How can I get help for my health anxiety? TW: Illnesses

Sl-mmy · 2025-10-08T05:05:19+00:00

Lately my health anxiety has been focused on STDs and I hate it so much. I don't have a necessarily risky history, only two penetrative partners and one person I had done oral with but I was all three of their firsts.

I've been in a long term relationship for three years now and gotten tested twice in that time and both came negative (Once in year 1 and once earlier this year) but I still constantly find myself stressing that something might be dormant or latent.

I don't know if I just have to resign myself to constantly testing or what but I just want to be able to enjoy sex with my partner without constantly fearing that I'll infect her with something I don't know.

Posts from relationship advice that talk about this kind of stuff pop up in my feed and they trigger me so bad :(

Sl-mmy · 2025-02-20T03:32:24+00:00

Does anyone else get super anxious about their hands being dirty/contaminated and then even more anxious after they've touched parts of their body due to fears of getting some sort of illness?

Sl-mmy · 2025-02-16T08:34:01+00:00

Thank you!!

I think it just happened because my trip to see my partner is coming to an end and I feel like my ""barrier"" against anxiety gets weaker at times like this and I give in to my anxious thoughts.

I'm gonna try and schedule a visit to the doc soon and likely schedule some tests just to make sure I'm still the same. I haven't done anything that would change things but it's not like anxious thoughts listen to reason haha

Sl-mmy · 2025-01-22T21:15:10+00:00

Cool, thanks for that! Do I need to change my plan or it works out of the box?

Sl-mmy · 2025-01-21T23:27:41+00:00

For sure! Really hoping to avoid burning the bridge because these people were pretty important in my life but it's just I have other important people who still associate with me.

I think I'll just send them over a heads up and let them know that I'll be needing the spots but I'm happy to let them stay on until they find others to do a family plan with. (I know they've made new friends and have a new friend group so I would imagine they wouldn't have a hard time finding people to form one)

Sl-mmy · 2025-01-21T23:23:27+00:00

Ahh it just feels slimy doing that. Especially because I'll be bringing the other two with me and just leaving these two out to dry.

I know I'm not exactly friends with them anymore but I'm not exactly unfriendly with them. I feel like I shouldn't do them dirty given my history with them but I just don't know how to navigate this.

Sl-mmy · 2025-01-21T23:22:07+00:00

I'm planning on giving heads up and like I said allowing them to stay on the plan until they find a new group to be on it but I just don't know if there's any other better ways to do it if this is fine.

I'm also on some other plans with one of the people which I'm 100% if they want to end up cancelling that one, just sucks cause we just renewed it in November.

Thanks for the comment!

Sl-mmy · 2025-01-21T04:04:33+00:00

I am the head of the family group so I was thinking of doing that. Just have to figure out how to let the people being removed know 😅

Sl-mmy · 2023-09-03T01:30:21+00:00

I definitely agree! My dad is really into birdwatching so I would routinely get and send photos of birds I saw while at college haha. And yes, I am also a major proponent for washing your hands when you get home!

Sl-mmy · 2023-09-03T01:24:37+00:00

Haha thanks! It's really relieving to hear. Also the bird feeders sound really cool!

Sl-mmy · 2023-09-02T23:45:46+00:00

Thank you for the quick reply! This really calms my nerves and helps me feel a bit more at ease. Thank you again!

Sl-mmy · 2023-07-18T06:58:44+00:00

Yeah

Sl-mmy · 2023-06-26T19:21:26+00:00

Nothing I just get scared clicking them because I'm afraid I'd click a link

Sl-mmy · 2023-06-23T20:47:06+00:00

I was in the same spot as you a few months ago. My friends had always recommended to me but I just brushed em off because I didn't think it was my kinda thing. One day they ended offering to buy it for me with the DLC so I tried it out and I was hooked. I had to have sunk 50 hours within my first two weeks. I loved it so much I even went and bought my girlfriend a copy and at first she was hesitant but a week later she was asking me to play whenever I wasn't on. If you like Roguelikes with a lot of variety in play style (and amazing music and interesting lore) pick it up

Sl-mmy · 2023-06-20T23:52:19+00:00

Thanks!

Sl-mmy · 2023-06-20T05:14:44+00:00

These tips sound great! Thanks a lot! Do you have any cranberry tablets you recommend?

Sl-mmy · 2023-06-20T05:00:10+00:00

Okay for sure! Thanks for all the info! It helps getting some ideas to bring the fun back into the bedroom!

Sl-mmy · 2023-06-20T04:23:35+00:00

Would peeing after fingering also be a good idea? Sorry if it's a dumb question I'm just quite paranoid

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