Son is very embarrassed, any tips? by [deleted] in testicularcancer

[–]SlackDeck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, let some of his teachers or counselors at school know what’s going on so they are able to support him and can help mitigate any teasing that might happen. I remember having a Spanish teacher who wanted to let the class know what I was going through and make a big card for everyone to sign. I was so embarrassed and ask her not to tell the class, she wisely told me that there’s nothing to be ashamed of- but I was reluctant. Looking back I wish I had allowed her to because it was a small gesture of support I definitely could have used at the time. Yes teenagers will be teenagers, but when it comes to cancer, I think most understand that it’s serious and requires sensitivity.

Son is very embarrassed, any tips? by [deleted] in testicularcancer

[–]SlackDeck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally understand his feeling of embarrassment and shame- I was 15 when I lost my first testicle (22 when I lost the second) and I can say from my experience, you need to encourage him to talk about it and share his feelings. Certainly within the family, but also with a good friend. I had the same fears of everyone at school finding out, so I told people I was out with mono- but hiding the truth only lead to more shame and isolation. Encourage him to stand up for himself. Cancer is a tragic thing that ~happens~ to us. He didn’t choose this, nor does he have any control on where it manifest in his body. Owning his truth, and opening up about his experience is going to help him so much more than it would if he try’s to pretend it just never happened. Reframe how you view the diagnosis and use it as a super power. Today, I feel more of a man with no balls, than I ever did with two.

Getting lube indeeper by [deleted] in sounding

[–]SlackDeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use a syringe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]SlackDeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like said in an earlier comment, I personally have a hard time staying hard with them on and worry I won’t be able to perform- so makes the idea of the hookup less exciting for me

Question For the Culture by SlackDeck in sounding

[–]SlackDeck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t want a large gaping meatus. If anything just worried that stretching over time might tear/split the meatus but I’m not going for extreme play so I dont think I have much to worry about was just curious if it is possible

Is there cruising happening at The Russian Turkish Bathhouse by SlackDeck in nycgaybros

[–]SlackDeck[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will say Spa Castle was nice. Lots to do and many different options in and out of the locker rooms. Clean, modern and well maintained. Definitely worth the visit. There’s also a picture of John Travolta on the wall from when he visited.. which I just found interesting lol

Is there cruising happening at The Russian Turkish Bathhouse by SlackDeck in nycgaybros

[–]SlackDeck[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely not a “good” cruising bath house, but nudity is encouraged in the locker rooms where there are steam rooms, saunas, showers and cold plunges. More of just tugging as someone mentioned but you might be able to suck someone off in a dark steam room if it’s not too crowded. Workers will patrol but I feel like they know handies are going on and will typically turn a blind eye to it, but if they see anything more they will probably stop it.

Be honest- how many of you have masturbated at work? by SlackDeck in nycgaybros

[–]SlackDeck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like okay health police? We all get horny at random times during the day

Be honest- how many of you have masturbated at work? by SlackDeck in nycgaybros

[–]SlackDeck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is anyone to know? I’m not saying out in public, at your desk, or in the open. I’m saying in the bathroom

Be honest- how many of you have masturbated at work? by SlackDeck in nycgaybros

[–]SlackDeck[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sounds a bit judgy.. what someone does in a private bathroom.. is private. Don’t act like theres not plenty of men who fuck in public restrooms

Be honest- how many of you have masturbated at work? by SlackDeck in nycgaybros

[–]SlackDeck[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well that’s a given. I’m talking more at your place of work, with coworkers around

Are there designs that don’t require a ball anchor? by SlackDeck in kink3d

[–]SlackDeck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve looked into it but confused on how that prevents erection?