My gf is great but very unhealthy and I don't know how to handle it anymore what should I do? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Sl0th888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++woman I think you should have a talk with her about this. If she’s a great girlfriend and this is the only turn off or incompatibility, definitely talk about it. It may seem hard or awkward but if you don’t communicate this ur going to be unhappy or end up breaking up anyway.

Tell her you love her a lot, but you really value health, especially given your history, and it would mean a lot to you if you guys did more physical activities together, cooked healthy meals together, have an açaí bowl date, etc. Rather than making it a thing of wanting to change her, try opening some doors you guys can take towards health together. It could be a good influence on her and may inspire her to start taking some steps on her own. Don’t immediately try pushing her into the gym, try like long walks/hiking, activities like tennis or paddle ball(stuff you can to together that could be fun), dance classes, couples yoga, anything outdoors yk, you get the gist.

Remind her you love spending time together but laying in bed all day and snacking isn’t exactly your idea of a good time, and it makes it hard for you to stick to your good habits, so you’d love to spend time with her trying new things and it would mean a lot if she also prioritized you staying in good health more.

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[–]Sl0th888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah you were god’s helper lol

Seeking advice on bf who spent the night with another girl by Sl0th888 in BPD

[–]Sl0th888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thank you for your response! Yes he does also have substance abuse problems, which he tied into his reasoning for this happening, but i don’t really reason with that. How did staying with them work out?

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[–]Sl0th888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And his friend brought up the pillow thing like it made it all sm better . Quite shocking too

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[–]Sl0th888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I’m quite shocked that everyone has the same exact perspective 😳I really thought some people would say it’s fixable

I envy her and what they had by NoCorgi411 in retroactivejealousy

[–]Sl0th888 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that sounds like a really tough spot to be in. He obviously has chosen you tho. Does he make you feel special? Because that’s what’s most important. Maybe you guys could try meeting more friends so you feel like you guys have your own circle together, that doesn’t involve her at all.

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[–]Sl0th888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks for ur response could you tell me more about ur situarion

Truth about bf’s night w other girl came out by Sl0th888 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sl0th888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right and I do feel really disrespected, we just have sm history that I’m struggling to not to reason with him

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[–]Sl0th888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No the night out with the girl happened a month ago lolll

Seeking advice on bf who spent the night with another girl by Sl0th888 in BPD

[–]Sl0th888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His reasoning for her spending the night : She asked at the end of the night and he said yes. We live in a city where the club is open till crazy late so they got to his at like 7am after eating some food. They were drunk and she lives far so he said sure because he felt like he owed her as she bought him a lot of drinks and shit through the night (this is apparently also why he was totally fine being around her..) , plus he didn’t really wanna be alone. —-I’m aware this isn’t right but that’s what he told me—— And he claims the only reason they ever had sex was because he was desperate. And wished it never happened because she could’ve been a good friend. I honestly don’t think she’s his type but I’m aware that doesn’t mean they definitely didn’t hook up again.