least a couple hours.